? What is gender education? Simply put, gender education is to let the baby know whether he is a man or a woman. You may also want to ask, what is the use of letting children establish gender awareness? The so-called difference between men and women, no matter what kind of social culture, has different requirements for boys and girls, so that children can clearly understand their correct gender roles and help them form their own personality style.

Therefore, in order to make children better integrate and adapt to society with correct gender roles in the future, gender education needs our attention. So, what kind of gender education do children need?

When is the best time for gender education?

Children's understanding of the concept of "gender differences" is really much earlier than parents think. The concept of "women = long hair wearing skirts and high heels, men = short hair wearing pants" will probably last until about 3 years old, and then children will gradually understand that the original gender is not based on appearance. Therefore, the earlier sex education, the better. We can guide the baby from birth.

? How to carry out gender education?

Gender education is to let children accept their own gender and learn how to treat the opposite sex. And children's cognition of their own gender comes entirely from the guidance of their parents. Parents' unintentional mistakes may lead to children's misunderstanding.

1.？ Start with the details of life

The different requirements and parenting styles of father and mother in various aspects will promote the formation of baby's gender orientation and gender role behavior, so that it will gradually produce specific activity tendencies. Once the activity tendency of boys and girls appears, we can continue to strengthen it in various ways, such as:

As soon as the baby is born, parents will choose a blue dress with a car pattern on it for the boy. On the contrary, I will choose a pink heart-shaped dress for my baby daughter. (It's not that boys can't wear pink, and girls can't necessarily wear blue, but clothes and colors that are more suitable for gender characteristics will guide children to correctly define gender in the future. )

Dad takes his son to take a bath, and mom helps his daughter to take a bath, so that the baby can realize that the boy will become a man like dad when he grows up, and the girl will become a woman like mom when she grows up. We can also use the intuitive scene of bathing to tell the baby where others are not allowed to see and touch. Learning to protect yourself is also an important part of gender education.

2. Strengthening personality characteristics is more important than gender characteristics.

There are men and women in gender, but there are no men and women in character strengths.

In our life, there are also many quiet and introverted boys and bold and cheerful girls. For example, some excellent men, or husbands of other people's families, will have some so-called "feminine characteristics", such as being delicate and gentle, willing to take care of people, being more meticulous in their work, and cooking and taking care of children even better than their mothers. Of course, "boyish" female images are not uncommon: their characters are decisive and brave; They are full of passion in life and can fight for love in the workplace; They are not superstitious that "women only need to be responsible for beauty."

It is important for us to establish a correct gender awareness for children, but it is obviously harmful to force the so-called gender label on the baby's personality and dictate what boys should do and what girls should do, which is likely to limit the development of children's behavior and talent.

We should treat children like adults. Children need clear and definite gender education, and the earlier they receive education, the better.