1779 One day, King Louis XVI and Queen were going to inspect a school. The school prepared a grand ceremony for this: selecting the best students in the school to lead the welcome carol. Unfortunately, the weather was bad and it rained lightly. When the queen arrived, she was not interested in listening to a little boy sing a difficult rhyme. She said to her husband, I am tired. So Louis XVI issued a decree: the detachment returned to Korea. The little boy, the lead singer, has been preparing for this for many days. For the first time in his life, he wore such luxurious clothes and was entrusted with such a beautiful task for the first time. But at this time, he stood alone in the rain with a poem and looked at the royal motorcade in the distance with grievances. The glory of waiting for many days has not been obtained, but it has become a joke of friends. The little boy will never forget the boy's shame. 13 years later, the French revolution broke out. As the leader of jacobins, he strongly advocated and really put the arrogant king and queen to the guillotine. That little boy is Maxim robespierre.
1968 One day, American psychologist Rosenthal and his assistant came to a primary school and said that they would conduct seven experiments. They selected three classes from Grade One to Grade Six and conducted a "future development trend test" for the students in Class 18. After that, Rosenthal gratefully handed over a list of "most promising people" to the principal and related teachers, and told them to keep it secret so as not to affect the correctness of the experiment. In fact, the students on the list were randomly selected. Eight months later, Rosenthal and his assistant re-examined the students in Class 18. As a result, a miracle appeared: all the students on the list made great progress in their grades, and they were lively and cheerful, confident and eager to learn, and more willing to deal with people. Later, people called this situation that people's behavior changed in line with expectations because of the expectations and love of others (especially "authoritative people" such as teachers and parents) "Rosenthal effect".
Xin, 45, is one of the few China professors who teach in Switzerland. He is also a visiting professor at East China Normal University in China. He found that the cost of primary school students in China was ten or even twenty times higher than that in Switzerland. In Switzerland, every child goes to primary and secondary schools, not only without tuition and books, but also with a monthly subsidy of 200 Swiss francs, equivalent to 1000 RMB. There is no problem with the fees charged by public universities here, which is about 500 Swiss francs a semester.
Last year, China Youth Daily took165438+1October 30th as a full page, and introduced a young man aged 18 who passed all the examinations of MCSD and MCDBA, becoming one of the youngest database experts in Asia. He only has a junior high school education. He used to be a child whose grades were so poor that his teacher was disappointed and his mother was desperate. He said: "I was lucky to find an internet suitable for my study, and I was lucky to get an educational method suitable for me at a critical moment in my life." His mother said: "Intellectually, the son can only be regarded as average;" As far as self-control is concerned, he is lower than the average child. The reason why he can walk out of a new path is only because he has found an educational environment and methods suitable for himself, so that he can study independently and casually at the most eager stage. "
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The parents of a student who immigrated to the United States from China hid their faces and wept at the parent-teacher conference. She can't believe that her son won the excellent student award in the first year of high school. Her son immigrated to the United States for just one semester, and he didn't even get into vocational high school in China. I've only been in America for half a year, but I still can't keep up with my English. How did I miraculously win the excellent student award? The headmaster also sent a personal letter to congratulate her on having such a good son. The letter said that the school hoped that parents would keep in touch with the school and turn this promising child into a useful talent. ?
In fact, this China woman doesn't understand the system of American secondary education system and the operation of educational ideas. Students in American middle schools will receive awards after graduation, but the awards and titles are different, because everyone has their own strengths, and the school has fully taken this into account when setting awards. Awarding prizes is an active means for principals and teachers to motivate students and mobilize their potential.
In the middle of this month, the U.S. District Court of new york tried a lawsuit. The special feature of this lawsuit is that a 29-year-old single mother was accused of improper custody of her 9-year-old son, and the fundamental reason why she was suspected of breaking the law was that she "trained" her son into a child prodigy. Elizabeth, the child's mother, said that in the past few years, in order to make Justin cope with all kinds of abnormal children's tests, she gave her children almost cruel education and training, which put too much pressure on young children. However, Elizabeth said that everything she did was out of maternal love. ?
Michael Jordan's mother said: "I think it is tragic and misleading for parents' fantasy to take cultivating stars as their parents' goal, no matter who they are." In fact, I think any parents who take their children's achievements in any field as their goal are trampling on their children's future on a dangerous road. Parents' goal is to cultivate their children's excellent moral character and character.
Su Xun's two sons, Su Shi and Su Zhe, have been naughty since childhood. After repeated persuasion failed, Su Xun decided to change the way of education. Later, whenever the children were playing, he deliberately hid in the corner to read books. When the children came, he deliberately "hid" the books. Su Shi and Su Zhe are both curious and think that their father must have something good to hide from them. Out of strong curiosity, the two men "stole" the book while their father was away and read it carefully. From then on, they gradually developed the habit of reading, really felt the pleasure of reading, and eventually became a generation of famous artists.
In Germany, I have witnessed many German "gentlemen" happily engaged in various physical activities, such as members climbing to the roof to repair tiles at home and sitting on a ladder to paint walls; The boss of a big company is sweating profusely in the yard, pushing the lawn mower back and forth; University liberal arts professors assemble their own computers and design home computer networks; Scholars repair lighters, match keys, install sewer pipes, etc ...?
Mr. Karl is a professor who studies the history of ancient European philosophy. He did everything by himself except the design and construction of his small three-story building. Although Germans are generally rich, they can't compare with luxury in home interior decoration. They think it is foolish to spend money on home decoration. One of the most important reasons for doing everything is to influence and cultivate the next generation. Karl said: "Germans attach more importance to' teaching by example' than' teaching by words'. They should educate their children with their parents' actions and let them know that they can't enjoy everything by themselves, and only labor can create wealth. "
There are four ways for Mr. Lao She to teach children: first, it is not necessary to get a hundred points, especially in every subject; Second, you don't have to go to college; Third, play more and don't lose your child's innocence; The fourth is to have a strong body. Mr. Lao She's natural education method has broken the traditional way of education, created a relaxed development space for children, fully expanded children's personality, and greatly helped to cultivate children's self-confidence and social adaptability. ?
Nature is the most beautiful. If your child can't grow into a towering tree, let him be an unknown grass, and he can also bring you the beauty of spring; If your child can't be a Wang Yang, let him be the smallest wave, and he can also bring you the joy of jumping; If your child can't become a celebrity, let him be an ordinary person, whether he is an out-and-out farmer, ordinary worker, soldier or businessman, as long as he is honest, upright, kind and enterprising, parents should be proud of him, because the children they have trained are useful people to society, which is enough.
Zhou pointed out that a person's success often depends not on the level of academic qualifications and the amount of classroom knowledge, but on whether he is good at self-education. This ability of self-education has a great relationship with the use of intelligence and the pleasure of learning. In this respect, there are great differences in education between the East and the West. From the source, western culture has attached great importance to the happiness of intelligence application itself since Greece, and often regards intelligence itself as an end, and thinks that intelligence application itself is a kind of value, and practicality is second. In China tradition, culture is more practical. In fact, western science pays attention to the scientific spirit itself, and concrete scientific achievements are by-products in this process. In this atmosphere, science will develop. ?
People's intellectual life actually includes intellectual life and spiritual life. The former faces the world and the latter faces life, which can be collectively called spiritual life. The significance of education lies in guiding people into the spiritual life of mankind as a whole through learning that makes people taste intellectual happiness and spiritual pleasure. By this standard, we find that whether a nation can make great achievements in culture depends on the overall level of spiritual life in the final analysis. I have always believed that the main gap between Chinese and western cultures in modern times is here, not elsewhere.
Poetry is the female teacher of human beings, whether at the beginning or at the end.
Socrates said: "Education is not indoctrination, but lighting a flame!"
Strange inventions, the starting point is to ask. Smart people ask smart questions, while fools ask stupid questions. "-Tao Xingzhi
Mrs. Dewey, USA: "Let the children know from time to time that we love them and everyone likes them because of their moral character, which has nothing to do with their report cards."
Give the fish enough to solve the hunger of the day; Teach them to fish and eat fish for life.
The famous painter Zhang Daqian said: "In life, the first thing is to read, the second is to read more, and the third is to read systematically and selectively."
Feng Menglong in Ming Dynasty: "Water does not excite or jump, and people do not excite or excite."
To spread sunshine in other people's hearts, you must first have sunshine in your own heart. "
Tagore, an Indian writer, said: "If mistakes are shut out, truth will also be shut out."
A good personality is better than excellent intelligence.
The baby's mood is a reflection of knowing the world.
Talent, like natural flowers and trees, needs pruning.
For children, life is a school, and everything can be the object of research and exploration.
Children's learning is comprehensive, not limited to reading, writing, arithmetic and various skills.
Too hasty and slow education will destroy children's normal psychological development.
In any industry, the first step to success is to be interested in it, especially in children's learning.
Education must begin with psychological exploration of children's interests and habits.
Parents are educating themselves as well as their children.
Parents are natural teachers and have the greatest influence on children, especially young children.
Stimulating children's thirst for knowledge and learning is far more meaningful than teaching limited knowledge.
Parents should gradually cultivate their children's habit of thinking and solving problems independently, thus establishing their confidence.
The main skill of teaching children is to turn what children should do into games.
A person's success = 1% IQ +99% EQ.
Motherly love is the most sacred feeling in the world, because it is the most unprofitable.
There are infinite possibilities between children and young children, which need parents to explore and guide.
As long as teachers and parents are in harmony, they can form a joint force of education.
Parents can't accompany their children all their lives, so they must cultivate their social consciousness and independent consciousness from an early age.
Before reaching the age of rationality, children can't accept ideas, only images.
The process of parents educating their children is also a process of self-awareness and learning.
The art of education lies not in imparting skills, but in struggle, awakening and encouragement.
The way to give full play to one's ability is praise and encouragement.
Parents are the earliest teachers of all words and deeds in a child's life.
Children's rationality is constantly growing. Don't feed them, guide them.
As long as parents are good at using it, every detail in life can be used to educate their children.
Learning in life is the most effective learning method for children.
Character cultivation begins in infancy.
If you really love your child, you should send him to the stormy sea.
The distinction between imagination and display makes it easy for children to integrate into the story and get education from it.
Guiding children to tell stories in time is a wonderful way to keep their minds active.
Using fairy tales to guide children to think and explore is more profound than simply reasoning.
Simple and concise fairy tales often contain rich knowledge and profound truth.
Rich imagination is more important than book knowledge.
In children's world, everything is the same as people, with thoughts and feelings.
Exercise is expensive, but diet is expensive.
Children make their own small toys, although rough, but far happier than ready-made exquisite toys.
Without understanding and trust, there is no friendship.
All education begins with our understanding of children's nature.
Parents are the first school for children to know the world and acquire knowledge.
Besides patience, we should also pay attention to the methods and skills of educating young children.
Children's humor is the most natural and frank human language, which needs parents' heart to discover and experience.
There are joys and sorrows in the process of parenting.
No friend can match health, and no enemy can match disease.
The right medicine can cure the disease.
The task of family education is, first of all, the education and study of parents.