Patiently guide the emotions and psychology of older children, so that older children have the pride of "big brother/big sister";
Leave more space for the two children, parents should not interfere in everything, so that the children have enough time and space to run in well;
Parents should treat their two children equally, so that they will not feel left out, which will help them get along with each other in a more peaceful and friendly manner;
When there is a contradiction between two children, parents should not deliberately criticize which child, but guide them and let the two children communicate with each other, thus resolving the contradiction.
How to deal with the psychological problems of older children
"Dad, look at me!" "Mom feeds me!" "I don't care, I have to wear diapers!" Big baby, what's going on? In fact, Dawa is just afraid that her parents will not love her because she has a little brother/sister, so she desperately wants her parents' attention to return to herself! Facing the psychology of older children, how should you get along with your parents?
In the face of this series of psychological problems of older children, the key to solving the problems lies in letting older children know that their parents still love them and will not ignore them because of the arrival of newborns. In this way, older children can find a sense of security in their hearts, and they will not always do something out of line to attract their parents' attention.
Therefore, parents can often communicate with older children, patiently ask their inner thoughts and concerns, and give them assurances and commitments. At the same time, as far as possible, let older children participate in the whole process of the arrival of newborns, and let older children participate in helping the baby name, buying newborn supplies, and visiting newborns. And let older children gradually accept their little brothers or sisters.
At the same time, as Bao Xiao grows up day by day, parents must treat their two children equally, fairly and as impartially as possible, which will help their psychological development.
How to avoid eccentricity when having two children?
Do you treat two children equally in daily life? Many families with two children often have psychological trauma to the other child because of their parents' preference for one child. Therefore, for the healthy growth of two children, it is king to be as impartial as possible. So, how can a second-child family avoid favoring two children?
Parents tend to unconsciously favor children with good grades, while those with poor grades are indifferent and naughty. If we want to avoid favoritism, parents must treat their two children fairly and should not favor one of them for other reasons.
Parents should fully accept their children, including their advantages and disadvantages. If the child doesn't behave well in some way, don't compare the child with other children, let alone attack and hurt the child personally, otherwise the sensitive heart of the child will feel the parents' eccentricity.
What if two children often quarrel when giving birth to a second child?
In many families with two children, it is common to fight or even fight for a toy or a snack. In this respect, it is also troublesome for you to cherish your parents. Jiahe Bian Xiao is here to share with you the skills of dealing with frequent quarrels between two children!
After a child quarrels, we must first find out the cause of the quarrel;
Next, talk to two children respectively, find out the root cause of bickering all day, and ask the children if they have any opinions on each other, so as to fundamentally solve the problem;
Summarize the reasons according to the children and see if their education is not in place. If so, it is necessary to strengthen education;
Indoctrinate two children: both children are part of the family and are the treasures of their parents. They should love each other, share good things with their families and have fun with their brothers and sisters. This is a good boy.
What should I do if I have a second child to bully the child?
"'Mom, my brother hit me again!' As soon as I got back from work, my little daughter cried and complained. This is a message from the mother of a second-child family on the forum. Do you know how to deal with the situation that older children bully children repeatedly?
Communicate with older children alone, don't be too harsh, and patiently ask him why he bullies children; After finding the reason, try to go into the child's heart and help him solve his psychological problems;
Pacify the bullied children's emotions and gradually reduce their sense of injustice;
Call the older children together, let the older children apologize to the children, and appease the children to forgive the older children;
In later life, we should pay special attention to the issue of equal treatment, and we should not let older children feel that their parents are partial to their children;
Do more family activities and communicate with children to make children of all ages more harmonious with each other.
Dear parents:
How do two children get along?
Have you learned anything?