A prodigy? 、? Winner in life? Waiting for fame to flood in. But he was dismissed from school before he finished his studies. The reason is that his self-care ability is almost zero, and he can't live without his mother's help.

You can study hard and do nothing else. With this idea, his mother did everything for him, feeding him and washing his clothes. This kind of never-let-go education method makes children completely lose the ability to take care of themselves.

Many people say that the deepest love parents give their children is to learn to let go. Although it is difficult to let go of the child's hand, not letting go will really ruin the child.

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Parents' failure to let go does a lot of harm to their children.

1) Children's habitual dependence: in? Do not let go of education? When children grow up, it is inevitable that this will happen in their hearts? It doesn't matter if I can't do it well. Will someone help me? This idea.

Even if children have grown up, this idea will remain in their subconscious. So we can always see some? Giant baby? After you get married and have children, you have to live on the help of your parents.

2) Children have a sense of inferiority: when children are young, parents' reluctance has little influence on them, but when children enter collective life, their particularity is revealed. Seeing that you can't do anything well will breed feelings of loss and inferiority in your child's heart, and even lose the motivation to move forward.

Children can't live forever under the protection of their parents, and one day they will step into society. Parents should be prepared for this moment and let go of their children's hands in advance.

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Only when parents learn to let go can children really grow up.

1) Let children face setbacks: When there are setbacks in their children's lives, parents don't have to help them solve everything perfectly. At the right time, you can give your child a chance to face it.

At different ages, setbacks are different. When a child is young, it is a setback to fall down and get up again. It is also a setback for children to grow up and learn various life skills. Give children the opportunity to face setbacks, and children can complete the transformation.

2) Let go and trust children: Many times, not letting go stems from parents' distrust. Parents don't believe that children can do well and don't recognize their growth from the bottom of their hearts.

So parents always bring it? You can't do it well? Reject children's challenges and trap them in the greenhouse. If you want to learn to let go, parents must first overcome their own difficulties, believe that their children are growing up and believe that they can do it.

At the same time, we should also tell our children about this trust and say to them, why don't you try, mom? I believe you can do it? Even if the child is not perfect at first, parents should not intervene immediately. After repeated revisions, the child's ability can gradually mature.