To tell the truth, all parents know that yelling is not only ineffective, but also makes them low, but they are above, who can stand it? ! Yelling and crying are all light, and many people can't help but move their hands. After five years of struggle, my family has now formed several unwritten principles:

Mutual backup

LG and I, if we find that one side has entered a skyrocketing situation, the other side should bravely intervene, interrupt the conversation and change people! Don't let things escalate indefinitely.

Timely pause

Repeatedly emphasize to yourself in your mind, "It's almost overtime!" Many times, looking back, I found that the more I talked, the more angry I became. Because you talk too much, children will get bored and emotional, and no matter how scared they are, there will be no good result anyway.

Must be solved

No matter what the final battle situation is, we must finally reconcile with our children. You must never leave without your book. If you like it, you lose.

Avoid over-limit effect

The last term "over-limit effect" refers to the psychological phenomenon of psychological impatience or resistance caused by too much stimulation, too strong and too long action time. For example, when children are repeatedly blamed, it is easy to have boredom and rebellious psychology after exceeding their inner limits; It is even easy to have the idea of escaping and giving up psychologically; The accumulation of emotions may eventually lead to anger, disgust and even hatred.