0 1, it is impossible to reason with boys.
Compared with girls, boys lack the ability of language communication and empathy. This makes it difficult for boys to listen to reason.
Facing the boy's unreasonable troubles, parents should not only educate him on the level of "reasoning", but should establish rules and punish him if necessary. Let children know what is the insurmountable bottom line, and if they cross it, they will be punished, supplemented by reasoning.
Parents can't do whatever they want. If they are in a bad mood, they will have a meal. If they are in a good mood, they will indulge. It is also best for the family to reach an agreement that parents can't punish the same thing, but grandparents condone it.
02. Understand the stubbornness of boys.
Boys are stubborn. The more impossible they are, the more they will try. From infancy, boys don't accept setbacks as comfortably as girls, and they don't like to accept advice and help from others. Once he has decided something, it is difficult to force him to change his mind.
Many parents think that the boy's stubborn personality must be a problem with his tutor, and he is more anxious, and sometimes even forces his child to make changes.
In fact, it is normal for boys to be stubborn. This stubborn personality also has a positive side. Such children usually have more character and don't go with the flow. No matter how powerful and mature the people around you are, they will not pose a threat to them.
Moreover, stubborn boys tend to be more single-minded and dedicated, and will master some knowledge and technology in a short time. If you combine this character with endurance, you usually have a higher chance of success.
Therefore, parents should not force their children to change their minds, listen to their hearts more, and at the same time, don't be too accommodating, teach their children to know how to choose, be more patient and guide them with appropriate methods, and give them enough time to adjust their mentality. If parents force their children not to do something or to accept help, they will feel really frustrated.
03, after three years old, dad is the main force.
For families with boys, mothers should consciously "abdicate" from the age of three.
First of all, if the mother-child relationship is too close, it will make the father have no "foothold" in the family. The alienation of his father will make boys more attached to their mothers, and it will be difficult for them to integrate into the collective when they grow up, thus being surrounded by inferiority.
Secondly, mothers will demand their children according to the principles and standards of women. Boys are naturally fond of moving, exploring and taking risks. Mother's "loving mother" psychology and gentle personality will give too many restrictions and protection, and it is difficult to show the boy's nature.
As he grows up, his father will become more and more a role model and benchmark for boys. If the father seldom helps his wife with housework, he will form the impression in the boy's mind that housework is a woman's business and men have the right not to help. Then boys will naturally not do housework.
On the contrary, if the mother is the "boss" of the family and the father is "obedient" and has no right to speak, then it is very likely that the boy will think that men are as timid as their fathers.
After the boy is three years old, his mother will take a step back and give up his position to his husband. Dad should also set an example, tell children how to get along with others, clarify rules, cultivate children's self-control ability, and let boys learn to grasp the "degree" of their behavior.
Boys also need more hugs.
When children are four or five years old, they already have gender awareness, and parents begin to consciously cultivate their children's masculinity-
The boy fell and told him: Where did you fall, you should get up by yourself;
The boy is timid and tells him: A man should be brave enough to accept the challenge and don't flinch easily;
The boy was very sad and told him: men don't flick when they have tears.
Many times, when a little girl of the same age is sad and tears, her parents will regard it as normal and comfort her softly; When a boy of the same age is in tears, although his parents are heartbroken, they always try to teach the boy to be strong and be a little man.
In fact, the so-called man does not live with a frown, but dares to love and hate and live happily; It's not that there are pains and tears to swallow, but that it's time to allow yourself to do nothing.
Therefore, when the boy falls down again, his parents can go to him and squat down to help him check the injury and tell him that he knows his pain.
When a boy encounters difficulties and wants to give up, his parents can encourage him to try, but they will also let him know that he has the right to give up, and everyone will be afraid.
When a boy is sad and tears, his parents can tell him that it is not a crime for a man to cry and give him a warm and solid hug.