How to be an excellent mother? Just as parents want their children to grow up happily, parents also need to be a good role model. I've compiled information about how to be a good mother for everyone. Let's have a look.
How to be an excellent mother 1 (1) is good at psychological adjustment.
Everyone will inevitably encounter difficulties, setbacks and unsatisfactory things in life. In contrast, modern women are under greater pressure. However, many mothers are not good at calming their emotions. If they encounter some troubles or grievances in their lives, it will be unpleasant to go home to see their children. These will bring great harm to children's psychology. A good mother should be good at psychological adjustment.
(2) Confidence
Many mothers always feel that their career development is very general, they have no sense of security and belonging, and they often deny themselves. After a long time, they will begin to deny themselves and others at the same time, so when they discipline their children, it is not easy to see their advantages, and they often only focus on their shortcomings and enlarge them infinitely. A wise mother should be confident and believe that her child is the best, thus shaping her child's self-confidence.
(3) Be optimistic.
Some mothers are tired of living conditions, pessimistic about life and work, and always think the worst of everything. Sighing all day is also a mental blow to children, which leads to poor self-confidence and pessimism about society and life. A mentally healthy mother should be not only confident, but also optimistic.
(4) Don't ask too much of your child.
Many mothers expect too much from their children and can't tolerate their children's failure. This is mainly because they are eager for success and their own psychology is too fragile. They often take test scores as the standard to measure whether their children can become talents. Do not pay attention to process learning, only pay attention to learning results. This view of education often makes children lose the fun of growing up. Therefore, don't ask too much of children, which will only dampen their enthusiasm, but it will be counterproductive.
Nowadays, being a parent is a very challenging thing. With the increasingly open society, children can intuitively understand the adult society through mass media. They think that they have a thorough understanding of the adult world and the authority of adults is lost. Therefore, as a mother, we must learn to treat our children as independent people with their own thoughts and rights, respect their personality, discuss issues with them on an equal footing, and constantly enrich themselves and improve their quality. Only in this way can we be a qualified mother.
How to be a good mother II. Set an example and be a good mother.
In daily life, we should use body language to promote parent-child relationship and set an example to emphasize and adhere to the basic principles of life. Parents are a mirror, and everything you say and do is in the eyes of children. Children especially like to imitate, so our mother must be strict with herself and set an example.
Don't accuse learning to praise children.
When children have deviations in their studies, point out the correct solution to the problem for them, and don't blame them blindly. Don't underestimate the benefits of praise. My baby just eats soft, not hard. You should praise her a few words. That day, she was very obedient. She will take the initiative to do homework, practice the piano and help with housework.
Take the children out for outdoor activities.
The fresh air outside is good for the health of adults and children. If you have time, don't play with your mobile phone or go out for karaoke with your big friends. Be sure to spend more time with your children, because you are no longer single, you have a baby, and you have a responsibility.
Make friends with children
Learn to encourage children with positive language, respect their personality, communicate with children with equal and friendly words, and never condescend to reprimand them at will. We often go to experts' classes, and they say that we must be friends with children, and they agree very much. And your children are happy to be friends with their mothers, and they will be friends when they grow up.
Learn to make children independent.
Don't spoil and pamper children in some ordinary things, let them learn to be independent. Children grow up day by day and can't always treat them as flowers in the greenhouse. Let him stand on his own feet and have the opportunity to do some simple housework by himself. On weekends, he can mop the floor and wash dishes or do his own laundry.
You should also keep charging and learn more new things.
As a mother, we should constantly learn new knowledge and obtain information, so as to keep up with the pace of the development of the times, be children's intimate friends, know the concept of educating children, and at the same time care about their growing troubles, take good advice, relieve their worries and guide them to be positive.
Love your family and your man.
Don't quarrel with your husband in front of the children, love the man who loves his family, and be filial to both parents in front of the children, so that the children can learn to be filial to their parents in the future. Filial piety comes first, and a filial child will become a caring and outstanding person when he grows up.
How to be a good mother 3 First, manage your emotions.
Nowadays, most women are under the pressure of life. They need to go to work during the day and take care of their families and children when they go home at night. Sometimes it will inevitably bring unpleasant negative emotions in the company home, thus affecting family harmony. A psychologist in Taiwan Province Province said that from the perspective of human evolution, mother is the soul of a family, and her happiness makes the whole family happy, while her anxiety makes the whole family anxious, which shows the importance of her emotions to a family. Therefore, before the mother comes home from work, she must distinguish between work and life, and never transfer the negative emotions unrelated to the child to the child. After all, the child is innocent.
Every child wants to have a gentle mother, and the happiness of a mother is also the best education for children, so learning to manage your emotions is the first step to become a competent mother.
Second, we should know some common sense of parenting psychology.
Man is the only animal that can accept psychological hints, which are both positive and negative. Mother is the person that children trust and rely on most, and also the person who gives psychological hints. Therefore, mothers must know some psychological common sense, constantly give their children some positive psychological hints, and let them learn to be optimistic, independent and confident, and learn to be grateful, share and respect others.
Third, never chatter in front of children.
As a mother, it is inevitable to educate children when they encounter some problems and make some mistakes. At this time, the most taboo behavior is chattering, which will not only solve the problem, but also reduce the mother's right to speak and influence in front of her children. In fact, the best persuasion effect is not the number of languages, but the key points, so mothers should learn to express their positions in simple and powerful words on appropriate occasions, so that educating their children will get twice the result with half the effort. Don't chatter at will, because the result is not only futile, but sometimes even counterproductive.
Fourth, "weak" mothers teach "strong" children.
Of course, "weak" mothers do not mean weak personality, but suggest that mothers learn to show weakness in front of their children at the right time. Research shows that it is difficult for children of strong mothers to be confident. On the contrary, mothers who can show weakness in front of their children gradually become more confident and powerful inside. Therefore, a qualified and excellent mother should learn to show weakness in front of her children. Only by showing weakness can she help her children grow and develop better.
Fifth, be confused when you are confused, and learn to save face for your children.
In the process of children growing up, it is very important to save face in front of others. Guttmann, a doctor of education at the University of Georgia, once said, "Children who go to school have a stronger sense of self, and they care more and more about their peers. Open confrontation will only make them angry, alienate you as much as possible, and it is likely to cause more bad behavior. " However, this does not mean that children should not be restrained when they make mistakes, but that parents should be confused for a short time when they are confused, and then find time to discuss his mistakes with their children privately. This can not only solve the problem efficiently, but also close the intimate relationship between parents and children.
Sixth, manage yourself and set an example for your children.
Children from infancy, curiosity, learning ability, imitation are very strong, often with children are generally mothers, so mothers are also the most direct imitation objects of children. So if you want your child to be what kind of person, first of all, you should be such a person, or someone who works hard in this direction.
I hope every mother can manage herself and set a good example for her children.
Seventh, don't judge children by their academic performance.
To be a qualified and excellent mother, we should also pay attention to: never take academic performance as the only criterion to evaluate children's quality. It is more important to know the quality of life of children, their ability to manage emotions and cope with setbacks, and their good interpersonal skills.
Summary: In most families in China, the responsibility for children's education is mainly borne by the mother. Children are mainly at home from birth to school, and spend the most time with their mothers. Therefore, it is the key to the happiness of children and the whole family that mothers manage their emotions and their living conditions well. Finally, I hope every mother can be an excellent and competent mother, and I wish all mothers a good mood every day!