Try to live a good life. Read more books, exercise more, and see the world more. I have broadened my horizons and improved my psychological level. Not only do I feel less inferior, I am more confident, and I can help others. This is my opinion, I hope it can help you.
Some people use childhood to cure their whole lives, while others use their whole lives to cure their childhood. You should be referring to the latter.
Childhood injuries are engraved in your bones. Some injuries that you think you have forgotten are actually hidden in your subconscious. When something happens, they will jump out and affect your judgment, your life and your mood. You can only accept it, face it and learn to adjust yourself.
Inferiority, as long as I have ambitions and dreams, I don't care about anyone. I believe from the bottom of my heart that Mao Zedong is the most incompetent performance of a less wealthy farmer.
I want to get rid of the inferiority complex carved in my bones. It is possible, but not many people can do it. It is possible if you have a strong desire to drive away inferiority complex. If you can do this, it shows that you are a self-reliant person and the winner is strong.
I hope to get the attention of others, which shows that you are a good-looking person, which is inevitable. If you want to have face, you have to go through the painful experience that others don't give you face at first, or you feel that others look down on you. There is a good saying: too poor to be naive. These are all changes from inferiority to self-confidence. Tired of the blow, you start to care less about face and become a little numb. This is actually a self-help behavior. Besides, we have experienced so many blows and spent so many difficult years. We can't let these years and experiences be wasted. Every time we experience pain and blow, we should get to the bottom of it and reflect on why they do this to themselves. Where there are shortcomings, we will make up for them. In this way, through constant self-reflection, you will understand more and more things and gradually understand the law. I have an article about inferiority complex, "When you are looked down upon by others, it is time to improve yourself", which may be helpful to you. And what you said about overcoming inferiority complex, you are in the wrong direction to solve the problem. You can't overcome bad things. Overcoming refers to forcibly suppressing something, so overcoming does not solve the fundamental problem, but only temporarily suppressing it rather than uprooting it. To be correct, it is to replace, to replace inferiority with self-confidence. Self-confidence replaces inferiority complex, and there is no need to intervene. This is a natural thing. Of course, self-confidence can't be just spiritual self-confidence, (of course, self-confidence belongs to spiritual level), and spiritual self-confidence is supported by material level. It's crazy to tell yourself that you are confident when you are so poor. Solution: I definitely had a job at the beginning, and I was constantly hit and honed in the process of doing things. At the same time, I have accumulated some money over time, and the spiritual and material aspects have been coordinated and improved at the same time. With the material abundance, spiritual understanding and the improvement of the ability to withstand blows, your self-confidence will gradually replace the position of inferiority. Can't rush.
Compared with men, women need to make more efforts and be prepared to replace inferiority with self-confidence.
If a person even looks down on himself, who will look up to you? Even if you are poor, you won't eat his food. What does poverty have to do with others? It is true that people are not poor! In fact, don't feel that you are the poorest or ugliest. Actually, it's not like this. You don't know that there are many people who envy you, but they just don't tell you directly. Many people in this society live a hard life, but they don't hang their disappointments on their faces. They quietly buried themselves in their hearts and slowly digested themselves. As long as you don't steal or rob, and stand upright, there is no hurdle to get through. [Ross]
Being born in a family really has a profound influence on children. If you can't get out of the injury, you are likely to be restricted and hindered all your life.
But there are almost no perfect families, and almost all families will inadvertently bring harm to children. Or because of the disharmony between the husband and wife from the family, the children no longer have any hope for the happiness of marriage. Or children from single-parent families have Oedipus complex. Or self-confidence is dampened by parents' too strict discipline. Or because of parents' excessive pampering, Ma Baonan's character has been developed. There are countless injuries.
It is difficult for underage children to have a complete and powerful personality, so it is almost inevitable that they will be influenced by their family background, whether good or bad. The bad influence may lead to the deviation of life values, may form bad thinking habits and living habits, and may feel pain and misfortune in later life.
However, if the growth of life is completely limited by the imperfections that once existed in Origin and Fate, it is meaningless and has no positive effect to blame almost all the mistakes on the parents of Origin and Fate. It is totally useless to blame the problems existing in reality on past mistakes. It is the behavior of the weak to blame others for their mistakes and expect others' changes to bring them better results, and it often fails. Simply complaining about the harm that comes from your family can only be that you and your family are constantly immersed in the bitter water of the past, and you will not be happy because of it.
Happiness needs courage, first of all, the courage to accept the reality. Accept your parents' imperfections and accept the harm you have suffered because of the imperfections of your family. I can't accept the fact of injury, and I really can't get out. Time can't really resolve the injury, unless one's cognition has changed, one's previous injury has been truly reconciled, and one's imperfect parents have been reconciled.
After accepting it, you should also look at your injuries with a positive eye. There is never absolute harm, and any so-called harm will have its positive significance. Injury may make us have a deeper understanding of human nature, and perhaps a small injury will avoid a greater disaster. If no harm can knock us down, it will certainly make us stronger. There is only one reason for being knocked down, that is, we surrender in the face of injury and refuse to accept the growth opportunity that may be painful for us.
To be a happy person, you must first become a person who truly loves and accepts yourself. Happy people need to bravely accept the past, present and future. All the pain is caused by cognitive limitations, and the pain of Origin and Fate is also caused by parents' cognitive limitations. Parents love their children very much, but they often educate their children with ideas and methods that they think are correct, causing all kinds of so-called family problems. If these children still can't get out of the cognitive limitations, then this kind of injury will form a huge family inertia, resulting in the injury of the family from generation to generation!
Improve your cognitive level, improve your happiness ability, reconcile with yourself, with your parents and with the world, and you will eventually get more and more happiness, and you will eventually use your happiness to inspire more people to get happiness and growth! The word family origin has been mentioned for several years. The word "born in a family" seems to make it simple and accurate for everyone to find the cause and essence of a person's problem from the root.
First, the reason why being born into a family has become a hot word
Everyone is talking about the cause of the birth problem. Personally, there are three reasons:No. 1, everyone psychologically wants to find a reason for what everyone can recognize. Second, people usually look for very direct and simple reasons. Third, this principle is universally applicable.
But the real world is not like this, and it is not very simple. A person's growth environment, educational background, experience and personal thinking mode will have an important impact on his development. Being born in a family is very important, but it is only one aspect and can be changed. We can't simply blame everything on our family background.
The influence of family background on individuals is not completely unchangeable. The most important thing for a person's growth should be the way of thinking.
Second, suggestions
To change your confidence in your bones, I recommend you to read a book called Lifelong Growth. I think you can find the answer to how to avoid self-confidence in the book, and you won't blame self-confidence entirely on your family background.
Third, the way of thinking is more important.
In the book, you can compare the difference between fixed thinking mode and growth thinking mode. Insufficient, difficult to correct, blaming the problem on family background, more influenced by fixed thinking patterns.
If you can change your thinking mode, I believe you can change the problem of self-confidence. Family, background, parents and living environment were really important when we were young, but we also had no choice. But when you grow up, what kind of road you take and what kind of thinking mode you have are all your own choices. I hope we can all become more confident. Come on!
Every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. Hello, sister, brother, let me answer your question!
It is rare for deer to chase deer (money) now. If you want to be confident, first of all,
You must keep your body and mind healthy. Secondly, we must have enough "deer hunting" ability! As long as you are richer than others, you will be especially courageous. Of course, we must keep a low profile and avoid being assassinated by jealousy!
In China, son preference is really serious most of the time, and it's not just in your home. Sister, you can't change others, change yourself, learn more knowledge, earn more money, make more kind and wise friends, take a walk, climb mountains, climb mountains and overlook them, feel relaxed and happy, and see all kinds of life.
Never be lazy. People are also animals. You have to move to be active. Don't care what anyone thinks. Be yourself.
It is a blessing and a godsend that people can live safely and healthily in this world. How big the universe is, man is just a speck of dust. To borrow Chairman Mao's words, "study hard and make progress every day." Work hard to make money, and you will become more and more confident. Come on!
Why do you feel inferior? On the one hand, do you feel inferior to others? Or is it because the family is poor? Find the reason and redouble your efforts. Be the best of yourself! Never mind what others say.
Although I said it was a man, I grew up feeling inferior. My parents are honest people, and they really don't beat around the bush and play tactful two-faced. Such people live in China. I grew up in such a bullying environment. When I first started middle school in the county, my classmates in the city called me "village turtle" and looked down on me. I put up with it. At that time, I will also find some "big bosses" in the society to do it, so that I can study quietly, go to college, win honor for my parents, and fight for my hopes and future. It's not an easy journey! Yes, Chaoshan people in Guangdong prefer boys to girls and have given birth to many girls. At that time, Chaoshan locals advocated the ethos of uniting people to solve problems by force and competing for territory and interests. There are more than 10,000 peasant brothers in Peng Pai, which may be a sign of China's cultural tradition. Now most countries in the world, especially those in Europe and America, have abandoned the law of savage jungle and embarked on a spiritual society of civilized society contract. Although China is relatively backward in this respect, I believe it will change in the near future. So, the world is changing, and so is China. You don't need to bind yourself with traditional ideas, don't feel inferior, go out and see the world culture and civilization, and you will have a brand-new idea. In the American presidential election, there was a poor girl from Hainan Island who had the courage to run for president in the United States, the most powerful country in the world.