How to educate children to learn to compete? Children who can't afford to lose are either depressed, psychologically painful, angry or unlovable, which will affect the formation of their harmonious personality in the future. Therefore, it is necessary for us to teach the baby to take it up and put it down.
How to educate children to learn to compete 1 How to educate children to learn to compete?
There is a mother who works as a manager in a company, especially advocating the sense of competition. She believes that children should learn to compete early and learn how to win in order to adapt to future workplace competition.
"Exclusive competition" is not suitable for children
In fact, the struggle of adults in the workplace is usually not just a contest, but in order to win some benefits, it is necessary to tell the winner. This "exclusive competition" is not suitable for children.
There is no fundamental conflict of interest between children, and there is no need to win or lose. Moreover, competing with others for their own interests will make children lack understanding, tolerance and generosity to people and things, become selfish, narrow-minded, jealous, escape and retreat, and easily crush self-esteem and self-confidence because of a trivial matter.
Children who can't afford to lose are in pain.
Children "can't afford to lose", the heart will feel very painful, often manifested as:
get angry
In the game class, the teacher taught the children to bat the ball. Some children learn quickly and can shoot several times at a time. Beibei just took the ball twice and ran away. She pouted angrily and stopped filming.
tell a lie
Dudu's work in art class was not praised by the teacher. He said to his mother, "Today, the teacher severely criticized me." When the row of seats didn't sit in the middle, he said to his mother, "The teacher won't let me study, but let me sit in the corner."
attack
When painting or doing manual activities in kindergarten, Coco always takes away his tools when Rui Rui finishes half. It turns out that Rui Rui's works are often praised by teachers, and Coco's jealousy has caused slight harm.
be afraid
Jiajia goes to kindergarten. She likes kindergartens and teachers very much. But for a while, she didn't want to go to kindergarten because she couldn't draw balloons well.
deliberate
Yang Yang is a bit "two-faced". He looks down on his eyes in front of teachers or older children, but at home, if an adult doesn't follow him, he will make a scene until he finally wins.
You can only win if you can't afford to lose.
Children who can't afford to lose are either depressed, psychologically painful, angry or unlovable, which will affect the formation of their harmonious personality in the future. Therefore, it is necessary to cultivate children's demeanor of winning without arrogance and losing with grace.
Often chanting the advantages of others, parents can often chat with their children: "What are the advantages of a child?" "What advantages can you learn from such a child?" This is the cultivation of emotional intelligence that recognizes and accepts others, especially for children who can't afford to lose.
Mastering basic knowledge and skills, the lack of knowledge and skills is often the direct factor for children to feel frustrated. If the child is like this, then teach him knowledge and skills by hand, so that he can have a sense of accomplishment and build self-confidence.
When playing games, don't always make children feel that they are just playing, but that children regard games as "work". It is normal for children to know that they have lost and won by playing games, which can train children to bear the psychological pressure brought by losing.
Cooperation and competition are twins. Observing the successful people in the society, we can find that the person who wins the competition is a very cooperative person first. Cultivating children to be good collaborators will lay a solid foundation for children to be good at competition, and children who are too competitive will have interpersonal problems.
Encourage children to overcome themselves. Teach children not to "beat others" as the goal, but to regard themselves as competitors. Today, I want to surpass yesterday's me and let my children try their best not to lose to themselves.
How to educate children to learn to compete II. Effective ways to cultivate children's sense of competition.
(1) Change the traditional educational concepts and standards for evaluating children. We often take "children are really obedient" and "really good" as the evaluation criteria of "good children". It can be said that this concept is out of date.
Starting from the needs of children's future survival and development, it is a scientific educational concept to cultivate children's spirit of independence, strong will, courage to think and practice, courage to innovate and create, and courage to meet challenges, setbacks and difficulties.
In terms of educational methods, parents should change the original educational methods of "I say you listen" and "I hit you" and adopt an enlightening and persuasive educational method. At the same time, children should be encouraged to bravely go out of the study, out of the family and community, look to the world, look to the future, and set up their ambitions.
(2) Try to cultivate children's creative thinking. It can be said that the exam-oriented education in schools now not only restricts the development of children's creative thinking, but also determines the way parents discipline them.
Therefore, when educating their children, parents should be good at stimulating their desire and interest in knowledge, and encourage their children to use their brains, hands, eyes and mouths frequently, not only for books, but also for finding problems, asking questions and trying to solve problems with their own ideas.
Parents should not stick to books, ready-made and traditional educational models to limit their children and bind their hands and feet. When children show their "new ideas" and "new inventions", parents should praise them in time and encourage them to keep exploring. A person with creative thinking is a person with competitive consciousness and ability.
(3) Cultivate and develop children. Developing children is a hot issue in education at home and abroad. This is because of ability, personality, temperament, will, needs, motivation, interests, hobbies, beliefs, emotions and so on. In a person's personal qualities,
It can reflect people's dynamic role and subjective consciousness, which is closely related to a person's creativity and competitiveness. Children's development should be closely related to their own competitiveness.
The development of children should proceed from their own needs and interests, so that children not only have a broad knowledge background, but also have several special talents and skills, and have a relatively perfect personality, so as to be invincible in a fiercely competitive society.
To cultivate children's sense of competition, we should start from childhood and start from small things. In the process of cultivating children's sense of competition, children should also understand that competition should not be narrow and selfish, and competitors should have a broad mind;
Competition should not be dangerous and cunning, secretly calculating people, but should go hand in hand and surpass with strength; Competition does not exclude cooperation. Without a good spirit of cooperation and collective belief, it is lonely and difficult to succeed alone.
How to educate children to learn to compete 3. How to cultivate children's sense of competition?
First, cultivate the baby's correct sense of competition
Competition consciousness is closely related to self-consciousness, and only by comparing with others can clear self-consciousness be revealed. Childhood is a critical period for the development of baby's self-awareness. In order to develop self-psychology, we need to have a unique, private and different experience to show our personality.
In order to express themselves in front of different objects, children need to know how their words and deeds will affect their image in the eyes of others. The germination of competitive consciousness is an important manifestation of children's self-awareness development, and parents should give timely support and correct guidance.
Second, let children participate in the competition freely.
Encouraging children to participate in a competitive activity is not forcing them to participate in a sports competition or play for a team. If the child doesn't want to take part in the competition or likes another competition, he is free to decide. Sometimes your child may just want to be an audience. In some cases, the audience is as full of competition as the competitors.
Psychologists believe that in the process of cultivating children's sense of competition, parents should also let their children understand that competition should not be narrow and selfish, and competitors should have a broad mind: competition should not be risky and cunning, but should go hand in hand, surpassing by strength, and competition does not exclude cooperation.
Without a good spirit of cooperation and collective belief, it is lonely and difficult to succeed alone. When parents cultivate their children's sense of competition, they should still stress justice and conscience, so that children can not only have the courage to dare to compete, but also have the cultivation to abide by competition ethics and rules.
Third, we should overcome children's inferiority complex.
This is the guarantee to win in the competition. When children encounter failure or frustration in the competition, parents should correctly guide their children to analyze the reasons for failure, help them sum up experiences and lessons, adjust the competition objectives, and seek more effective competition methods, so as to prepare for the next competition.
Fourth, cultivate and develop the baby's personality.
Some babies need the stimulation of competition to give full play to their potential. If grasped correctly, the sense of competition can become the motivation for children to do good things.
Psychological research shows that personality is closely related to competitiveness, and children with good personality will be more rational and active in dealing with competition. Parents should start from their children's own personality characteristics and interests, cultivate their children's perfect personality and make them more competitive.
In addition to personality reasons, children who pay special attention to self-awareness and ignore the feelings of others often have not learned how to get along with others.
He needs to know that if he makes others unhappy in order to win the first prize, he may lose their friendship. Parents should let their children know that they should never only focus on competing with others, but should challenge their abilities to the limit.
Fifth, correct the baby's competitive mentality.
If parents are worried that their baby has a strong desire for competition, they should first help the baby to correct his mentality. It is a wonderful thing to let the baby know that competition is an opportunity to show his strength. We should treat transcendence and being surpassed with a calm attitude and should not be full of jealousy and resentment.
One of the significance of participating in the competition is to learn to accept defeat gracefully and sincerely bless your opponent. Tell children that winning in the competition is proud, but the spirit of unity and cooperation with peers is also an indispensable quality in modern life. Parents use their own actions to demonstrate, and children will naturally feel the same.
Sixth, encourage babies to believe in themselves.
Encourage your baby to express his inner feelings bravely, judge right and wrong with his own values, and believe that he has the ability to achieve the goal he pursues, rather than just reflecting his self-worth through competition.
Let children know that after doing their best, they can be a winner who keeps working hard or an indomitable loser, instead of paying too much attention to the game itself.
Don't be proud if you win, and don't be discouraged if you fail.
In competitive activities, children may not only stand out in the competition and get the ranking, but also be unqualified and unknown on the list.
If you win, you will be complacent, and if you lose, you will be dejected and despondent, all of which are manifestations of lack of good sense of competition. Parents should educate their children, don't get carried away when they encounter victory, and think of the truth that "one mountain is higher than the other", and the end point is always ahead. When encountering setbacks, don't think that the world is coming to an end. Tell children that "winning or losing is a common thing for military strategists", the key is to find out the reasons for failure and determine the direction of efforts.
If your baby is competitive or competitive, it doesn't mean it must be a bad thing or a good thing.
Mom and dad cultivate treasures and develop a good sense of competition, which is more conducive to the healthy growth of the baby. To this end, parents should cultivate their baby to form a correct sense of competition, cultivate and develop their baby's personality, correct their baby's competitive mentality and encourage their baby to believe in themselves. In this way, the baby won the competition in the golden mean.