At present, the status quo of family education is: parents attach importance to education, compete with each other, value wisdom over morality, ignore all-round development, and there are deviations and gaps in family education for left-behind children.

1. Parents attach great importance to education, have high expectations for the next generation and are eager for success.

Parents don't attach importance to education, and they all want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. As soon as the child is born, parents have high hopes for it and they feel anxious. They think that the more knowledge children know, the better. They can learn early or learn more, resulting in the phenomenon that it is better to consolidate books than to grasp watches.

2, competing to compare, blindly follow the trend.

Most parents are always keen on the comparison between their children, and even compare their children's weaknesses with the strengths of other children. This not only hit children's self-confidence, suppressed their fragile hearts, but also sowed the seeds of making children feel inferior, which affected their psychological and personality development over time.

3. Pay more attention to wisdom than morality and ignore all-round development.

In reality, most parents pursue a monopoly, that is, as long as they study well, they are good children! In the process of children's growth, parents are most concerned about grades. Laugh when you get good grades, frown when you get bad grades, which gives children an extremely wrong educational signal and seriously hinders the benign development of other factors besides grades.

4. The schooling of family education is biased.

In reality, some parents can't set an example and don't pay attention to creating a good family environment. But do whatever you want, despise your influence and ignore the truth that setting an example is more important than teaching by example. Some parents are confused in education, unable to grasp the root causes, and even put the cart before the horse.

At the critical moment of children's growth, they lack the cultivation of moral quality, the shaping of values, the development of emotional will and the exercise of labor movement, blindly strengthen the study of book knowledge, make the family like a "second classroom" and become a vassal of the school, and make family education and school education unbalanced.