How to educate children aged 10? For the children of 10, they are preparing to enter the rebellious period. At this time, parents are concerned about their children's grades, physical health and psychological problems, and occasionally encounter contradictions with their children. Faced with these problems, how should parents educate their children aged 10?
/kloc-how should children aged 0/0 educate 1 1 to make children like learning?
During the whole period of primary school and middle school, primary school made children like learning, not just looking at grades. Children are not prominent in primary schools. By the age of 30-40, outstanding talents are truly outstanding. What's the use of being excellent in primary school? Why does primary school suppress children so badly? Many children have different intellectual development from other children. I once talked to the teacher of Normal University. Primary school teachers must be children's favorite teachers. Whether children like learning or not has a significant relationship with the learning environment when they were young, because whether children like this school or not depends on the school environment, and whether they like teachers or not depends on their personality and psychological level. Teachers are unattractive and always fierce, and children's good feelings for learning built up at home will be destroyed by teachers. I once gave a speech in Beijing, saying that teachers should be beautiful, especially teachers before grade four, and should not be people with appearance problems, because teachers are symbols of school and learning. We investigate from the east and the west. People aged 7-9 evaluate a person as "good looking". What do you mean "good-looking"?
It is gentle and smiling. Suppose a teacher is fierce. Let the child kneel for a while and stand for a while. Can children like it? If he doesn't like teachers, he doesn't like studying. Middle school has a characteristic. If the teacher doesn't like him, his subjects will be very poor. Why?
Go back to the children's ideological level and think that you can't impose your own ideas on them. The child doesn't understand that this teacher is good, and the teacher teaches well, but he is fierce. He doesn't understand children, and as a result, children won't study hard. Gentle teachers are always liked by students. Motherly teachers are very important in primary schools, because the mother has gone to work and the children are still attached to her. As a result, the teacher is better than the mother and the child's psychological development is very comfortable. He will not be banned, nor will he suffer psychological pain. He will make friends with teachers at school. If a teacher knows some psychology, he should treat his students like a mother, especially the teachers in the lower grades. He must be gentle and beautiful, or at least tidy up comfortably, so that the children can have a good impression and concentrate all his good feelings on their studies. It is impossible for them not to study. Is it true that the older the baby is, the more rebellious he is?
2. Let children fully experience the joy of learning.
If you want your child to fully experience the joy of learning at the age of 10, it is impossible for him not to study, because people always do happy things instead of painful things. If learning becomes his most painful thing, he will not study even if he is killed. He thinks that it is short-term pain for you to hit me now, and it is long-term pain for you to hit you later. You can call, and when I finish the exam, you will ignore my study. This is human nature. We must consider the development of children in a safer way. Children are not philosophers. They don't know what's wrong. His wisdom is embodied in the present. He will be angry if he learns from his mother, but he will be happy if he doesn't.
Like children in lower grades, school should be their favorite place to go. Of course, we can't change the profound reality of China's educational thought now, but some changes have taken place in our education. Sometimes we will consider children with characteristics. Some children can't adapt to patterned learning, but he is an important person. There is a saying in China that "important people speak late". Smart children speak slowly. Why does he speak slowly?
Because when he speaks slowly, his right brain is fully developed. Intelligence is mainly the right brain, and knowledge structure is the left brain. It is the function of the right brain to understand the results of knowledge and use them. In the past, we misunderstood that the right brain is not important, but in fact the right brain is very important. The right brain is "older" and more experienced than the left brain. At this time, you should know that it is ok to stimulate words, but it is not good to stimulate them desperately. Naturally generated words are very good, but if you want to force him to read, like a kindergarten teacher, if a child learns a word, parents will teach him 50 yuan more, and the teacher will be excited. It's terrible that he takes his children to study every day.
So I felt a cold sweat after watching this news. If I really fuck my children like this, it will be even worse. In this way, the child (in terms of intelligence level) can't become a deep person. We also see many people with developed left brains, and their lives are very poor. They only know linear events, and real events are not important to him. He feels comfortable with the abstract events of the linear model, but when he walks, he will touch the telephone pole and fall into the ditch. Why? Because his right brain is gone and empty, he is not a normal person. Psychologically, most people have emotional disorders, including some great people, but some people's right brain has been abandoned, and some people can't even get a wife. Science separates people from an existing reality because it is abstract.
Step 3 Establish rules
It's fun to make rules. Today, we focus on the important period when children establish rules. It is cruel to forbid them to do this before they are five years old. As long as it is not too big a problem, let them do it. At the age of five, we will establish rules. When he was five years old, when he was angry, his mother would say that you can be angry, but you can't tear dad's book. Those books are dad's treasures. You tore dad. At that time, children can be told what to do and what not to do. There is a premise that we care more about children, and we have formulated many safety rules for children. We have tried our best to make 65,438+00 children learn adult consciousness, what not to do, and set many rules for him. This one won't work, and neither will that one. Anyway, that's how mom and dad taught him. Modern knowledge holds that when 10 is old, children should be given ample opportunities to make decisions freely and be responsible for their actions. How to achieve these goals?
/kloc-how should children aged 0/0 be educated? 2 strict requirements for children and scientific management.
I think it is very important to set strict standards for children from an early age, standardize their behavior, truly distinguish right from wrong and understand the truth. This will enable children to develop strict requirements, make continuous progress, be optimistic and confident, standardize their behavior and distinguish between right and wrong.
1, let the children know that the school rules are reasonable, and they are constantly improving even if there are defects. Therefore, as students, they should strictly implement the school rules and be a model for observing discipline.
The main task of students is to study. It is a dereliction of duty to finish homework. Therefore, parents can force their children not to watch TV or surf the Internet when they can't finish their homework. There is no room for discussion. In fact, children will get used to it after a long time.
3. Educate children to be grateful, so that children can be grateful to society, teachers, parents and classmates from an early age. For example, after my child graduated from primary school, I invited the primary school teacher to dinner, but I didn't invite him to primary school for six years, and the teacher didn't understand. I told the teacher that the purpose of inviting the teacher is not to thank the teacher, because it is the teacher's bounden duty to teach the children well. And my purpose is to cultivate children to have a grateful heart.
4. When we set standards and regulate children's behavior, we must work with children and let them participate, which will increase their consciousness of voluntary compliance.
Relationship between parents and children
Children are the crystallization of love, and I believe that parents all over the world will love their children as much as their babies; Children are the ideal carrier of parents in a certain sense, and parents control their children as if they control their own limbs; Children are emotional postmen, and parents interweave all the joys and pains of children's growth; Children are the hope of parents, and parents look forward to their children's future just like waiting for a warm dawn on a cold night. The relationship between parents and children is so inseparable that families without children and children without parental care are so lonely and fragile. Parents can be happy for their children or miserable for them. Children may be degraded or sublimated by their parents all their lives. So, what kind of relationship should parents and children establish? I think, first of all, we should maintain and improve the innate relationship and cultivate and develop the acquired relationship. Congenital relationship is mainly blood relationship, which can also be said to be the relationship between elders and younger generations or being led; The acquired relationship is mainly the relationship between teachers and students, and the relationship between friends and lovers.
1, the same as the leader's relationship.
Leadership relationship comes from blood relationship, so we should know how to maintain and develop this relationship. Ignoring the family will cast a thick layer of dust on the blood relationship between parents and children, and the biggest victim is of course the fragile and innocent children. The impact of this kind of injury on children's personality and future is obvious. Many problem children come from irresponsible families. Children's intelligence and body are normal, and some are even extraordinary. Why do children with normal intelligence and body make those abnormal mistakes? Parents as guardians have an unshirkable responsibility. While regretting the children's' depravity', we also want to tell their parents that you can be busy making money and wait helplessly, but you must not forget your responsibility as a guardian of the children. This blood relationship was established in previous lives, given by God and required by law. Because to a certain extent, you are the leader of children, and you have the obligation to grasp the direction of children's progress.
2. The same teacher-student relationship
Parents are the best teachers for children. I think this should be a truth that every parent understands. In my opinion, parents are also a cosmetic mirror behind the stage of children's life, showing the beauty and ugliness of children, the advantages and disadvantages of children, and parents are crucial to the success or failure of children's roles. Parents teach their children to say the first word, take the first step and be the first teacher to teach their children about the outside world. This teacher-student relationship is instinctive, spontaneous, pure and selfless. Strict father's loving mother, this is the simplest and simplest view of parent-child relationship expressed by our ancestors.
When a child does not know how to respect his elders and care for young children, people will say that the child lacks family education; When a child has bad conduct and weak will, people will say that the child lacks family education; When a child lacks independence and adaptability, people will also say that the child lacks family education. Therefore, as parents of children, our duty is not only to teach children to say a few words and walk a few steps. The growth of children not only needs to master the skilled application skills of the five senses and limbs, but also needs to have advanced rationality, wisdom and emotion different from other animals. Parents are the best teachers for children, and such teachers are more effective.
3. Friendship-like relationship
Since parents are children's teachers, they should also be children's good friends. The relationship between friends is equal, friendly and respectful. This is the most basic condition for dealing with all other relationships. Children have their own life and spiritual space. In some social activities, they also need to make their own decisions, express their views and show their talents. At this time, they are eager for equality and respect, and they are eager for understanding and help like friends. Parents have become their closest and friendliest friends. Many children feel lonely and inferior. What they lack is this friendship and understanding, and a spiritual sustenance. This kind of emotion is established in a subtle way and is sincere and lasting. With this kind of friendship, the happiness and pain in children's hearts will not be homeless, and so many children will not go astray because they have lost their way home in society. The harbor of children's hearts needs this kind of friend relationship between parents and children to maintain.
4. Relationships like lovers
People often say that love is sweet, which dilutes the bitterness of life and makes people see the hope ahead. More importantly, this sweetness enhances people's motivation to move forward. As the heart and soul of parents, children can certainly be the beneficiaries of this relationship. Parents' hearts are filled with the happiness of children's growth, and children's hearts are filled with their parents' warm care, their belonging and care, and they are in the same boat through thick and thin, just because they love each other. The relationship between parents and children should be interdependent and mutually reinforcing, and should not exist independently. Maintaining and perfecting these relationships will safeguard the dignity of parents and the rights and educational obligations of children. When you feel that your relationship with your child is a leader, a kind teacher, a friend and a lover, you will become the most qualified parent.