Although people don't expect boys to become "little girls", this sentence is by no means an excuse to indulge them in their own way and run amok. Boys can also have good manners.
Every parent with a boy at home, if you always remember these four educations in the process of educating your children, then your children will be great!
If you do a "second child" survey among treasure mothers, you will find that the views of male treasure mothers are strikingly similar: "It is enough to raise a boy, and it is terrible to have another one ..."
Indeed, it is difficult to raise children, and it is even more difficult to raise boys!
Boys are naturally naughty and active, either using guns or dancing knives, and occasionally teasing you to hit twice.
The room is full of boys' "armies": cars, planes, tanks, Altman, monsters ... If you are not careful, you will receive his warning: "Don't invade my territory!"
Look carefully, maybe at your feet, you are stepping into the world of children's toys, and what he wants to save is a safe little friend (toy) everywhere;
As for boys' clothes, they wear light colors, because mothers have a hard time with themselves. The boy's new clothes are old and crawling on the ground, just like a scavenger ... raising a boy is manual labor; Raising a boy is a mental work.
How to raise a good boy and raise a boy easily, the following kinds of education, male treasure mothers, must know!
Father education Father education is an indispensable education in a boy's life. Especially after the boy is 6 years old, great changes will take place in him.
Boys are becoming "manly". They like to dance knives and guns, and they are all superheroes in their hearts. The boys are imitating, talking and eager to be as powerful as heroes.
This stage is actually a sensitive period for boys to imitate and become men. At this moment, please step back, dad wants to move forward. Dad's sense of strength, his vitality, his courage to handle things and so on. , began to let boys worship him.
If you watch carefully, you will find that boys often hear their praise for their father: "Dad, you are amazing! Dad, I want to be as good as you ... "
The process of a boy getting along with his father is also a process of observing and learning as a man.
Father is the best reference and example for boys! When the father gets along with the boy in a man's way, he subtly guides the boy to learn how to be a real man. Father's education has a far-reaching influence on the boy's life.
Without regular education, you can't be Fiona Fang. For boys, they are naughty by nature, full of energy at ordinary times, and often lose proper limit when playing:
Either you accidentally hit yourself, or you accidentally hurt a child, or you accidentally broke a toy and destroyed an object ... these are all high probability events.
Parents have educated boys many times, but boys either turn a deaf ear or show impatience, so it is difficult to really listen to their parents and put them into action. Boys are difficult to manage, so it has become a headache for countless parents. In fact, boys have such a performance, parents must first understand.
Part of the reason is the physical development of children. Because of the gender relationship, the development level of boys' brains is later than that of girls, and the brain pays less attention to language, which leads to the low efficiency of understanding language instructions.
Coupled with the role of testosterone, boys are irritable and irritable, so they are less disciplined than girls.
Therefore, it is very important to teach boys rules from an early age. However, "discipline education" is not "stick education". Many boys who seem to be rebellious in life actually grew up under their parents' sticks. The stronger they play, the less effective they play.
To set rules for children, parents should be clear about their purpose, not to restrict children, but to help them establish a good order.
An effective rule is based on good communication between parents and children. Parents should clearly tell the boy where the boundary of one thing is, and let him know what kind of punishment he will get if he breaks the boundary.
As for punishment, boys should reach a consensus with their parents and then start to implement it firmly. No matter how the boy cries in the future, his parents can't give in; No matter how much the boy begged for mercy, his parents could not move.
Discipline education can help a boy develop into a person with good behavior habits, thus becoming an educated child.
Anti-frustration education China has a saying: "If you don't eat small losses, you will eat big losses." It means that when a child is young, it is a blessing to suffer hardships and encounter some difficulties, which is even luckier than waiting for the child to grow up and experience it! Boys have greater hope. Whether a man can stand the test of future storms is directly related to a family's sense of stability and happiness.
Therefore, we should educate boys to resist setbacks from an early age. Only boys who can withstand pressure and setbacks are more capable of mastering their own lives and becoming real men.
Let boys receive anti-frustration education, not to say that children are in trouble and parents don't care; It is not that parents deliberately create difficult conditions for their children and let them live in bitter water.
Parents first understand that the real purpose of frustration education is to guide and encourage children to remain positive and optimistic when facing difficulties in adversity and solve problems.
On the one hand, parents are required to provide their children with a superior life, but at the same time, they should not spoil them too much. Leave some problems for children appropriately, or actively create some small obstacles, so that children can learn to solve problems with their own abilities when they can solve them by themselves.
The more children experience, the more they can cultivate their own abilities. Through constant tempering, they can cultivate strong psychological endurance and problem-solving ability. On the other hand, parents should also do a good job in the recovery training of boys after setbacks.
When children are depressed, we should comfort them and rebuild their confidence in time. Let the children always regain their confidence in the predicament, calmly face it with an optimistic and strong attitude, and actively respond.
Humor education in family education, parents are often very strict with boys, because boys are naughty and active. Strict education can really shock boys instantly, but over time, parents will find that boys' acceptance is getting lower and lower.
Even boys can easily learn to fight back with the same anger as their parents. At this time, good humor education can resolve the crisis of parent-child conflict.
There is such an example that is talked about by people, which is worth learning from parents: It is said that a boy is obsessed with knives and guns, and one day he took a fancy to a new rifle in the shop and pestered his parents to ask for it. The boy's father was not angry at the scene, but thought about it and discussed with his son, saying, "Son, your military expenditure is too big. Now is a time of peace. How about we cut military spending? "
My son didn't expect my father to say that. He listened and smiled happily. It makes sense to think about what my father said, so I stopped insisting and went home with my father happily.
This is the role of humor education, which resolves an imminent parent-child contradiction with the effect of "moistening things and being silent". This way seems relaxed, but it conforms to the lively nature of children and achieves the effect of profound education in a pleasant way.
This requires our parents to make efforts to become parents with a sense of humor. Parents are the best role models for children. If parents themselves are funny people, then children will continue to increase humorous cells when they hear it. Of course, not everyone is born with a sense of humor, but parents can also nurture their children.
Tell more humorous stories to children, so that children can slowly understand the humorous essence of stories in laughter and cultivate their sense of humor imperceptibly.
At the same time, parents should also do a good job in humor education, so that children can understand that not everything can be humorous, and their happiness cannot be based on things that hurt others.
Humor is not glib or glib. Helping children to establish a correct sense of humor is the way to humor.
A boy who has received humor education since childhood is mostly optimistic and cheerful, and his body will also exude unique charm. Humor can not only add fun to children's lives; Humor, in fact, is also training children's witty response and quick thinking, turning contradictions into invisibility.
This will become a very important social ability for a boy in the future. Wherever you go, you will become the focus of the crowd and be comfortable in a complex society.
Zheng, the king of fairy tales, once said in his lecture: A good educator should educate one child in 50 ways, not 50 children in one way. Every child is unique, and the same child will behave differently at different stages. Parents are both teachers and students. Only by growing up with children can we become the best educators and cultivate the best children in their minds. Let's encourage together