Recently, I watched a movie called Spring in the Cowherd Class. In fact, this film tells a story that happened in the 1940s. At that time, it happened in a reform-through-labour school on the French border.

I don't know what your understanding of the word "cowherd class" is. Of course, this is not the same as what we usually understand as "Cowherd Class". The "Cowherd Class" here refers to a class composed of a group of problem children.

Most of the children in this class are abandoned or abandoned by their parents and society, because their behavior or some places may be different from normal children and may be difficult to manage compared with them.

When educating such children, as the students of this school, what we really should do is to educate these children with love and warmth.

But the fact is, the principal of this school has adopted a cruel and high-pressure management method and doesn't treat these children as human beings at all.

In the face of children's ignorance or some bad behaviors, the first thing that comes to mind is not a good education, but endless punishment and abuse.

Parents should know that the most taboo in educating their children is to scold them for no reason. Children are the purest creatures in the world and need to be cared for with love, not suppressed.

But fortunately, this group of children also ushered in their hope. At that time, a retired musician, Clementine Matthew, came to this school to teach and make a living. His personality and upbringing are completely different from those of the principal of the school.

He adopted the educational concept of "spring breeze and rain" to explore children's musical talent, and also formed a choir, hoping to use music to influence children's hearts and make them make some changes and be accepted by this society.

In fact, although this film tells the story of children's different education methods at school, it can also map out how parents should educate their children effectively and correctly at home.

Although this film has been filmed for 10 years, the educational ideas and methods contained in it are still of great reference significance to parents today.

So, today, we will discuss with you what inspiration we can get from Spring in Cowboy Class and how to use these inspirations to help children.

I believe that when parents educate their children at home, there may be some conflicts in educational concepts.

For example, mom thinks this way is suitable, and dad disagrees with mom and thinks another way is more suitable. So in the face of such educational conflicts, how should parents choose correctly? How to judge which method is really helpful to children?

In fact, for the children in Niulang class, they are also faced with two different educational conflicts. One is from the principal, who uses violence and pressure to discipline them.

The other is the gentle and attractive education method adopted by the new teacher Matthew, which is different in essence.

So, as parents, which way should we choose when facing these two ways?

What is the way of violent pressure?

In fact, it can be seen from the literal meaning that the way of violent pressure refers to, for example, when a child makes some mistakes or has some bad behaviors, as a parent, he begins to scold, beat and sometimes even physically punish the child.

Generally speaking, parents who adopt this educational method respect the educational concept of "no fight, no acquaintance", but when adopting this educational method, have parents ever thought that it will really help their children? Won't it have any effect on children's psychology?

At this time, some parents will say that if you say good words to your child, the child will not appreciate it at all.

Therefore, under such circumstances, many parents can actually take some tough measures to let their children know where their mistakes are. Therefore, the use of violence and pressure in educational methods is not entirely undesirable, but it should not be overused. It should be adopted reasonably according to the actual situation.

The gentle and attractive education law is actually the opposite of the violent education law.

In the film "Spring in the Cowboy Class", Mr. Matthew adopted this way. In the face of children's mistakes and playfulness, he often educates children in a gentle, humorous and convincing way. When children have bad behavior, Mr. Matthew does not directly point out their mistakes, but tries to understand the reasons for their behavior.

In fact, this is also telling parents not to rush to let their children admit their mistakes, and they will be punished if they make mistakes.

But to know the truth behind it. Only in this way can children understand the root causes of their mistakes and take the initiative to admit and correct them.

The film "Spring in Cowboy Class" not only tells all aspects of different educators, but also tells the situation faced by different children.

In this film, there is a talented musical teenager. He was born with a talent for music, so he learns everything quickly. But not everyone is a genius, there are such teenagers. On the contrary, his label is stubborn and retarded. This person is Meng Dan, who belongs to the kind of person abandoned by his parents. On the first day when Meng Dan was sent to the bottom of the pond, his teacher said to the headmaster, "The child was born.

In fact, Meng Dan was set as an educational experiment from the beginning. Why come to this world, some people are discovered by others and become successful, while others are stubborn teenagers?

In fact, this has a lot to do with whether parents can give full play to their children's own values. Of course, when facing different types of children, the methods adopted are also different.

It can't be said that in the face of a child who is not so clever, it will only be counterproductive to educate him in a simple and profound way.

Here's how parents can realize their maximum value when facing different children.

(1) Facing "gifted" children.

What kind of education should parents choose in the face of gifted children? Parents should know that external evaluation has a great influence on a person. If a child is born smart, he will receive a lot of praise from the outside world, saying, "How can you be so smart?" You will be very successful in the future. "

Why is this kind of praise bad for children? Because they can't digest such evaluation, such evaluation will only make them proud, and it will make them decadent after a long time. Therefore, in the face of gifted children, parents may be relatively relaxed in knowledge education, but they should pay great attention to their psychological education.

It is precisely because they are geniuses that their hearts are more sensitive. Parents should also teach their children how to correctly digest other people's comments and let them know how to know themselves. Only by letting children know themselves correctly can they realize their greatest value.

(2) Facing stubborn "mentally retarded" children.

Faced with those stubborn children with low IQ, parents need to pay attention not to his knowledge education, but to his psychological education.

From this sentence, I believe parents can know that from the perspective of educational psychology, the external evaluation of each child is very important. Therefore, as parents, we must make our children feel normal and successful, and don't easily label their children with some bad labels.

Because these labels will have a subtle influence on their psychology, thus affecting their self-realization of their own values.

For today's society, knowledge education is not the best thing for parents, and many parents pay more attention to cultivating a child's sound personality.

Most of these children in Spring of the Cowboy Class were abandoned by their parents, or children whose parents had passed away, so they always had a certain shadow in their hearts.

However, every child must be educated at home, so how can parents help children with happy and harmonious families to establish a sound personality?

1) Pay attention to protecting children's self-confidence and self-worth.

For every child, self-confidence is absolutely the most important. As a parent, you should learn how to convince your children of your own worth and that you are welcome. This is the best way to make children confident.

So how should we cultivate children's self-confidence?

In fact, it can be done in daily life. Parents should give their children full freedom, trust and unconditional support in peacetime, so that children can do what they want without scruple.

It is also very important that when parents evaluate their children's behavior, they should learn to encourage them more, tell them more about their own advantages and try to avoid unnecessary criticism, because sometimes criticism can't encourage and educate them, but it will make them timid.

2) Cultivate children's courage to face difficulties.

Courage is very important to a person, so how should parents cultivate their children's courage?

Of course, courage can't be acquired overnight, and it needs to be accumulated and exercised from peacetime. Therefore, parents must seize any opportunity and even provide their children with some appropriate courage challenges, and learn to correctly guide their children to overcome difficulties and achieve their goals.

However, in order to prevent children's mental development from being affected in any way, parents must be realistic when setting some difficulties, and choose some tasks that are suitable for children and can be completed by children's efforts. Don't be impatient. Setting some difficult goals for children will only hurt their self-esteem, so that they can only choose to retreat when facing this situation next time.

3) Cultivate children's concern for human environment.

Although money is very important in today's society, money can't represent everything. Whether a person can be accepted by this society or won the recognition and support of others is inseparable from his way of dealing with people.

Therefore, when educating their children, parents should not neglect to cultivate their children's concern for society, people and the environment.

In this society, many children are receiving all kinds of education, and children will certainly encounter different choices when facing these educations.

For children, they have no way to choose and understand which one is most important to them, so parents should play a guiding role.

Behind the children, we should correctly guide them to a good life path, choose an educational method suitable for them, and make them full of courage and confidence to become an excellent person who knows how to consider others.