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Needless to say, the importance of home-school communication. However, it is not enough for us to realize its importance, but also to find a good way to pursue the communication effect. Every family has its own characteristics, so the methods of home-school communication are also very different. With the help of case analysis, this paper discusses the relevant strategies of home-school communication.
When communicating with your parents, you should know yourself and yourself. In the Indian film Stars on the Earth, Nick, an art teacher, is full of worries about the life of student Isa at school. When Nick heard that Isa was going to transfer, he decided to visit her home.
Nick: Why did you send him away?
Father: "We have no choice. Last year, he failed in the third grade, and now there is no progress. "
Nick: "I want to know why."
Father said, "It's just a matter of attitude ..."
Nick continued, "I want to know why."
Father didn't know how to answer, so he asked Nick, "What do you think?"
Nick took out Issa's exercise book: "Issa often confuses' B' and' D', and writes' S' and' R',' H' and' T' in the wrong direction ... This is the difficulty he can't understand, which is caused by' dyslexia' and has nothing to do with his learning attitude."
Nick asked Isa's brother again, "If you throw the ball, can Isa get it back?" Brother said he couldn't do it.
Nick explained: "Because he couldn't judge the size, distance and speed of the ball, it was too late when he judged it."
Nick further explained: "An eight-year-old child can't do what his peers can do. He had to never cover up his incompetence with disobedience and never confront the outside world with disobedience, which would definitely cause confusion. "
Nick's words made Sha Yi's parents nod again and again, feeling sorry and sad for their carelessness in the past.
In this case, the strategy we can learn from Mr. Nick is that we must know ourselves before communicating with our parents. First of all, Nick's "knowledge" is based on fully studying Isa's homework and knowing that Isa has "dyslexia". This kind of research can not only let parents see the sincerity of teachers, but also make more targeted and effective communication in home visits. Secondly, Nick's "knowledge" is his understanding of his parents. Even though he knew about Issa's problem, Nick first asked Issa's father and brother during his home visit. This inquiry verified his "understanding" of Issa, and he also knew that his family did not understand Issa's problems, which simply came down to his attitude. This "knowledge" shows Nick's professionalism and wins the respect of her family. In the future communication, Nick made parents realize that they should not only look at the phenomenon, but also learn to find the reasons behind it. We cannot simply attribute the phenomenon to the phenomenon, nor can we simply attribute it to the attitude.
Communication with parents should be flexible. Communication with parents varies from person to person. Liu Bei and Zhuge Liang chose a straightforward way to communicate in Visit to the Cottage. The premise of this way of communication is that Liu Bei is thirsty for talents and has learned that Zhuge Liang is an unparalleled talent before meeting each other. Communication between teachers and parents can also be very direct. The premise is that parents not only have a strong desire to care about their children, but also have full trust in the professionalism of teachers.
In Touch the Dragon and Tell the Queen Zhao, the Queen Zhao doesn't want her youngest son to be a hostage in Qi, and she doesn't listen to exhortations. Touchdragon adopted a circuitous communication strategy: asking about eating and drinking, conveying concern, and seeking the psychological acceptance of the other party; Second, seek the future for your son, and the message is "I love my son as much as you do, and I understand your feelings"; The third is to say in a timely manner that "parents love their children, so it is far-reaching."
The strategy of touching the dragon has some enlightenment for us: first, we should establish relations, and second, we should form a consistent position. Parents love their children. When we put ourselves in the shoes of our parents, reasoning and suggestions will naturally appear.
Chen Xiangming, a professor at Peking University, believes that what teachers need most is not high IQ, but the literacy of "choosing the right one" in complex situations. Teachers' quality of "choosing suitable" includes the consciousness of "choosing suitable", so they should know how to change; "Choose the right" reserve, with moves and methods to choose from; "Choice" ability, can study different parents and use different methods according to different parents.
Communication with parents is better. "Good as water, water conservancy is indisputable". The communication between teachers and parents should be "like water", which not only needs to be "beneficial to everything" and "indisputable", but also needs to be "inclusive" and "shape with things". In the Japanese movie "Piggy Classroom", the young teacher Xing took the students to raise pigs in the classroom, which caused parents' opposition. The headmaster's performance in handling parents' complaints is remarkable.
After listening to the parents quietly, the headmaster responded, "I can understand your views and feelings."
Comments: first of all, communication should express understanding, and don't treat the other party's opinions as unreasonable. When you show respect and understanding, it will be easier for the other person to be calm and listen to your opinions carefully.
"Thank you very much for coming to express your opinions."
Comments: Besides being good at understanding others, you should also be good at thanking others, and always be aware of other people's criticisms and suggestions on your work, which can effectively improve your current and future work.
"I want to ask you a question. After raising pigs, did the children express their dissatisfaction with Teacher Xing or raising pigs? "
Comments: Schools and parents have a common goal, which is to promote children's growth. The principal's question here is actually to let parents think about this issue from a different angle, from the perspective of children's growth.
At this time, parents looked at each other and realized that their children did not have these problems. After the parents thought about this problem, the principal continued to guide: "The smooth progress of the school curriculum depends on the trust relationship between teachers and students. Teacher Xing is really young, but he really wants his children to understand some important truths in life. "
Comments: We should acknowledge the rationality of some parents' views, especially their descriptions and concerns about the real phenomenon.
"It is because of this profound understanding that your child will agree to complete this life-long course with the teacher."
Comments: The headmaster should try his best to maintain the teacher's image and give affirmation and protection to the teacher's reasonable reform will and efforts. But affirmation and protection should not be just "protecting calves", but should be well-founded, and the best basis is "what students think".
"As the principal, I choose to trust Teacher Xing and the children."
Comment: Show the attitude of the school.
"I hope you can protect your children and protect the star teachers that children trust. Please everyone. "
Then, the headmaster bowed to his parents.
Comments: Both schools and teachers have the responsibility to guide parents, clearly put forward their own hopes and demands to parents, and be polite to others when there are sufficient reasons.
There is a saying: "There are two most difficult things in the world. One is to put your money in my pocket; The second is to put my thoughts into your head. " This shows the difficulty of home-school education and communication. But if we are good at learning and dare to face difficulties, we can write a beautiful story of home-school communication.
(Chen Dawei, Professor of Chengdu University, Master Supervisor, Dean of Sichuan Western Education Research Institute. Presided over "Teachers' Professional Ethics" and won the national excellent resource sharing course and the national first-class undergraduate course. The research fields involve teachers' happy life, educational research methods, curriculum and teaching reform, etc. Published 24 books, including 8 lectures such as Happiness Education and Ideal Classroom.
China Teachers' Daily, June 23rd, 202 1 Edition 1 1.
Author: Chen Dawei