I am born after 80. Since I became a parent after 1980, I feel that although the concept of education has changed compared with our parents' generation. But for all parents in our country, there are still some problems in the process of educating their children. I think this has a lot to do with our traditional thinking in China and the educational environment in China.

Parents in China generally put their children's academic performance first, and it seems that the only criterion for measuring a child is academic performance. And ignore the child's mental health. Of course, I understand that every parent wants their children to do well in school and get ahead. However, focusing only on grades puts too much pressure on children's study. It will only make children unable to be released in the process of learning, resulting in rebellious psychology, and their academic performance may get worse and worse.

I like to compare my own children with other people's children. I often hear a word from my parents, that is, look at other people's children first, and then look at you. And he often scolds his own children in front of other people's children. In fact, this practice is very wrong, which not only makes children lose their self-esteem, but also produces inferiority complex. And it will make children feel that their parents don't love him enough. Such a child's self-confidence will be seriously frustrated. It is very unfavorable for him to enter the society in the future.

There is too little time to spend with children. In fact, children need their parents' company very much. Effective parents' company can not only enhance their self-confidence, but also make them get enough love. It can also better cultivate parent-child relationship, and good parent-child relationship has a very important impact on future family harmony. In adolescence, when children are rebellious, if there is no good parent-child relationship as the premise, then adolescent children will have many contradictions with their parents.

It's easy to overlook the advantages of children. Although parents love their children, many parents are often not good at discovering the advantages of their children. When a child goes to school, he only pays attention to his grades and can't see other bright spots and advantages in him. In fact, 360 lines, each line is the best. If you always stare at your child's academic performance and ignore his development in other aspects, it may ruin a child's bright future. Nowadays, all countries advocate quality education, which includes the all-round development of children, and parents should also pay attention to cultivating their all-round development.

There are many problems in family education in China, and they are not isolated phenomena, perhaps influenced by the domestic environment. So I hope all our parents will reflect on how to love their children.