My colleague told me about his girl, which is still fresh in my memory. He criticized his son for often comparing with another child upstairs, because the two children are in the same school and grade, the child upstairs is the top student in grade, and his girl is the so-called "student with learning difficulties". On one occasion, he criticized educating girls or comparing girls with children upstairs. "Look at Zhang Moumou, and then look at you ..."

Unexpectedly, the daughter who has always been clever came back angrily this time: "What do you think of Zhang Moumou? Let her be your daughter! You often say that this is not good for me and that is not good. Why don't you look at yourself? Many parents of my classmates drive to pick up their children every afternoon, and you hardly pick me up. It seems that there is only one time in total, or the battery car is connected. "

This time, his daughter's anger completely woke him up. Although there is a comparison mentality in her complaints, colleagues say that he can understand her psychology, and the main problem is him.

Many people must still clearly remember the murder of graduate students of Chinese Academy of Sciences. The perpetrators were his junior high school classmates and roommates. One of the reasons that can't be ignored is that parents often educate their children by "looking at other people's homes" and plant a distorted psychology of jealousy and hatred.

After all, sin is caused by parents.

Often compared with their own children, it is easy to dampen their enthusiasm and let them bear grudges. After a long time, it will rise to hatred. This hatred is multifaceted. First, I hate my parents; second, I hate the objects to be compared; third, I hate all people who are better than myself; fourth, I hate people who persuade me in good faith. ........

So in theory, the consequences of this comparison are quite serious.

Every child is unique in the world. Without two identical children, there are no two identical ways of education. The right one is the best. Bicycles have their own advantages and characteristics. You have to compare a bicycle with a BMW. There is no comparison. Every child is unique and can be the best. Why do you have to compare with others?