Experience of family education Parents are the first teachers of their children. Everything we say and do has a profound influence on children. Family harmony and strong family atmosphere are objective conditions for a child to grow up healthily. Let children establish an independent personality from an early age, and then pay attention to their mental health development. Although the child is very young, he has strong self-esteem. Adults' words and deeds are always in their eyes and in their hearts, especially in the face of unfriendly accusations or complaints from outsiders, which will bring mental harm to children. After listening to this lecture, I have some experiences to share with you.
First, it is very necessary to have a good study and living habit, which should be reflected in the details of life.
To have good habits, we must first let children get used to thinking, give them enough freedom, and don't die too much, otherwise there will be rebellion in spirit. Be sure to start with small things when children are young, observe carefully, find bad behaviors in life in time, and correct and guide them; Give affirmation and encouragement to children's good behavior in life, make it a habit, and let children study and live with good habits.
Second, do a good job of communication with children.
In parent-child communication, we should pay attention to scientific methods: First, we should be good at listening. Only by listening to children's hearts and understanding their thoughts and needs can we give them targeted care and help, and it will also make future communication easier. Children tell you happy things, you should be happy; When a child tells you unhappy things, you should let him vent and show sympathy. When a child tells you a topic that you are not interested in, you should listen patiently to show that you care about his conversation. In this way, not only will children be more willing to talk to you, but also their language skills can be improved. Secondly, parents should learn to be friends with their children. If parents are always on top, it is difficult to make intimate friends with their children and there is no real communication. This requires parents to use their children's minds and talk to their children in a language that they can understand. Besides, be patient. There are great differences between parents and children in age, psychology, thoughts and feelings, and understanding needs a process. If you are too impatient, communication will become a bubble.
Third, we should cultivate children to read a lot.
Reading is a learning method to broaden children's horizons and acquire knowledge. It is also an entertainment that brings infinite fun to children. Therefore, we must first create a strong reading atmosphere for our children. Let reading become a way of life for him, and let children feel that reading is a very happy thing. So at home, there is always a fixed time to read books every night, no matter what kind of books, to give him a head start and create a learning atmosphere. Slowly, children also like online reading. Reading has not only become a living habit, but also become our mentor.
After listening to this lecture, I benefited a lot and deeply realized the importance of family education, a big topic of educating children. Especially in the cultivation of children's character, it is not in place. At home, controlling children's behavior requires my consent or approval, which seriously hinders his imagination. Besides, there is impatience. Because of impatience and impatience, he not only spoke ill of his children again and again, but even hit them. When he saw the helpless and wronged eyes of the child, he woke up. He's just-he's just a kid. Experts say well: once a parent, you will always be a teacher, so from now on, start from yourself and every little thing, let the child have an independent personality and good habits, communicate with the child fairly, let him grow up happily and healthily, and let him become a knowledgeable person and a useful person to society.
The experience of family education The education of parents' second child is the most concerned and puzzled issue for parents. After listening to Professor xx's lecture today, I fully realized the importance of family education. Educating children should start with the education of parents and families. Parents should set an example and actively cultivate their children to form good habits from an early age. Children have strong plasticity, and childhood is the golden age of education. Grasping this important period is very important for a child and even a family. By listening to today's lecture, I have the following experiences:
First of all, parents should attach importance to family education.
Parents are children's first teachers, and children are most likely to imitate their parents' words and deeds. Only by organically combining family education with school education can they receive the best educational effect. Every five days in school, teachers consciously cultivate children's character, conduct, will and interests. And children are easy to accept and grow up. However, in the past two days on weekends, children are easily spoiled by their parents at home, and they have no regular study and life. After five days, they forget the good habits cultivated at school. Only when parents realize the importance of family education and take the initiative to do it well, can children grow up healthily, grow into towering trees that shelter from the wind and rain, and become the pillars of society.
Second, parents should set an example.
Children need to develop good study and life habits, which are most influenced by their parents. You told your children not to throw clothes about, but you left them on the sofa when you got home, and you kept asking them to tidy up their clothes. Will the children do as you say? Children are not allowed to watch TV and play games online, but when children are doing their homework, parents are staring at loud TV programs or sitting in front of the computer and playing all kinds of games selflessly. What do children think and how do they feel balanced? Therefore, parents should set an example and ask their children not to do it. First of all, they should not do it themselves. The best way is to accompany the children to do their homework, or when the children are doing their homework, parents can read books, newspapers and do some housework quietly, so that the children can feel that their parents are not at leisure when doing their homework, so that the children will have a sense of balance and be willing to do their homework.
Third, strengthen communication with children.
Parents should communicate with their children more, even if they are busy, they should spare some time to talk, chat and tell stories with their children. In parent-child communication, we should pay attention to scientific methods: First, we should be good at listening. Only by listening to children's hearts and understanding their thoughts and needs can we give them targeted care and help, and it will also make future communication easier. Children tell you happy things, you should be happy; When a child tells you unhappy things, you should let him vent and show sympathy. When a child tells you a topic that you are not interested in, you should listen patiently to show that you care about his conversation. In this way, children will be willing to talk to you, and parents can learn more about their inner world.
Fourth, learn to appreciate your children.
Appreciation leads to success, and complaining leads to failure. Encourage and appreciate children more, and constantly cultivate their self-confidence, self-improvement, self-esteem and self-reliance. Appreciation is love for children. If our parents can find the advantages of their children with loving eyes and point out and correct their shortcomings in the right way, "You can do it" and "You are great", with the encouragement of their parents, many children will change and grow in happiness. Don't criticize a child just because he didn't get a high score in the first exam. Encourage him to say "He did well in the exam" and "He did well in the exam", help him analyze the reasons why he didn't do it right or well, find ways to do it, and don't be helpless when encountering such problems next time. Appreciating children will bring them happy motivation and upward self-confidence. The secret is that it removes the huge stone of inferiority that is pressing on the child's heart, so the child's potential erupts like a volcano.
Fifth, create a good learning environment for children.
Environment can easily change a person, especially a child. Some people say that children's brains are fertile soil, and weeds will grow if crops are not planted. This shows the importance of the environment to children's growth. Husband and wife love and family harmony will make children feel the existence of love and the warmth of home. The affection between parents and children is irreplaceable by any emotion. Parents should cherish this affection. A harmonious family has a positive influence on children. Only when children live in a loving family will they have the interest and motivation to learn, and they will know how to love others and society. Parents should always read books and newspapers, so that children can feel that reading books and newspapers is a very happy thing. After a long time, children will naturally like to learn.
Children are the only parents. Parents have the responsibility and obligation to educate and train their children well. They don't want their children to make great achievements in the future. They just want their children to grow up healthily and happily, with self-confidence and self-improvement, independent personality, interest in learning, enthusiasm for life and love for others and society.
Experience of family education: parents 3. I educated my parents from the beginning to my own daughter now. My life experience tells me that parents are the lifelong teachers of children, family education is the foundation of all education, and the influence of parents on children is one of the factors that can not be ignored in their growth. This influence is subtle and lasting, which determines their development direction and affects their life. Now I will talk about my experience on the issue of family education.
First, give children a harmonious home.
The healthy growth of children is inseparable from a peaceful and safe family environment. First of all, a harmonious and peaceful family atmosphere gives him a sense of psychological security and happiness. To make children develop in an all-round way, a harmonious family is very important, and a warm family is established. Only in this way can they have confidence and interest in learning. At home, we should not only give children a harmonious and happy study space, but also cultivate their basic life skills, self-care ability, will and love to overcome difficulties as much as possible. Third, take time out to study and play with your children. Cultural knowledge is important, but games are essential for children. Parents should let their children get the joy of success in their studies and games, and let their children fully find fun in their studies and games. Let children feel the happiness of living in the family. Give children a happy growth space.
Second, love children, respect children and be their bosom friends.
In life, we should respect children, treat them equally, establish a relationship of mutual trust with them and be their bosom friends. Only in this way can we win their trust. Parents should love their children, maybe you will say that this truth is simple enough. What parents don't love their children? But some parents' love can't be accepted and recognized by children, so I often give my sensible daughter a kind hug, a shallow smile, a persuasive persuasion and a small gift, which will make children naturally feel the love given by their parents and enhance their trust in their parents. At this time, education is easy to implement and easy for her to accept. Therefore, our parents should cultivate their children's good behavior habits with love.
Third, the premise of good communication between parents and children is listening.
Parents should put down their condescending attitude, learn to communicate with their children on an equal footing, and calm down and listen to everything their children have to say. Even if you are busy and tired at this time, you should listen attentively and ask your child from time to time: "Is there anything interesting in school?" What classes do you have at school today? What have you learned? Wait a minute. Whenever I ask my daughter this question, she is always excited to report everything to me. When she expresses her views on things, I will listen carefully, discuss with her and analyze right and wrong, truth and falsehood, beauty and ugliness. I think it is very important to cultivate children's quality. Listening is an art as well as a kind of learning.
Fourth, encourage children to dare to meet challenges.
Today's era is an era of fierce competition, so it is necessary to cultivate children's sense of competition from an early age and dare to meet challenges. In study, I often encourage my daughter to say: You are great, you are so smart, and you can answer such difficult knowledge correctly. Dad worships you. She was very happy to hear this, which also aroused her enthusiasm for learning. I always encouraged her when she was in trouble. At this time, I will work hard with my child and infect her with practical actions, and I have done it.
Fifth, cultivate children's adaptability.
It has been the basic ability to survive since ancient times. In today's era of rapid changes and fierce competition in human society, people need stronger adaptability. Whoever has strong adaptability will survive, develop better and move towards the other side of success. From private kindergartens to public kindergartens, from kindergartens to Mei Chuan Experimental Primary School, and then to the primary school attached to Wuxue, there are also Red Doudou Dance Center and Guzheng Class. Daughters should constantly deal with different people and make friends with different people. There is a lot of helplessness, but it does exercise the child and enhance her adaptability. It can be said that it is also gratifying!
Seven, learn to be tolerant and patient.
Tolerance is a beautiful scenery. A person who can tolerate and tolerate the shortcomings and mistakes of others is indeed a noble person. Such a person is a beautiful scenery on earth. Tolerance is an ability. Half are angels and half are demons.
Ghost, it is not easy to forgive those who have hurt themselves. Our heart is like a container. When there is more and more love, hatred will be squeezed out. Only by constantly educating our children with love, filling their hearts with love, and treating people or things around them with a tolerant attitude, can hatred have a place and develop an open mind. Only in this way can we get more friends and help, and let ourselves grow continuously.
Eight, when something happens, allow children to defend themselves.
Defense is also a right. Some parents like obedient children, and children will do as their parents say. Once the child is found to have done something wrong, he will scold and beat the child. Not allowing children to defend themselves will not only convince them, but also encourage a kind of resistance, lying and shirking responsibility. The child's defense itself is a process of orderly use of language, and it is also a process of communication between parents. If parents can consciously find some questions to argue with their children, children's thinking ability and oral ability can be well trained.
Nine, the correct treatment of children's academic performance
Academic performance is a means to check students' learning, not an end. Parents should have a correct understanding of their children's exam results. Therefore, when parents receive their children's test transcripts, they should not only look at the scores, but also consider them from the perspective of understanding their children's study and life at school. There are many factors that determine grades. As parents, we should help our children analyze the reasons for their unsatisfactory grades, learn from their failures and sum up experience for future exams. It is necessary to encourage children's progress in a timely manner, help children to clarify the reasons for progress, and build confidence. If the child's test report card is regarded as a "reward and punishment notice", the high score will be given a material reward. Beating and scolding children when they see poor grades will only increase their fear of taking the exam again.
Ten, good at discovering and cultivating children's interests.
"Interest is the best teacher" Only by starting from interest can children enjoy learning. At an early age, children showed great interest in painting. They draw couples with children from time to time. Every time the children finish painting, they always show it to us with a sense of accomplishment. We will encourage them in time and point out how to improve and perfect them. Well, now the school has opened a painting interest class, which really suits her. I'm so happy. In addition, I also enrolled her in her favorite dance class and guzheng class. This not only cultivates her interest, but also enables her to develop in an all-round way, enrich her life and avoid watching TV and playing computer games for a long time. Why not?
Parents always love to educate their children into kites, let them fly high, and the end of the rope will not leave their hands. However, the child is willing to be a bird, eager to fly, and the home is warm, which will always be the first stop for the child to practice flying, not the sky where she flies. Parents' hands should not be used to bind their children's hands and feet, but to hone their wings. A famous educator put it well: "The fate of a country is in the hands of parents rather than rulers." The education and cultivation of children is a very complicated science. Let our parents cooperate with teachers and schools to cultivate more and better talents.
Family Education Experience Parents 4 Today, my daughter has become a middle school student and entered a special group in society. They are in the transitional period from children to adults, with their unique psychological development characteristics and various psychological problems. Therefore, our family education at this stage is particularly important, which not only has an important impact on children's life, but also has a certain impact on the improvement of the quality of the whole society.
I don't have any experience in children's education, but I just want to express my immature ideas and practices so as to communicate with you, learn from each other's strengths and improve together. Here, I want to talk about my superficial understanding of children's growth education. Since it is so important to do a good job in family education for middle school students, what should our parents do to give their children a good family education?
First, pay attention to children's "health"
"Health" here refers not only to physical health, but also to children's mental health. It is necessary to cultivate the habit of starting from one's own behavior, overcome the anxiety and fear of suffering, and correct the careless habit; Work and rest on time in life, do your own thing, don't be picky about food, don't spend money indiscriminately, don't be self-centered, and stand up to criticism and setbacks. Improve children's ideological and moral quality, scientific and cultural quality and health quality.
Second, create a good family learning environment for children.
At home, I first create a good family study environment for my children and have a relatively independent and quiet study place. Treat children with a normal heart, make friends with children, make children feel at home, dispel the sense of pressure, be willing to tell you something, and be willing to complain to you if you have difficulties; The second is to adopt the method of giving priority to encouragement and supplementing criticism. Spend more time with your children and communicate more. Praise more, encourage more, criticize less and blame less. Everyone is lazy. It is natural for children to play, and so are we adults. After a hard day's work, you also want to have a rest, play cards and chat with friends ... so, don't blame your children for their playfulness, and encourage them to finish their studies before playing. Check homework from time to time. Check homework to let children know that we are always paying attention to him. Parents have to make sacrifices at some point. Read and watch TV with your children, so that they can feel your care and love. I believe that "what you lose will be gained", you will find that your child's heart is close to you, your child will become sensible, and you will find that what you pay is worth it. In the past, my son didn't like to communicate with me and didn't take the initiative to say anything. He didn't know when he asked, and he didn't care. He asked a lot, he slowly observed and learned to think. He always tells me what is happening at school now. The third is to cultivate a sound personality, encourage him to participate in more collective activities and enhance the sense of collective honor. For example, I suggest parents encourage their children to participate in various activities organized by the school, so that children can have a strong team spirit. Because only in activities can children feel the collective strength and their real happiness!
Third, treat children as friends, understand more, praise more, encourage more, criticize less and blame less.
People need to communicate, and parents and children are no exception. I think: if we can find the right time to communicate with our children, get to know each other, put ourselves in their shoes and give them more care, then this kind of effort will definitely pay off. As a child, everyone wants to be the best, but it is impossible to be the first every time. I often say to my children, "We should have no regrets, we should have a clear conscience." I don't want my children to do great things, but I want to do every little thing well. You don't care about the result, but you must pay attention to the process. When a child fails the exam, help him analyze the reasons, find the gap, and don't make similar mistakes in future exam assignments. My purpose has been achieved.
Fourth, actively cooperate with teachers and schools.
Teachers are children's knowledge givers and road guides. As parents, we must actively cooperate with teachers and schools to do a good job. Teachers are not saints, nor can they be as perfect as our parents. Teachers want every student to succeed. Imagine that there is only one child at home, and we often feel very tired and it is difficult to educate. There are dozens of children in a class, and the responsibility and difficulty should be imaginable. Only when parents actively cooperate with the school can they form the greatest synergy with the school, help their children grow up and let them get the greatest development.
Fifth, we must first treat children's academic performance correctly.
It is every parent's wish to "look forward to a child becoming a dragon and a woman becoming a phoenix". In today's era when educational achievements are measured by the enrollment rate, the essence of family education is often concealed by academic achievements. Most parents only care about the scores of middle school students, but don't know how to guide middle school students to make continuous progress and improve themselves in their studies, so as to succeed. In fact, for every student, not all students have good academic performance and high test scores, and they will certainly experience success. Success or failure depends on students' attitude towards the test results. Therefore, parents should tell their children that they should be satisfied as long as they listen attentively in class, study hard and work hard, no matter how many points they get in the final exam, as long as they are better than before. Because progress is to surpass yourself, and surpassing yourself is a kind of success.
Sixth, let children learn to be independent.
By being close to nature and contacting society, we have broadened our horizons, cultivated our sentiments, exercised our bodies, tempered our strong character and cultivated our love for nature and human beings. He gradually learned a lot about being a man, truly realized the value of nature and life, felt the mystery of life, and began to pursue his own ideals.
Watching children change day by day, as a parent, I see it in my eyes and like it in my heart. I know that every progress she has made is inseparable from the teachers' earnest teaching, the selfless help of her classmates and the hard work of her parents. I have reason to believe that with our company and the scientific guidance of teachers, the children will grow up healthily and she will be our pride!