Smart babies can't be forced to be. Some parents think that other children can learn English, draw, dance and play the piano. That's not the credit of other people's parents! If children are allowed to play freely, they are doomed to accomplish nothing. I believe this is what many parents firmly believe.
Children's smart nature will be released from these hobbies, but if love that should be natural becomes a hard indicator with strict assessment standards like class, children's talent will be quickly suppressed by internal resistance.
A large part of children's intelligence will come from the guidance and development of childhood. There are two ways to guide and develop. The first is compulsory guidance, which is also the mainstream guidance at present, and the second is natural guidance for development, which belongs to a few parents. The reality is so wonderful. Few children can become smart through the mainstream way, and those children who are often guided by nature in childhood and adolescence are the pillars of society and truly talented people when they grow up.
Sometimes some parents look at other people's children's awards, mountains of honorary certificates and unattainable admission notices of prestigious schools, and always want to ask how such excellent children are trained. Is there any secret or trick to teach? Most of the parents of these outstanding children will modestly answer: "In fact, nothing has been done, and the children have done it themselves."
A seemingly casual sentence actually tells the essence of cultivating smart children. Let children choose what they want to do and what they don't want to do, and respect their wishes and will. Because when children really want to do something seriously, no one can underestimate their inner perseverance and persistence.
Secondly, this is not what children want to do, so parents will register their children and buy equipment in various ways. Because many times, children's hobbies may be on a whim, or they may be seriously pondering, but how to know if children really want to learn something well, instead of learning halfway or stopping learning after a few days of enthusiasm, also leads to the waste of tuition and equipment. In addition to respecting children's wishes, there is a more important link, which is to let children know that all hobbies and things they really want to do must not be readily available.
Because for any child or adult, things that are very easy to get will not be cherished. Many parents often buy them out of love and affection for their children. Children have learned a lot, but none of them can achieve anything. On the other hand, some parents whose families are not so rich and thoughtful will let their children do what they can at the moment as a "bargaining chip" for learning things. For example, if a child really wants to learn something, then parents will definitely tell the child that if you really want to learn or do it, you will have to pay for it.
Then tell the child that he can exchange good grades for this thing in the next six months to a year, or let the child realize the hard work of making money and use his hard-earned pocket money to pay for what he wants to do or learn. Because this simple behavior will let children know that not everything is at your fingertips, and at the same time, if you want something, you must pay for it yourself. Similarly, in the process of continuing to pay for something, if the child doesn't want to learn or do that thing, it means that the idea may be the child's enthusiasm for three minutes, but if the child continues to pay and work hard for a certain goal, it also means that the child really wants to do and learn something. In this way, what children get through some hard work will be especially cherished.
Respect children's ideas, let children pay for them, and let children understand from an early age that everything needs to be paid, not because they can cry and coquetry.
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