How to guide children who are unwilling to go to school;
1. Control your emotions, don't beat and scold, and communicate well. Children don't want to go to school. As parents, they will be angry, but we must control our anger. You know, beating and cursing can't solve the fundamental problem, it will only make children more rebellious. What we have to do is to have a good talk with our children, find out why they don't go to school, and see if they have any conditions and requirements. ?
2. Understand the pressure of children. You should think more about your children. Children are naturally under great pressure not to go to school. They didn't encounter anything particularly serious, or they really couldn't stand it, and they wouldn't do such behavior. You should think about the problem from the child's point of view, so the problem can be solved easily. ?
Don't rush to solve the problem. Don't rush to solve the problem that children don't go to school. When the child's mood is stable, discuss with the child, ask the reason why the child doesn't go to school, and then make a decision according to the reason. Parents should keep calm, take good care of their children and let them feel guilty psychologically first. ?
4. Solve children's problems according to the reasons. Solving it and eliminating children's psychological worries and troubles is the solution. ?
5. Communicate with your child's teacher. If the child is introverted and doesn't communicate with himself or tell himself why he doesn't want to go to school, parents can contact the child's teacher to ask about his recent performance in school and the reasons for not going to school, and cooperate with the teacher to solve the problem of his not going to school. ?
6. Let the child's good friend do the child's work. Children still have common topics to talk about. Let children understand their parents' pains, be considerate of their parents, and don't be too willful. It should have some effect. ?
7. Rest at home for a while. Children really don't want to go to school. They are particularly tired of learning. If there is no way, they can rest at home for a while. If they are alone at home all day, they will feel bored. They will, according to their age, let their children go out to work with them, eat a little bitter, get tired, and let their children realize that life is not easy. Children will go to school as soon as they think of a good school.
How did children get tired of learning?
0 1 begins with parents' anxiety.
Entering primary school, the competition for children's growth officially kicked off. The competition for the starting line forced parents to try their best: staring at their children's homework every night, immediately correcting behaviors such as desertion, misspelling and miscalculation, arranging extra extracurricular exercises, strictly controlling children's play time, being particularly enthusiastic about various extracurricular remedial classes, and often instilling learning-related truths. Children's grades and performances have become a barometer of parents' emotions ... Parents who are controlled by education.
Start with children denying themselves.
More and more children fall into the social background of attaching too much importance to academic performance and future success. Children feel that the learning process is very painful and boring, and their parents' efforts make them lose their sense of control (a person can easily become pessimistic and depressed without a sense of control for a long time).
Start with the lack of love in the family.
Sometimes, in order to make their ideas implemented at home, one or both parents come to please their children or slander the other in front of them. In such a divided environment, children have no intention to study at all after they arrive at primary school, their grades are countdown, they are timid and afraid of interpersonal communication. Later, parents felt that their children's problems became more and more serious before consulting, but even during the consultation process, they blamed each other, and they didn't realize that it was the terrible family atmosphere they created together that hurt their children.
Children don't want to go to school, depending on the specific reasons. We should communicate with children more. You have to find out the cause of the problem and guide it. Parents should affirm, encourage and praise every progress their children have made in school. It is right to be strict with them. When problems arise, we should help and educate children. We shouldn't just criticize and blame them, and make them feel rebellious about going to school. Remember that children love to brag, and we should treat their progress and shortcomings dialectically.