What is "happy education"? The scholar who put forward happy education is Mr. Spencer, a famous British philosopher, sociologist and educational theorist. He suggested that to know how to educate children, we must first know in what state education is most effective, so a large number of practical and psychological studies have proved that children learn most effectively in a happy state.
Then with the development of the times, compared with the hard work in the past, the current economic conditions and living environment are getting better and better, and parents are becoming more and more persistent in happy education. On the one hand, they want to reduce the burden on their children, on the other hand, they want to cultivate a kind and optimistic child. In fact, the starting point is good, but many parents have gone into the misunderstanding of "happy education" and over-interpreted this concept.
Happy education should vary from person to person, from time to time and from thing to thing. In a parenting group, many parenting experts mentioned "happy education" and praised it very much. Some parents said that parents should create a "happy growth environment" for their children. In fact, advocating "happy education" is to let children study in a happy mood, which I recognize, including our parents themselves.
But "happiness" is not blind and needs to be handled flexibly according to different people, things and spaces. What's more, emotions and sorrows are children's emotions and expressions. Parents should respect their children's emotional changes, put themselves in their children's shoes and guide them out of the state of being controlled by emotions. Children don't necessarily need "happiness", they need to be comfortable.
Blindly "happiness" is not the only solution. Children are depressed, there must be reasons for his depression, such as quarreling with friends, unhappy family environment, disagreement between parents, injuries, unforgettable things, poor exams and so on.
These are collectively referred to as small setbacks in children's growth. What parents should do most is to enlighten according to different things. We allow children to vent their emotions, but after venting their emotions, we should also persuade and enlighten them to avoid some negative emotions from continuing to affect them. You know, sometimes bad emotions are not vented and accumulated in your heart, which may lead to quantitative changes.
When children take learning and exploration seriously: We advocate encouraging children to learn and explore with happiness, but we should know that the process of pursuing happiness is a bit sloppy and hedonistic, so when children take something seriously, we should encourage and support them instead of telling them, "It's okay, don't give yourself too much pressure." After the experience, pressure can be transformed into motivation, but this pressure must be for the children themselves.
In some strictly disciplined occasions: in some specific occasions, you should not laugh and curse, but also keep a solemn mood and maintain the atmosphere of the scene. In this case, "happiness" does not apply. In the process of adapting to the environment, respecting the environment is the first rule.
In fact, the real definition of happiness education should be to face everything in life with a positive and optimistic attitude. Of course, in the end, children should live with the most comfortable feeling, and comfort should be the ultimate feeling of happiness. Therefore, our parents should not over interpret the word happiness.