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Marriage is like a steaming cup of coffee in winter, dispelling the chill in the air. Bitter sweetness is the taste of happiness endowed by life.

Affection, love and friendship, like an iron triangle, constitute a person's emotional world, and each emotion is precious.

Affection is the initial source of warmth, love is the beginning of yearning for life, and friendship is the flame in life at any time. Helping each other can make each other's world better.

Men and women are different. Women tend to regard love as their whole life, while men tend to live a more rational life and will not give up any kind of feelings easily.

In marriage, when men and women have different concerns about feelings and marriage, women are prone to entertain foolish ideas and feel that men don't value love very much.

Men also feel that women can't understand themselves, don't put themselves in his shoes, and don't stand in his position to maintain his cherished brotherhood.

For married men, the balance between love and affection is particularly important, which is also related to the future direction of marriage.

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Du Yong, a colleague of mine, thinks brotherhood is more important than marriage and love. After he married Xiao Bai, he still thought that his mother's younger brother was more important than his wife, and everything should be considered for his younger brother first.

Once, Xiao Bai felt a little sick in his stomach and asked Du Yong to accompany him to the hospital. Du Yong is still at his brother's birthday party. He said impatiently, "Today is my brother's birthday. Don't make trouble. Go and buy some medicine yourself! "

Xiao Bai listened to the sound of the phone hanging up, and her heart was cold. Later she called her best friend and accompanied her to the hospital. During this period, Du Yong did not have a phone call to care about greetings.

Du Yong's younger brother talked about a girlfriend who was going to get married, but the woman suggested that there must be a wedding room for marriage, so his younger brother came to discuss with Du Yong.

Du Yong decided to lend his husband and wife's savings to his younger brother to buy a house. Xiaobai disagreed at first. She asked Du Yong, "With your brother's ability, when do you think he can return the money to us?"

Du Yong looked at Xiaobai unhappily and said, "He is my own brother, and he will not repay what he said. I didn't intend to ask him to pay back the money when I lent it to him. Why do you care so much? "

"Then we don't live? Which is free, mortgage, living expenses or children's future education? Can you help him like this all his life? "

Du Yong, regardless of his wife's worries about the family's future, insisted on giving money to his younger brother. Xiaobai was completely disappointed with her husband and filed for divorce.

Du Yong experienced an unemployment. In his most difficult time, he thought of his younger brother. As soon as my brother heard that he wanted to borrow money, he began to perfunctory with various excuses and said, "My wife is in charge of the money at home. My child signed up for an art class last week and really has no money ... "

Du Yong lived for most of his life before he realized that human feelings were warm and cold. The wife who is willing to accompany him for a lifetime has left him, leaving only a lonely life.

Even brothers sometimes have to consider each other's "personality" and their wives' feelings. Once Libra loses its balance, women will be easily chilling.

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My other friend, Wei Gang, is a man who puts his wife first. He and Wang Ying have been married for almost ten years, and they have always been in love and harmony. He is a model couple in my eyes.

Wei Gang's brother likes drinking very much. Before getting married, Wei Gang often had two drinks with his brother. Wang Ying always reminds him that drinking is harmful to health and looks into his wife's worried eyes. Wei Gang put down his glass unconsciously.

On my brother's birthday, everyone eats and drinks together. Only Wei Gang never touches alcohol. My brother was unhappy and said, "Today is my birthday. You have to give me face anyway! " "

Wei Gang said, "I promised my wife that I would never drink again. Just have fun! " Everyone laughed at him for being afraid of his wife, thinking that he forgot his brother when he got married, and Wei Gang didn't care.

Later, my brother was going to do business, and he was a little short of funds, so he asked Wei Gang for help. Wei Gang thought about it and refused. My brother was very angry and said, "If you don't do me this little favor, do you still treat me like a brother?"

Wei Gang said, "It's not that I won't help you. But my ability is limited. You borrowed100000 from me before. It's been five years, and it hasn't been returned. Of that money, 60 thousand is my wife's dowry money. Now, my wife earns a lot of money at home. How can I lend you money again? "

For the sake of the harmony of the small family, Wei Gang became a little disloyal. Although there are many complaints and dissatisfaction in my brother's heart, the affection between Wei Gang and Wang Ying has become sweeter.

Smart people always keep a certain reason and analyze the hidden feelings between brothers. I will also spend more time to maintain and take care of my wife.

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How to balance the feelings of husband and wife and brotherhood depends on the way and mentality of men.

Cheng Wei has been married for six years. He knows how to handle the weight of these two feelings in life so that his wife will not feel left out and will not alienate his brother.

In normal life, Cheng Wei is very meticulous to his wife, accompanying her to chase dramas, doing housework together, and secretly learning new dishes to surprise her.

Young couples live a sweet life because both husband and wife have a heart and feelings have temperature.

When a brother is in trouble, Cheng Wei will not be indifferent. He will discuss with his wife and help his brother tide over the difficulties together.

I will also set up a positive image of my wife in front of my brothers and say, "My wife is generous and reasonable, and she is willing to let me lend you money to help you!" " "

Slowly, brothers and friends all know that Cheng Wei is still warm-hearted, and it is also his blessing to marry such a reasonable wife.

In fact, brotherhood and marriage are equally important in men's hearts. If one can't see another, life will never be complete.

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For men, the relationship between husband and wife and brotherhood is like the relationship between left hand and right hand. Losing either side will cause regret in their lives.

But it is important for men to prioritize, but in marriage, the affection between husband and wife is the most important. A wife gives everything for her husband, and a husband should also protect his wife.

Husband and wife take care of each other when they are young, and they will not be lonely when they are old. Based on heavy feelings, old people will warm each other's world.

On the road of life, the help of brothers and friends is indispensable. When a brother is in trouble, first discuss with his wife and then help according to his own ability, but it can't affect the relationship between husband and wife and their future plans.

A brother is a man's companion who walks together in his life, and his wife is often the one who knows the cold and the hot and contributes to him.

When a man gets married, it means that marriage occupies a certain proportion in his life. Therefore, when men care about brotherly relations, they should also pay more attention to the feelings of some wives, communicate more and discuss more in everything.

Only when a man knows how to balance these two feelings can he reap the happiness of his life.

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