1. Let the children know that their parents still love them: Parents who continue to raise their children should always express their love for their children with words and actions, so that their children can feel happy and safe and their bodies and minds can develop well.
2. Explain the reasons of single parents carefully, and don't bring any negative thoughts to children: if parents are separated, neither party can speak ill of the other in front of the children, let alone often blame the other party after separation. Let children gradually understand that separation is because parents no longer love each other. This is an adult's decision and choice, not anyone's fault.
3. Fathers should be mothers, and mothers should be fathers: No matter what kind of parenting style parents used to have, after becoming a single-parent family, they should change themselves appropriately and adopt another parenting style to make the baby's personality development more complete.
4. Let children learn to bear family responsibilities: Don't spoil children because they have lost their father's love or maternal love, but let them do what they can with confidence and boldness. Encourage children to do what they can, so as to cultivate their independent ability. Let children know from an early age that they also have certain responsibilities to their families.
5. In view of the characteristics of children in single-parent families who are introverted and withdrawn, let children have more contact with society and create more opportunities for children to communicate with each other.
6. Quietly tell children the fact that their parents are divorced and encourage them to face the reality bravely. To do this, first of all, the party who lives with the children needs to calmly accept the reality of divorce. So you can face your child calmly and tell him that you are going to start a new life.
7. This kind of life will be a little different from the original, and you need to make some adjustments to adapt; You will encounter some difficulties and need your joint efforts to overcome them. But no matter what happens, mom and dad still love you as always and will never change.
8. Give children a sense of security and don't use children as a weapon to retaliate against each other. The biggest blow to children from parents' divorce is a sense of insecurity. Therefore, it is very important for children to know that although their parents are divorced, they will never lose their love for their parents. Let him feel that although he only lives with his parents, his life is as safe and stable as before, and there is nothing to worry about. To do this, it needs the cooperation of both parents, which is very difficult for most divorced couples. You may not want to cooperate with someone who may cause you a lot of pain, but you can't transfer your gratitude and resentment to your children.
9. After all, both sides are the children's biological parents, and the affection between them cannot be erased. If hatred is imposed on children, it will not only bring great psychological pressure to children, but also make them lose love when they grow up. Therefore, you need to be rational and tolerant of those who have hurt you. Parents who raise children should allow their children to contact each other, and parents who don't raise children should visit their children more, so that children can feel that although their parents are not together, their love for themselves has not changed.
10, in a single-parent family, mother and son (father and son) should be independent in dependence. Two generations in a single-parent family are often too close emotionally, which is a natural emotional alliance, but excessive emotional dependence is easy to produce negative effects. Therefore, it is the wisest choice for single-parent families to let their children and themselves have the psychological awareness and ability to live independently.