Tisch
When I first started my home visit, to be honest, I didn't know what my parents' attitude was and what I should do to reflect the purpose of this home visit. Later, with the increase in the number of home visits, I gradually began to feel the significance of home visits. I called my parents many times and asked them to come to my home. At first, my parents were stunned, and then they were busy saying on the other end of the phone, ok, ok. When will you come? We will wait for you at home. Walking to the door, my parents poured tea and cut fruit, which embarrassed me. After I explained some matters and the requirements of parents' attention, they all said that the children would start school soon. I'm afraid I don't know what I should do. Now that you have come to our home as a guest, we have a bottom in our hearts and our children know you. Not bad, not bad. Your home visit has really brought us convenience. Through careful and comprehensive home visits, I deeply realize that home visits are one of the important ways for class teachers to coordinate family education, and they are also the routine work of class teachers.
First, clarify the purpose of home visits, send true feelings to parents and send warmth to students.
The purpose of home visits is to exchange information with parents, exchange opinions and jointly study the contents and methods of educating students. Family is the first school, and parents are the children's first teachers. Family has a vital influence on children's physical development, knowledge acquisition, ability training, moral cultivation and personality formation. Education guides students to contact their parents, so Qi Xin can get twice the result with half the effort and achieve the goal of education. Warm students' hearts with sincere love. Home visits let me into the hearts of students, communicated the feelings between teachers and students, and set sail for the work of class teachers.
Second, long-term home visits are good news to create a good environment for the transformation of underachievers.
American psychologist Charles rael said: Praise is like sunlight inspiring the human soul, without which it can't grow and blossom. The purpose of home visits is to care for, love, transform and educate students, instead of complaining to parents because teachers can't discipline them, because this is tantamount to giving parents a stick, and students will inevitably suffer from nagging when they go home. This will not only solve any problems, but also make students angry with the teacher and create obstacles for the class teacher's next work. If the object of my home visit is underachievers, it will help them in time, give them warmth and give their parents more good news. I use my time to look for the bright spots of double poor students. Talking about students' strengths and progress every time is well received by students and parents, which is conducive to achieving educational goals. All the poor students I contact have a common feature, that is, they eat soft rice instead of hard rice. I visit my home again and again, and I catch it again and again. Actively look for their bright spots, first influence parents, and then communicate and educate students, giving them confidence, hope and enthusiasm. Only in this way can their delicate flowers bloom in a warm environment full of sunshine all the time and bear rich fruits.
Third, exchange interview methods to add new meaning to home visits.
In a word, home visit is an indispensable way in the work of class teachers. I know that home visiting is a knowledge and an endless art, so I am willing to consult modestly and devote myself to pushing home visiting to a new stage from three feet away.
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Home visit is an indispensable bridge for schools and families to educate their children together. Through home visits, we can keep abreast of students' learning and living conditions and ideological dynamic roots, so that every student can patiently listen to some feedback and suggestions from parents and teachers on their own growth, which not only gains parents' understanding and support for the school and teachers, but also deepens the feelings of teachers, students and parents.
During this home visit, I deeply realized that as a teacher, we should actively guide parents and communicate more. Parents and teachers should learn from each other, trust each other and cooperate with each other to form a home-school education alliance. Then our education will be more successful.
One afternoon in August, I came to the home of student Xiao Liu. The parents of student Xiao Liu are very surprised and excited about our arrival. Parents, children and I sat in a circle. The father of the child asked me if my child was not doing well in school. I hope I can point it out bluntly and he will certainly cooperate with education. The reason why I chose to visit this child's home is not because of her poor academic performance at school, but because her interpersonal relationship in the class is not harmonious enough, and her classmates are unwilling to contact her. In my opinion, this child is particularly defensive and aggressive, like a hedgehog. But I have talked with her several times and found that this child is actually very timid and smart. What causes her to have two sides? Why does she always pretend to be very powerful in front of her classmates? With such questions, I decided to visit her family and find out the root of the child's personality.
Sitting in this child's house, I observed that the child's family was in poor economic conditions and was located in a remote bungalow area. In the communication with her parents, I learned that neither of them has a fixed job. When she was young, her father went out to work in order to support her family, while her relatives were relatively rich. At family gatherings, her father is often absent because her family is embarrassed and she is sensitive. She gradually learned to read and write. She always felt that her relatives looked down on their mother and daughter, so when she was nine years old, she had the idea that I should be strong and protect my mother. This idea is first embodied in language. Her mother said: she doesn't know when to start, and she always contradicts others. She got even angrier when I criticized her. Later, she began to play less with the children around her and study hard at home. Always said that we should repay our parents with good grades.
Hearing their stories, my heart was pumping tightly, so I felt sorry for the child. I touched her head unconsciously, and the child's eyes shone with tears. I asked her: Are you really happy that you have good grades and won't let others talk about you? You are a sensible child. Not only should you be sensible, but I also want you to be happy. Don't bear what parents should bear. I also told my classmates what they know about her. For example, her classmates said she was too sensitive. When chatting together, she will suddenly turn her face and feel that some words are aimed at her. I also told them about the relationship between IQ and EQ. I told her that only by letting children learn to be defenseless and face others with a tolerant attitude can they be recognized and accepted by others. How important a healthy mood is to a child's life. After my heart-to-heart communication with my children and parents, the child bowed his head if he realized something, indicating that he was trying to change himself. My hanging heart has finally been put down, and a child's life is about to change. I know: without this home visit, I can't find the crux; In the hearts of parents, she has always been such a clever and excellent perfect child, and the unhappy knot is always buried in this child's heart.
During the home visit, I also learned that many parents are busy with work and leave their children directly to the elderly. When children grow up and take them back, they want to learn and live according to their own requirements, and children often don't listen. This is actually caused by the lack of parental responsibility. As class teachers, we should not only point out this problem of parents, but also try our best to be a bridge between parents and children. There are also some parents who just nag about their children's bad tendencies, but they can't take or take measures, and the effect is not good. I also sounded the alarm for these parents, telling them that in the long run, their children will be in a position of ignoring or ignoring their parents' advice. In a word, the home visit allowed me to talk about my children's problems with my parents in a relaxed and harmonious atmosphere, and to discuss and discuss educational measures together, so that the students could be convinced and the parents would readily cooperate.
In a word, home visits have benefited me a lot, not only letting parents know about the students' performances and the requirements of the school, but also letting me know about the students' families and their performances in the family. If a teacher sees that a student's performance in school is only a plane, then he can see many aspects of the child through home visits. Only by looking at children in a three-dimensional way can we find the root of some shortcomings in children, prescribe the right medicine and urge them to correct as soon as possible. The close relationship between home and school is really a key to open the door to students' hearts!
Tisso
According to the arrangement of the school, the two-week (seventh and eighth weeks) home visit is coming to an end. Teacher Xu Jianchang, teacher Feng Pinpin and I made a home visit to 58 senior three (Grade 2) students from Huating (near Wei Liang, Zhu Wei and other places) by region. ) To backstreet, from small city to attached city, from Songgang to Hougang, visit students one by one, and shuttle through the streets of these places at 10 in the evening. Although I am tired sometimes, I like it very much. The main purpose of this home visit is to let parents know about the school, teachers and their children at school. I hope that on this basis, parents can recognize the school and teachers, and put forward good suggestions or opinions to make the school develop better. After home visits, we know that as long as parents feel that their children are cared for and cared for by teachers, teachers care about their children's actions. All teachers' actions focus on their children's sustainable development. Even if you don't have gorgeous words, parents will be interested in what teachers say and understand their efforts.
Home visits let me know more about students and their parents. Through this home visit, I deeply realized the hardships and simplicity of migrant workers. Most of them are migrant workers from Hunan. The purpose of leaving home to come here is to let children receive a better education and have a better future than at home. Get up early every day to work in the dark, fuck the old day and night, and rush about for life. They have no time to take care of their children, and their own cultural level is not high, so they have the hope of helping their children. Therefore, they put their hopes on schools and teachers. I feel that the burden of teaching and educating people is heavier, and I will try my best to do it well. Their simplicity and enthusiasm also deeply touched me. Most parents will treat us warmly with a smile when they see us. One of the parents cooked the first-class chicken early, waiting for our arrival, which really made me feel their enthusiasm and attention.
Through home visits, I also learned about my parents' worries and expectations. Because some parents are busy making a living, they seldom communicate face to face with our teachers. They have questions about the present situation and problems of school education. I can explain and explain my children's problems and some situations at school in time, so that parents can understand as much as possible and consciously convey more information to parents, so that parents can have a more comprehensive and correct understanding of the school, thus promoting the education of students and the development of the school. For example, Jiang, whose father rents a motorcycle, will come to school to pick up the children every noon. He just said hello when he met me, and never asked the teacher about the children's performance at school. Through this home visit, I learned that children have problems and parents' expectations are unrealistic. After communicating with parents, parents also adjusted their children's positioning to help them establish a correct one.
In addition to the above experience, I think home visits should pay attention to the art of communication, which is mainly reflected in the following aspects:
1. During regular home visits, students should try their best to have a tripartite dialogue with teachers, parents and students in an atmosphere of equality, mutual trust and relaxation, so that students can receive education. It can not only enhance the trust between teachers and students, eliminate unnecessary doubts, but also give students a chance to speak, which is conducive to eliminating negative factors and ensuring the accuracy of opinions and the practicality of educational measures.
2. Pay attention to communication methods. The main target of home visits is parents of students. Therefore, whether parents take an active and cooperative attitude towards teachers' home visits directly determines the effect of home visits. First of all, teachers should pay attention to the image of gfd during home visits, and strive to be simple and sincere in language and generous in manners. Eliminate parents' vigilance against teachers. At the beginning of the conversation, we should avoid going straight to the point. You can talk about some topics that parents are interested in first, guide parents to actively participate in the conversation, create a good conversation atmosphere, and strive to resonate with parents and gain their trust. Then, you can gradually introduce topics and introduce students to parents. At the same time, parents' professional characteristics, personal experience, economic situation, cultural quality, ideological accomplishment, personality and temper are different. As a teacher, we should analyze specific problems and what songs to sing. If the way of home visits is not changed, sometimes it will get twice the result with half the effort, or even backfire.
3. Encourage more praise and less criticism. Every child wants to be praised and encouraged by the teacher. Therefore, when a child has made progress or achieved certain achievements, the teacher should praise and congratulate him from the heart, and tell his parents through home visits to let the students feel their sense of accomplishment. Then, he will study harder and his thoughts will be more advanced. At the same time, parents will share their children's happiness and pay more attention to their children and schools. At the same time, criticism is also appropriate for students who have made mistakes. More targeted and measured, so as not to dampen students' self-esteem and produce rebellious psychology, which is counterproductive. This requires educators to be good at exploring every bright spot of students, look at problems from a developmental perspective, fully mobilize students' positive factors, correctly understand their own problems, and promote students' healthy development.
4. Comprehensive evaluation of students. The worst students also have good aspects. Therefore, teachers should fully understand students and comprehensively evaluate them. They shouldn't just grasp one or two questions and draw conclusions. In particular, we can't simply blame students for mistakes, or even take the opportunity to complain and pass the buck. We should listen to their opinions more, reach a consensus with them, and avoid sticking to their own words and blaming each other.
5, more guidance and inspiration. Conversation is to make both sides fully understand and solve problems in a harmonious atmosphere through cordial conversation. Therefore, teachers should give correct guidance, let students correctly understand Eid al-Adha, and inspire them to express their thoughts. On the basis of respecting the facts, we should effectively solve the problems among students.
Finally, it is important to urge students in time after home visits. Perhaps most teachers turn a blind eye to students after home visits, thinking that coming back from home visits means completing a task. This is not right. It can be said that the effect of this kind of home visit on students will not be ideal. Because home visits will inevitably shake students' psychology to varying degrees, students' psychology is facing positive thoughts and negative factors, and external forces are urgently needed to purify and improve their thoughts. In order to consolidate the effect of home visits, teachers can combine student supervision with teacher guidance, supplemented by examples and positive incentives, and give a fair evaluation of students' behavior. Learn about students' ideological trends in time in the form of heart-to-heart talks to prevent students from making mistakes.
In short, home visits can narrow the psychological distance between teachers, students and parents, and help to exchange views and reach a consensus. Therefore, we should conscientiously do every home visit and work hard for the children's tomorrow!