1, educate children not to "combine punishment for several crimes"

"Combined punishment for several crimes" first shows that parents usually spend too little time with their children and care too little. Secondly, it also shows that parents love to "bear grudges" and like to turn over old accounts.

Sometimes it's not your words that make no sense, but your way is wrong. If you use the wrong method, education must be ineffective. As parents, all power means responsibility, and such responsibility forces us to change.

2, can't be angry and educated.

In education, restraint is more important than catharsis.

When children make us angry, we must bear it and don't get angry in a hurry, because no matter what we do, the "first thought" that comes out first is often problematic.

Sometimes the mistakes made by children may be nothing, but they are not what we want, or they just hit the muzzle of parents' emotions at the wrong time.

For parents, the so-called restraint is to avoid the "first thought", and the treatment of children "righteously" should be changed to "righteously".

Strict discipline means strict principles, strict mind and as sincere, gentle and patient as possible.

3, I can't think of education.

Educating children must be persistent, and educating children must not ignore details.

A friend saw an old woman taking a bus with her little grandson in England, and the boy stepped on it first. The result was stopped by grandma who wanted to go first and said to the boy, "Ladies first!" "

Gentleman education is probably developed from such an early age!

Paul clark, a famous American teacher, wrote a book "Excellence is made", which pays special attention to the details of children's education, such as not talking to food, if someone holds the door for him when pushing the door, looking at people with kind eyes and so on. , are the details of children's growth.

If you don't always remember the responsibility of educating children and miss the critical period of their growth, it will be difficult to think about education in the future.

You can't turn conversation into education.

The less you communicate with children, the less you know how to communicate with them and the less you understand them.

What do you usually say to your child when you have a chance to talk to him?

A child in junior high school told me that what his parents said most to him was: eat quickly, do your homework after dinner, and go to bed after finishing your homework!

As a parent, do you know the inner pressure and pain of children? Can you walk into the child's inner world?

Parents gradually fade out or even miss their children's emotional world, and conversations with children are more likely to become preaching, criticism and reprimand. After the child reaches the age of 13, even the opportunity to criticize will not be left to you.

5, can not educate children in public.

Even if the child does the worst thing, you should take the child home for education, scold or even beat the child in public, and the consequences are often very serious.

The most important thing in education is to respect human dignity and protect children's hearts. Without this, there will be no real education.

Praise and criticism of children are emotional interactions. Parents are too strong, and children are often worthless. Parents are too rough and children are often manic.

Wise parents will not severely reprimand their children, but they can realize that educating their children cannot pursue immediate results.

6. Avoid educating children while eating and sleeping.

Eating is a kind of enjoyment, a kind of communication and a kind of party.

And a good party should be at home first. Some children tremble when eating and eat quickly. Why do they eat so fast? Just to keep his parents from criticizing him.

Eating too fast is not good for the absorption of stomach and food, not to mention table manners.

Education before going to bed is not only ineffective, but also affects children's sleep.

When children fall asleep, their minds are full of these key information, and they often have nightmares.

So, let the children eat well and sleep well. Even if he makes a mistake, you should find a more suitable time to educate him. It's good for children.

7. Avoid negative education.

China culture lacks sincere praise and encouragement for people, the tradition of experiencing happiness from a trivial matter, and the understanding that life is meaningful only by doing something meaningless.

We are used to "doing great things" and "achieving great achievements", and accordingly we like criticism, negation and negative hints.

Before you try something, someone will remind you that you can't do it well. If something doesn't meet your parents' wishes, you are likely to be sarcastic.

As parents, if you want to change yourself, you should start from restraining the desire of criticism, not turning a blind eye to children's shortcomings, shortcomings and deficiencies, but helping them when they have the courage to try and change.

8. Don't compare other people's children.

Every child is very different, and every child has such a reason. The best way to educate a child is to aim at his "like this".

Mozart played the piano well at the age of five and composed music at the age of seven. That's Mozart.

For children, simple comparison can't solve the problem. We might as well patiently analyze with him, so that children will neither feel inferior nor be jealous and hostile to others.