When it comes to parenting, the first thing that comes to mind is gentle, polite and knowledgeable people, but only parents will understand that it is difficult to restrain children's nature and make them abide by established rules.
We should be responsible for our children in all aspects of life, be a caring parent and, like detectives, stimulate their characteristics and give full play to their advantages through various experiences and activities.
Education is a quiet job, which exerts a subtle influence on children in many seemingly tiny details. This is not an easy thing.
Every year, parents' expectations of their children are also growing, but in fact, the best way to educate them is to let them learn to dominate their own lives, learn their own advantages and realize their ideals.
In the family, the most important message parents give their children is often not preaching, but the influence of behavior. Children are very observant and imitative. Parents' words and deeds are the objects of their observation, which will be imitated by children into habits and become characters together.
Imitation is nature and an important means of learning. It can be said that in the whole growth period of children, their initial concern is established by imitating the behavior of the closest people. Education has nothing to do with family, but with parents' behavior.
To cultivate an educated child, parents can do this:
1. Parents should manage their emotions. Educated people always have a lot in common. The most common thing is not to lose your temper when something happens. They are all very good at managing their emotions. If parents want their children to be gentlemen, they must first be a master of controlling their emotions. At the very least, they can't always panic or swear in front of their children.
Children are always observing how their parents deal with their emotions. If parents can ask them to express their thoughts and opinions in a processing way, children can also learn a more peaceful attitude towards life.
It is difficult for emotional parents to raise their children in an emotional and peaceful way. If parents always use abusive methods to deal with problems, children will think that this is the way to solve problems from an early age.
Only when parents express their emotions properly can they express good communication skills to their children, which is very beneficial to their growth.
2. Examples speak louder than words. Parents are the most direct imitators of children. If parents want their children to show educated behavior, they must pay attention to their words and deeds and set a correct example for them. To make children love reading, parents can't always brush their mobile phones in front of their children and pick up books to read.
Only when parents set an example can children understand what is right and what kind of parents they should be first.
3. Growing up under loose rules does not mean that children's behavior is not constrained, especially in their childhood growth stage, children can't know some behavioral boundaries. If it is agreed at the beginning and the rules are established, it will become a habit over time.
Let children know how to respect the boundaries of others, so as to be themselves better and establish internal moral constraints. No one is born excellent and perfect, and the behavior habits acquired are the most important.
Don't let the world revolve around children just because you love them. Children's self-centered consciousness is formed under the unconditional love of their parents. Without the small world of family, self-centered people can't survive in society.
4. Be tolerant. Now many parents tell their children "don't suffer" before going out, as if forgetting the good traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, but in fact, people with high emotional intelligence and cultivation will know how to tolerate.
Let children know that tolerance can make their way wider and wider, otherwise they will make enemies everywhere in society and it will be difficult to succeed.
Children's behavior is a mirror of the family. What kind of career is planted, what kind of fruit will be harvested. The child hides the truest character of his parents.
Whether a child is educated or not, the details of what he usually does are clear at a glance. Parents do more than they do right, and love is the foundation of children's education.
Only by improving their emotional wisdom can parents cultivate educated children with high emotional intelligence. As parents of emotional teaching, we should know how to help children channel their emotions and respect their feelings and emotional reactions.
Education is a person's most important quality. Education is not only a cultural and moral accomplishment, but also a good quality and habit formed through education. Education is not innate. If a child is not well guided from birth, he must be ignorant and shallow.
Children's upbringing comes from the influence of family and parents' words and deeds. When smiling, people know how to share, share generously, keep their promises, don't speak ill of others behind their backs, don't talk about right and wrong, don't touch other people's things casually, and don't make negative comments easily. When they find others embarrassed, they should help them solve it. Others should listen carefully and be polite and educated.
Loving children is an instinct, and respecting children is the best display of their upbringing.