How do parents communicate with their children? I believe all parents and friends know that communication is the most important way to educate children. They should know how to educate their children in the right way. After all, parents are their children's first teachers, so do you know how parents communicate with their children?

Methods of parent-child communication 1 1. Principles of parent-child communication

1, communicate with children more.

Many parents neglect their children because of their busy work and seldom spend time with them. Other parents believe that parents' opinions must be accepted unconditionally by their children. In this way, after a long time, the children and their parents became estranged. Therefore, parents must communicate with their children, let them understand their love, and children can accept their parents' guidance.

2. Don't always criticize, accuse and complain.

At present, there are more than three in family education: too many shortcomings and too few advantages; Too much criticism and too little motivation; Too much reprimand and too little praise.

Children who grow up in reprimand are more inclined to condemn others, and such people are the least popular. Scold and blame often have no good effect, but only make others strengthen their guard against you and try their best to prove themselves right; Scolding and blaming will also hurt a person's self-esteem, while excessive harm will cause the other person's disgust.

Step 3 learn to listen

Communication between parents and children is very important, but in this kind of communication, we parents should also pay attention to one thing: talk less and listen more.

One day, a mother got laryngitis and lost her voice. My son came back from school and said, "Mom, the teacher criticized me." Then tell the teacher what's wrong. At that time, the mother especially wanted to criticize her son: you are wrong and the teacher is right. But because my voice was hoarse and I couldn't speak, I had to stare at my son and say. When the son finally finished speaking, suddenly the son added, "Mom, I thank you." She was stunned and didn't know what her son meant. The son added, "Thank you for listening to me so much today." The next day, the son said to his mother, "Mom, although you didn't say anything yesterday, I have understood that I was wrong about the teacher." This is the power of listening. No need to comment. The child woke up in the process of talking.

4. Appreciate and appreciate others sincerely.

The deepest need of human nature is to be appreciated by others. Everyone is willing to work and live with people who appreciate themselves. To make children popular, children must learn to appreciate and thank others sincerely.

The owner of an American supermarket is estranged from his son and often criticizes his son. One day, he went to the store run by his son and found that the store had changed from a loss to a profit. Customers and shop assistants liked his son very much. He took his son aside and said, "You're doing very well. No one can attract so many customers like you! " "Unexpectedly, Niu Gaoma's son said with tears," Dad, you have never praised me like this. I'm glad you feel this way about me. "The father later said to others," This is the first real communication between my son and me when he grows up. "

If you want your children and husband to like you, you must be interested in them; If you want your child to be loved by classmates and teachers, you should let him thank others for their help in time.

5. Guide children to get along with others.

Pay attention to cultivate children's generous, polite, cheerful and lively personality in daily life, encourage children to develop a variety of hobbies, and help children improve their language skills. Teach children to be good at discovering the advantages of others and really appreciate others. When others have shortcomings, we should sincerely help them and point them out in an appropriate way, so that they can easily accept them and deepen their friendship. When you are in conflict with others, don't avoid it. If you are wronged, you can express your inner feelings in appropriate language, let the other party understand, and then resolve the contradiction. Never haggle over every ounce, complain about others, and have a tolerant scale. If you have wronged others, you should feel guilty and ashamed, take the initiative to admit your mistakes, apologize, and seek forgiveness from others. Don't stick to your own opinions and deepen contradictions. At the same time, parents should also be strict with themselves and do a good job in words and deeds.

6. Discover the advantages of others and don't gossip about others.

A farmer's mother is very good at teaching her children to discover the advantages of everyone in the village and family, and tells her children: "Everyone is a grass, and there is a dewdrop on every grass. In the sun, every drop of dew will shine. " So, her children learned to be kind.

Some of our young mothers don't pay much attention to this and often gossip behind others' backs. Over time, children will easily learn to gossip. Gossiping children have the least friends. Here, I especially want to warn girls not to talk about people behind their backs.

7. Understand and respect children.

Understanding and respecting children can effectively narrow the psychological distance between you and your children and narrow the generation gap. Understanding is an emotion of unconditional love and respect, which requires your selflessness and love. But as parents, we often take our "face" very seriously. We often expect our children to obey us unconditionally, but we can't respect them unconditionally. Of course, this does not require parents to agree with all the children's views and behaviors, but we should be able to put ourselves in the child's shoes, see with the child's eyes, listen with the child's ears and think with the child's head.

Second, how do parents communicate with their children?

1, really annoying: Why don't children listen to their parents?

Babbling and preaching are easy to make children rebellious; Parents' long-term complaints will hurt their children's body and mind; "obedient education" oppresses children's hearts; The more parents scold, the less children listen; Don't talk to children in ways they don't like.

2. Learn to hug and whisper.

In hugging, people can gain a sense of security and trust, which is a kind of rest with all one's heart. Anxiety can be alleviated or calmed down. People are most rational when they are calm and psychologically stable.

Whispering is more convincing and moving than expression at normal volume. Because the gesture of whispering just now has shown a particularly close relationship between two people.

Never break a child's heart: parents should change the inappropriate way of speaking to their children.

Never talk to children in a rude way; Talking to children with a straight face will be counterproductive; Interrupting children's complaints at will is an obstacle to communication; Be good at praising children instead of always blaming them; Don't look down on children's abilities; Don't rush to correct your child's out-of-line ideas.

4. Tell your children how you really feel.

When parents talk with their children, it is very important to accurately convey their inner thoughts and wishes, so that children can feel the care and goodwill contained in their parents' "criticism" and "education", which can reduce their resistance caused by their parents' "inappropriate words".

As a parent, are you good at talking to children? Only parents who can talk can educate their children effectively.

Parents can talk, which is conducive to the healthy growth of children; Talking to children is a very exquisite art, and a casual remark will affect a child's life. Talking parents can make children confident. Parent-child communication helps to shape children's sound personality.

Third, how to help children become popular people?

1, let the children understand.

Nowadays, children are often loved by their parents. No matter what and how many requirements children have, many parents always try their best to satisfy their children unprincipled, thinking that this is the way to love their children. Even if the child is unreasonable, parents think that the child is still young and not sensible, so they accommodate and forgive the child. In fact, parents doting on their children like this can only make them unruly and willful. Children must be self-centered, so how can they get along with others? Therefore, it is necessary for parents to let their children understand the truth of interacting with others and let them consciously cultivate themselves to become a popular person.

2. Let children learn from the strengths of others and praise the benefits of others.

Let children realize that everyone has strengths, and those who are good at learning from each other's strengths are the most powerful; Everyone has a desire to be appreciated, and those who can discover the advantages of others in time and sincerely praise them will be welcomed by everyone.

3. Educate children to care about others.

Nowadays, most children are only children, and everything in the family revolves around them. In children's minds: enjoyment is their own business, and giving is someone else's business. In this way, it is easy for children to form selfish personalities. Therefore, parents should let their children know how to care for others, help people in trouble, and cultivate their sense of responsibility and obligation. Educate children: respect teachers at school, get along well with classmates, and care more about groups and classmates; At home, we should honor our parents and do more things for them. In addition, we should also support children to participate in some social welfare activities, give them as many opportunities to care for others as possible, and cultivate children ("natural people") into "social people" (people who adapt to society).

4. Let children respect the opinions of others and see the role of others.

When children learn to talk to others, don't deny others' opinions at the beginning, but first consider what others' opinions are reasonable, starting with mutual recognition. Don't think that you are the only one who matters. Recognize that everyone is important and make the other person feel that he is an "important person".

5. Create a communication environment for children.

In daily life, there are many opportunities to guide children to learn to communicate with others. In public places, children can learn to associate with people they don't know, such as shopping, traveling, gathering, playing and other activities can give children communication exercises. At home, there are many opportunities for children to learn to communicate, such as friendly exchanges between neighbors, friends and colleagues, home visits and chatting, which can help children learn to entertain and be guests, thus improving their communication skills and promoting friendship.

6. Let children learn to thank others for their help and forgive others' mistakes.

Teach children to say a few more words of thanks and leave some friendly sparks wherever they go. These small sparks will ignite the flame of friendship; No one is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. Let children learn to remember the benefits of others more, and don't always keep others' mistakes in mind. Tell your child that I sincerely hope you can handle interpersonal relationships and make more friends.

Methods of communication between parents and children. What are the skills to communicate with children?

1. Parents should pay attention to their children's reactions and attitudes.

Because of their busy work, modern parents are often eager to express their opinions and instructions when talking with their children, expecting their children to do what they say, and it is best not to have opinions. Therefore, children often don't listen carefully. Children find it difficult to communicate with their parents, and the generation gap is bound to deepen. Therefore, when parents talk to their children, patience is very important. They should not only listen to children's stories, but also understand their wishes.

Parents should pay attention to their children's feelings.

If a child is wronged outside or separated from his good friend or beloved pet, his delicate little heart will be sad for a long time. At this time, parents' concern is very much needed, but if parents just tell him "it doesn't matter, be strong" and "nothing to be sad about", it will make the child feel that parents can't understand his feelings at all. If parents change, such as "Are you sad?" If I were you, I would feel the same way. "I believe that children will behave differently when they hear such words.

Parents should keep abreast of their children's development.

Parents should know how much their children know, if they say that their children don't understand, or put forward requirements that their children can't meet. This not only makes children feel hard and stressed, but also makes it difficult for parent-child dialogue to go online, which easily leads to poor communication and a generation gap between the two sides.

4. Pay attention to the way to answer children's questions.

When children ask questions, they must first understand their true meaning and answer them according to their needs. For example, a child asks, "Mom, do you want to buy food?" The real meaning of this question is: "Mom, I want to go shopping with you." If you know the real purpose of a child, you can say, "Yes! Do you want to go together? " Children will be very happy to hear this, because this is exactly what children want at that time.

Parents should avoid using negative tone when talking to their children.

The so-called negation means that parents should not use "I command you …", "I warn you …", "You'd better hurry up …", "You have five seconds …", "I'll count to one, two, three or else …", "You should …" and "You are so stupid". What's more, children are indifferent to this, and it makes no sense for parents to say similar things, which also makes children feel disgusted.

6. On the topic of communicating with children, you can always change into fresh content.

Changing topics frequently will arouse children's interest, such as "Guess what happened to me today?" "Do you know why children like dinosaurs best?" "If one day, astronauts really can't reach the earth ..." and other questions, I believe it will be better than "Have a good day today?" "Happy or unhappy" is more attractive to children. So sometimes some wordy words have better effects, and it is good to use them properly.

7. Parents should know how to enrich their children's life experiences.

Most of the topics that parents talk to their children come from life, so it is important to cultivate children's keen and curious heart. Parents can lead their children to observe all kinds of things around them, such as a flower, a grass and a tree, the color, shape and brand of cars on the road, the dress of pedestrians on the street, the content of their speeches, the window of department stores and so on. , can become the material of conversation, children's observation ability will naturally improve. Of course, parents are children's first teachers, so parents' guidance is very important for children.

Second, criticize children's preventive measures.

1, don't criticize children in public.

Don't criticize your child in public and in front of his friends, and save face for your child. Criticism is best carried out when there are only two people.

Parents should have the same attitude towards their children's mistakes.

If parents can't reach an agreement, children can't have a clear understanding.

3. Don't dig up old scores.

Don't criticize all the wrong things in your child's past just because of this mistake. This will make your children feel disgusted and feel that as long as they make mistakes, they will never get rid of them. Since I can't get rid of it, what's the use of changing it?

4, usually in line with the principle of more praise and less criticism.

Praise when it is time to praise, and criticize when it is time to criticize. Children will think that their parents are fair. If they only criticize and don't praise, the child will be dissatisfied, because you only see his shortcomings and don't see his advantages, so you are unwilling to accept criticism.