People should be educated in three aspects in their life, namely, family education, school education and social education. As the earliest and most influential basic form of education in life, family education plays a very important role in the growth of the younger generation and is irreplaceable by school education. With the advent of the era of knowledge economy, the fission effect of science and technology and the competition of market economy, the speed of knowledge renewal is accelerating, and our family education is facing great challenges. The vast majority of parents have no direct connection with education for professional and work reasons. The education of children is mostly based on feelings and experience, and the methods of educating children are improper. Children are generally grumpy, domineering, lack of independent opinions and weak willpower. How to solve this situation? The author believes that in order to make children grow up healthily and happily, the following methods should be adopted: First, eliminate the fear caused by parents to their children. The junior high school stage is the stage when children "cross the hurdle". For various reasons, their academic performance declined, and their parents were anxious and impetuous. There is opposition between children and parents. At this time, parents should calm down and learn to wait patiently for their children's growth. Some experts said: "Children have a stronger desire to avoid failure than to strive for success. In order to prevent the smallest possible failure, I would rather reduce my efforts. " This is one of the important reasons why parents' fear makes their children lose their initiative. I hope parents don't "try" or even suffer when they see their children's poor grades, so as not to lose confidence in their children. Parents should ask their children about their learning from the process, which is more scientific and effective than asking the results. Second, build self-confidence for children. Edison, the inventor, had a strong thirst for knowledge in his childhood and liked to trace back to the source. He asked the teacher why "2+2 equals 4", so he caused a big disaster. He has only been in school for three months and was ordered to drop out. His mother was very sad and determined to educate her son personally, build up self-confidence, teach him liberal arts and chemistry, and cultivate his habit of loving learning and science. Edison's thirst for knowledge was further stimulated. The germ of "genius" grew unconsciously and eventually became a world-famous inventor. It can be seen that success comes from self-confidence, the establishment of self-confidence and the common sense of people around you. Fathers don't appreciate their children. Where does the child's self-confidence come from? Edison's mother didn't appreciate her son, so there wouldn't be today's inventor Edison. Parents should use a magnifying glass to discover their children's bright spots and help them build confidence in overcoming difficulties. When children need help, parents should master a certain degree of help, never go beyond it, and leave room. For example, if a child asks how to write a word, some parents will report it casually, which is the most labor-saving, but it is unacceptable. When children ask how to write a word, it is better to encourage them to "can't you look it up in the dictionary?" Check it first, and then tell your father (mother). With such guidance, children will be happy to look up the dictionary. This not only saves parents a lot of time, but also cultivates children's ability to acquire knowledge by themselves. And this ability is very important in a person's life. Only by letting children jump and succeed through their own efforts can children feel the joy of success and build their self-confidence. Third, grow up with your children and be their bosom friends. With the progress of society and the rapid development of science and technology, people have to learn more and more new things. As parents, we should always embody the spirit of seeking knowledge and making progress and set an example for our children. "Mom and Dad are also learning and making progress! "Let children understand that learning new knowledge and continuous progress are accompanied by a lifetime. Secondly, through communication with children, we should try our best to shorten the distance from their hearts, listen to their unintentional words, truly understand our children and educate them to grow up healthily. When educating children, don't use insulting language such as "worthless" and "stupid", let alone sneer at children in an ironic tone, which will obliterate their self-confidence, cause great psychological pressure on children and hinder their growth and progress. " Let children have a bright future "is the eternal demand of parents." There are many ways to educate children. Children's personal situation, family environment and parents' quality are all important factors. Family education should effectively cooperate with school education to achieve the goal of educating students together and let children grow up happily and healthily. In the process of children's growth, the factor of love is very important. However, when love loses its rationality or limit, love for children becomes extreme love, which often leads to obstacles in children's physical and mental development and distortion of mind, which has a negative impact on children's future life development. The extreme manifestations of loving children are: 1, thinking that as long as children's material needs are infinitely met, they love children. In fact, this is an ignorant love. Children's need for love is not only material, but more importantly spiritual. In life, some parents only pay attention to supplementing their children with various nutrients, but ignore the cultivation of their good moral behavior habits and social adaptability. Some parents buy many books or computers for their children, but they don't correctly guide their children to read or use computers. They don't understand that spiritual encouragement, praise, affirmation and necessary psychological support for their children are all love. However, this kind of spiritual love is more important for their growth. 2. Parents overprotect their children and do a lot of things for their children, which virtually deprives them of the opportunity to develop their own abilities and reduces their self-reliance and self-confidence. This kind of love limits children's self-development and has a negative impact on their independent social life in the future. 3, the requirements for children are too harsh, often criticized, and even corporal punishment of children. Some parents really love their children, but they mistakenly think that "a dutiful son is born under the stick" and "a soldier who defeats others without fighting"