Because of mental stress, many parents often say? Now that you hate me, you'll understand when you grow up? But the result is that children still don't understand when they grow up. In the eyes of children, they think that they live in a depressed family and are imprisoned all the time. Besides depression and imprisonment, they may be test scores and rankings.
In this case, many media people criticize the traditional family education in China, but they also advocate education reform. Even the broadcasting company BBC published a documentary to satirize it. This also makes the original warmth? China Education? , has become a word with negative meaning.
what's up Heart? , is it? Warm? Chinese education
1, mom's seven seconds
Perhaps many people have seen a public service advertisement "Mother's Seven Seconds" broadcast by CCTV, which tells the story of a person who is carrying his mother with cerebellum atrophy at the beginning of his career and no one takes care of her every day.
My son knows how to be grateful to his mother and how to give back, so our Chinese education is full of warmth.
2. The teenager said
Hunan Satellite TV has a column called Teenagers' Talk, in which a boy named Fu Xuanang complained that his mother made him do a lot of housework every day, and said that his main task at present should be to study.
Facing your son? Blame? Fu's answer really shows high emotional intelligence.
Mother Fu said that housework is a part of all our family life, and now that you are in junior high school, housework is also a job you need to undertake, and housework not only exercises your hands-on ability and self-care ability, but also teaches you to be grateful forever.
Mother Fu went on to say that housework can also make you more patient and caring. When you grow up, you will meet the other half of your life, and that girl will be her family's favorite. So if you don't learn to do it now, do you want girls to do all the housework?
In the eyes of mother Fu, children's academic performance is important, but the cultivation of children's conduct and sense of responsibility is also in the same position. What about our Chinese education? Heart? .
Need to abandon? Imprisonment? Chinese education
Many parents always interfere with their children on the grounds of their rich experience. I'm doing this for your own good? 、? Will I hurt you? These words are their mantra.
This is really their love, but a little? Full? They don't want their children to grow up independently, but in this way, they will cause some troubles when they grow up, and of course there will be resistance from their bones. Children need space to grow up, but blindly? Imprisonment? Can only be a stumbling block
Chinese-style education should have two key points, one is timeliness.
1, the balance between matter and spirit
Some parents are trying to make up for the lack of company time, but they are not stingy with their children's material desires. However, in children's life growth, spiritual care is obviously more important than material satisfaction.
2. Independent ability
Always making decisions for children seems to be a common problem for many parents. Their starting point really needs no doubt. In order to prevent children from being hurt, they may really be willing to do everything for their children.
However, such disadvantages are also obvious, that is, children grow up without independent ability, what will happen when they grow up? Giant baby? .
3. Affirm the children's efforts and efforts.
Most of our personality characteristics are relatively implicit, including parents' love for their children. However, children's growth is also eager to be concerned and affirmed, which is very helpful for the cultivation of children's self-confidence and self-esteem.
On the way of educating and protecting children, what our parents should do is to choose a development route that is really suitable for children and accompany them to grow up together, instead of turning their love for children into a gap between the two sides.