When children reach puberty, many problems follow. Children will argue with their parents and even yell. Become less clever than when I was a child. Children also began to have worries and were unwilling to tell their parents. Parents regret that their children have changed, but they don't think deeply from the child's point of view. Adolescent children are almost as tall as their parents, and are no longer babies that parents need to hold in their hands. They have their own thoughts, their own preferences and their own choices. Children no longer need their parents to do everything. Children are birds that are about to be released, so parents should relax the shackles on their children and get along with them in a more equal way. Bian Xiao suggested that parents should make friends with their children and find bonds in new ways of communication.

Give children space and privacy.

When a child is older, he is no longer a child who can run around naked. The child is slowly growing into an independent individual. What a complete and independent person needs, what a child will need. In other words, children will start asking for space and privacy. As parents, we must respect our children, give them space and privacy, and understand the sudden changes in their lives. For example, children don't laugh unscrupulously in front of their parents, but smile politely. If a child has something on his mind, he would rather hide it in his heart than tell his parents. This is a process that children must go through, and it is also a hurdle for parents in the process of their children's growth. Parents should never think that their children are rebellious and unwilling to be intimate with their parents. As Bian Xiao said, parents need to find a new way to get along with their children. Therefore, parents should also change their daily behavior. Parents are no longer allowed to enter their children's rooms at will. Instead, they have to knock on the door first and ask the children's permission before they can enter. If you want to rummage through your child's belongings and read his articles, you'd better ask his permission. This is a place where both sides can see. In private, parents should also abide by this rule. Don't think that children won't know that people are sensitive animals, and children will have their own judgments when they are mature. Therefore, even if children go to school or go out, they will never go to their children's rooms to rummage through their personal belongings, especially diaries, mobile phones and other relatively private personal belongings. Parents give their children some freedom, and children will feel the hardships of their parents. As long as children pass this stage, they will naturally open their hearts to their parents as they did when they were young.

Fair/equal treatment

Adolescent children are more mature psychologically. As a member of the family, children also have the right to participate in family decision-making. If you need to buy new furniture at home, don't forget to ask your children for advice. In this way, the child will feel that he has the right to speak at home and his parents will give him some respect. Joint decision-making can be said to be an important means to maintain a family. Parents should also pay attention to their words and deeds in their daily interactions with their children. They should not take out their children's anecdotes as they did when they were young, nor should they bosse around their children, touch them at will, and be as gentle as possible. As basic as getting along with friends. Children who are growing into adults are just a little rational and a little irrational. A little excessive behavior of parents may cause discomfort and disgust to children and worsen the parent-child relationship.

In a word, education is a course that needs to be studied forever. Parents should find the best way to get along with their children in the constant running-in with them. I hope this article by Bian Xiao can bring some inspiration to parents and let them go further on the road of parenting.