Parents, as the first responsible person to give their children life, need the care of their parents, especially their mothers. Only by letting children grow up in a warm family and let them feel the care from their parents, children with love and nourishment will be more sunny and healthy.
The growth of children should be three-dimensional, multifaceted and multi-skilled, and the education of children should also be three-dimensional and all-round education. It is a pity to rely solely on school education and ignore family education. Educating children is a very complicated matter and a great undertaking. It is the wish of parents all over the world to "look forward to the success of children and the success of women". From a small point of view, this desire can make a person proud and brilliant. In a big way, it may create a sense of pride of a nation and even become a representative of politeness and progress.
For most parents, ignorance of family education or unwillingness to study related theories of family education leads to various problems in children's education. Family education for children is not only a comprehensive art, but also an extremely complicated process. It requires parents not only to have some knowledge and insight, but also to know how to better communicate with their children, mobilize their initiative, and let them get a good education in knowledge, making friends, being a man and self-cultivation, so as to urge them to give full play to their potential. I think the parent-child relationship between parents and children is particularly important in family education. As long as the relationship is good, many problems will be solved.
First of all, parents should learn to love and respect their children and become their bosom friends.
Parents should love their children. Maybe you will say, which parent doesn't love their children? But some parents' love can't be understood and recognized by children, because this kind of love is not based on equality and respect. In life, we should respect children, treat them as equals, establish a relationship of mutual trust with children, and be their bosom friends, so as to win their trust. A kind hug, a shallow smile, a persuasive guidance and a small gift will make children naturally feel the love given by their parents and enhance their trust in their parents, so we parents should use love to cultivate their children's good behavior habits.
Second, the premise of good communication between parents and children is listening.
Listening is an art as well as a science. Parents should put down their condescending attitude, learn to communicate with their children on an equal footing, calm down and listen to everything their children have to say. Even if you are busy and tired at this time, you should listen attentively. When children express their views on things, parents should learn to respect their opinions, don't deny them easily, and give them enough confidence and self-confidence. I think it is very important to cultivate their character.
Third, parents should encourage their children to dare to meet challenges.
Today's era is an era of fierce competition, so it is necessary to cultivate children's sense of competition and the spirit of daring to meet challenges from an early age. When children make even a little progress in their studies, parents should not be stingy with their praise and encouragement, so that children can have more motivation and enthusiasm for learning. The deepest desire of human nature is to gain the appreciation of others, and children are no exception. Parents' praise will arouse children's inner sense of self-worth and dignity, and urge them to further strengthen good behavior until they develop a good character. When he encounters difficulties and blows, we should cheer him up, help the children as much as we can, work together with the children and infect him with practical actions.
Fourth, educate children to have a big picture.
Regarding the pattern, my understanding is the degree of cognition of things and the choices made according to all my own cognition. How to make children have a big pattern depends on the subtle influence of parents. Usually, children always ask all kinds of strange questions, such as: Is there money at home? Do we have money? For example, why should I study and do things I don't like? Parents should take their children's questions seriously at ordinary times, answer their children's doubts about the world from the length, width and depth, and improve their way of looking at things little by little. In this process, we also have a clearer understanding of our parenting goals.
Parents should allow their children to protect themselves.
Defense is also a right. Some parents like obedient children, and children will do as their parents say. Once the child is found to have done something wrong, he will scold and beat the child. Not allowing children to defend themselves will not only convince them, but also create a kind of resistance, laying a bad root for lying and shirking responsibility. The child's defense itself is a process of orderly use of language, and it is also a process of communication between parents. If parents can consciously find some questions to argue with their children, their thinking ability and oral expression ability can be well trained.
A famous educator put it well: "The fate of a country is in the hands of parents rather than rulers." The education and cultivation of children is a very complicated science. Let our parents cooperate with teachers and schools to cultivate more and better talents.
Legal basis:
Law of the People's Republic of China on Family Education Promotion
Article 2 Family education as mentioned in this Law refers to the cultivation, guidance and influence of parents or other guardians on minors' moral quality, physical quality, life skills, cultural accomplishment and behavior habits, so as to promote their all-round and healthy growth.
Article 3 Family education takes moral education as its fundamental task, cultivates and practices socialist core values, promotes the excellent traditional culture, revolutionary culture and advanced socialist culture of the Chinese nation, and promotes the healthy growth of minors.
Fourth parents or other guardians have the responsibility to carry out family education for minors. The state and society provide guidance, support and services for family education. State functionaries should take the lead in establishing a good family style and perform their family education duties. Article 5 Family education shall meet the following requirements:
(a) respect for minors' physical and mental development laws and individual differences;
(2) Respecting the personal dignity of minors, protecting their privacy and personal information, and protecting their legitimate rights and interests;
(3) Follow the characteristics of family education and implement scientific family education concepts and methods;
(4) Family education, school education and social education are closely combined and coordinated;
(5) Take flexible and diverse measures according to the actual situation.