Yesterday, after work, Mr. Pan talked with me a few words, which made me start to further reflect on my transformation. Indeed, my attitude towards students has changed qualitatively, especially the concept of home-school contact. I have always been grateful to the parents of110/class. Their good qualities helped me to change my mind to a great extent. I also learned a lot from parents' proper control over their children. Moreover, many parents in our class gradually have their own ideas, and they can also talk about their views and communicate with teachers when they communicate face to face. This kind of confusion is both universal and representative, and has a certain depth. So these exchanges so far, I have not only helped parents solve some puzzles in educating their children, but also found many ways from parents that I can educate students as a class teacher.
Briefly summarize some brief processes of my contact with my parents.
1, as the successor of the head teacher, especially the head teacher who took over in Grade Two, is under great pressure. At this time, parents attach great importance to their children. Moreover, compared with the first day of junior high school, parents' attention to their children's academic performance has also improved significantly. In addition, parents have begun to understand and understand some problems exposed in the study of senior one. Therefore, once the class teacher is changed, most parents have higher expectations for the new class teacher. Therefore, at this time, we must first gain the trust and recognition of our parents. At first, I didn't have any direct contact with my parents in class 1 1. But let the students recognize me first. Whether it is the initial education on the first day, or the regular education and classroom teaching education after that, I have deliberately lowered some requirements, deliberately making students feel that I am different from the former class teacher and even other class teachers. As students of this age, they like the class teacher with personality, hoping to be different and free, so they are willing to accept some initial policies. Therefore, I can quickly accept this new head teacher in my heart. That is, a few weeks ago, many students went back to tell their parents how good my new class teacher was. Parents' recognition of the head teacher depends largely on students' recognition of the head teacher. Once students like and recognize the head teacher, parents will also have a good impression on the head teacher between "hearsay".
2. Pay attention to the first communication with parents. A month after school started, some parents started calling me and came to my office to find me. I attach great importance to the first communication with parents I didn't know before, and grasp the principle: put myself in the shoes of my parents. During the whole conversation, I basically said something from the standpoint of parents, which can make parents feel that you, the head teacher, understand our parents and deserve our parents' trust, because you, the head teacher, can understand our parents and will certainly educate my children with their parents' mentality. Therefore, parents' trust in the class teacher will be further deepened.
3. Seriously hold the first parent-teacher conference. I happened to be training the first parent-teacher conference in Hangzhou after the mid-term exam last semester. At first, many parents thought I wouldn't come back for this parent-teacher conference, but I came back from Hangzhou half an hour before the parent-teacher conference started that day and took out the PPT prepared in advance. It is particularly important to hold the first parent-teacher conference seriously. This is the first real communication between the head teacher and all parents. The quality of your head teacher and the level of your speech are clearly exposed to every parent. So be sure to do your homework in advance, because there must be high-quality parents. Once your oral English level, your class management concept makes him feel that there is no standard. If this parent happens to be more appealing, it will be difficult for the head teacher to work in the future. Therefore, the first parent-teacher conference must not be "eaten" by any parent.
4. Keep in touch with parents at all levels in time. After the all-gender parent-teacher conference, the class teacher began to have a preliminary understanding of the overall quality of the parents in this class. However, all parent-teacher conferences can actually play a very small role. At this time, the follow-up supplementary contact is very important. Make full use of e-school, parents can feel the care and love of the class teacher for their children. During the training in Hangzhou, although people were not in the classroom, I controlled the situation in the classroom quite well. I will tell my parents as soon as any student has a problem, so that parents can feel that the head teacher is not here, and the children can rest assured that this class is no problem. The first step taken by the class teacher also made the parents really accept you from the bottom of their hearts, so the class teacher can send less information later, so that the parents can call the class teacher to understand the situation. So, this is the reason why at least 3-4 parents in our class call me to ask about their children after an average week.
5. Let parents and children find common goals. In view of the previous teaching experience, the reason why many students make teachers feel difficult to manage and pull is, in the final analysis, parents. For example, the teacher thinks that this child has the potential and ability to enter the senior high school entrance examination, but parents have been setting a goal for his child at home. Even if the teacher tries hard, the students are lazy and have no fighting spirit, because the parents' demands can already be met in his present situation. Why do they continue to work so hard? Therefore, it is very important for the class teacher to let students and parents reach a consensus on the goal of the senior high school entrance examination in the second half of the eighth grade. First, once students have a goal, they can make this "eventful autumn" less. Second, parents can start the senior high school entrance examination plan six months or even one year in advance. On the premise that the basic strength is not dominant, whoever acts first will have an advantage. After nearly half a semester's hard work, more than two-thirds of the students and parents in this class have reached a firm goal of the senior high school entrance examination. I think that as long as the target is there, the start of the action can be followed immediately. Many teachers say that I am lucky and my class is "safe". 11kloc-0/The fundamental reason why Class can "behave yourself" is that there is a spell on the head: the goal of the senior high school entrance examination. Target education is what I have been carrying out in recent years. Once a person has a pursuit and a goal, it is possible to have a heart and action. Otherwise, everything can only be illusory.
6. Actions after the goal should be step by step at different levels. After the goal is achieved, being a class teacher is to help students move with their parents. At this time, holding different levels of parent-teacher conferences can create an "illusion" for parents in the atmosphere: our children really can't fall behind at the critical moment of junior high school. Only when parents feel this way can we create a class-like atmosphere at home, so that students can always put learning first in class or at home. Therefore, at the beginning of this semester, parents' meetings will be held for students in Grade One and Grade Three, with the goal of emphasizing high school. Explain to parents what our parents and teachers need to do hard under the lofty goal. There are two steps here. For parents with strong acceptance and high quality, they can exchange ideas a little after the parent-teacher meeting and let him implement it. After all, the child is his own. However, for parents with low quality and little or no willingness to communicate with the class teacher, they should talk to the students alone after the parent-teacher meeting, directly point out this situation, and let the students create their own atmosphere. If it really doesn't work, if there are still fluctuations in the next study, parents need to be invited to communicate alone again. Therefore, among the parents of 13 people the day before yesterday, several of them attended the parent-teacher conference. Because of new problems, there was not much communication before, so this kind of face-to-face frank and unfair communication is needed.
Perhaps, the class teacher really has to spend a lot of effort in the whole process. But it's actually worth it. Let's make a simple conversion: a class teacher who has spent a lot of effort on home-school contact, because the students in his class have clear goals and quiet self-study, so their homework is carefully completed, so they all spontaneously go to the office to make up lessons. Usually, it is not that he complains to his parents, but that his parents take the initiative to find him to understand communication. As a result, a class teacher who is not in complete contact with his home and school is busy dealing with trivial matters in the class all day. Dealing with class emergencies all day, not doing this homework all day, sleeping in class, and sometimes complaining to my parents in person. Compared with the two, I am certainly willing to choose the former.
I admit that the overall quality of parents in110/class is high. However, even if I change classes, I can still "train" these parents in11kloc-0/. The head teacher and parents are not antagonistic, and the objects we serve are the same. Therefore, we must first have the concept of cooperation. As a partner, sometimes you can bluntly point out the ugliness of the other person's coldness, indifference, arrogance and rudeness, and even "answer blows with blows" to wake the other person up. Class teacher, don't put your position too high and think you are a saint. The head teacher can't put his position too low and praise his parents to the sky. How to grasp the "degree" in the middle and how to create your own personality charm really needs constant tempering and constant reflection. Of course, the premise is that you are an thoughtful class teacher and come up with some achievements.