After half a month's hot search, the TV series Xiao Shede finally came to an end.

This TV series has gathered many stars, focusing on China's "Xiao Sheng Chu".

From the beginning, the audience's nervous defense line was bombarded continuously, and the topics of "involution in education", "reading anxiety", "chicken baby" and "Niu Wa" were repeatedly discussed.

However, this last happy story made many netizens feel uneasy and even shouted out the abandonment of the drama.

In fact, this drama does point out a current situation of social education, but what everyone wants to see most is how to balance children's physical and mental health and academic performance, so as to inspire and help themselves.

But in the end, it is the most satisfactory ending for all families. Such an idealized design is disappointing.

For example, Rulu plays Tian Yulan.

Tian Yulan is the mother of a baby chick in the play.

The lack of family background made her feel inferior and insecure.

Therefore, she is smart and competitive, and pays too much attention to her son Yan Ziyou's achievements.

Make yourself a fighter in the baby chicken.

For this reason, we have done a lot of things that make people criticize and destroy the three views, which makes people gnash their teeth.

Because my son didn't get the first place in the exam, he went directly to the Education Bureau to report Mr. Zhong, which led to his dismissal from the school.

In order to sign up for a training class for my son, I saw that the teacher in class was Mr. Zhong, and I immediately had the cheek to apologize.

I also enrolled my children in five Olympic math classes. Under her pressure, Ziyou finally went "crazy" and split a playmate "Dragon" in her heart.

And in an important exam, I was so nervous that I lost my mind, tore up the test paper, overturned the exam table and ran out.

In order to add a name to the school district's household registration book, Tian Yulan and Xiaosan's mother Cai Juying made a scene, and Cai Juying went to Li Nan's company, which made Li Nan lose face.

Tian Yulan then went to the board of directors to complain about Nan Li, which made her lose the position of marketing director and was demoted.

Tian Yulan saw Nan Li, gnashing her teeth and said to her:

The relationship between the two was once in trouble.

In a blink of an eye, after Li Nan fell ill, Tian Yulan went to the door to be caring and attentive, and the two plastic sisters were tolerant of each other and reconciled.

The ending of forced whitewashing, let alone netizens, feels quite unreal when I see it here.

Let's talk about Li Nan.

The Buddha mother in the play.

Husband and wife are standard urban middle class, and the education of their daughter's joy has always been Buddhist, pursuing "happy quality education".

Before the fifth grade, Huanhuan did not attend any cram schools or remedial classes.

But all this changed after Huanhuan scored 45 points in the math test and became the bottom student in the class.

Nan Li suddenly turned from Buddhism to the other extreme, even more anxious and exaggerated than Tian Yulan.

From praising her daughter to often scolding her daughter.

Invite Mr. Zhong to come home and tell Huanhuan about the Olympics, and the son who goes to kindergarten should also attend.

In order to get into a good school, I bought my father's house directly and moved my mother from princess royal.

At work, he was calculated by Tian Yulan and demoted.

Elegant and decent?

Even Xia Junshan thinks Li Nan is crazy. He said:

So that my daughter left home without heavy pressure and wanted to jump off a building in the Children's Palace.

But in the end, Li Nan got his father's 600,000 yuan and successfully bought the school district.

The husband opened his own design studio and earned 30 million yuan a year.

Investing in Mr. Zhong's network courseware is another big gain.

The blackening of Li Nan is really sudden.

It makes people feel that her previous happiness education is purely blind obedience and self-deception. Parents who really love their children will never do this, especially in this middle-class family.

But how many people in life are so extreme?

I say everything for the children, but what is the truth behind it?

TV series will only cover up the evil of human nature, and three incorrect views will be forgiven.

It turns out that they lied to all of us.

Wu Zhihong once said: "The biggest lie of China people is for your own good!"

Especially in the attitude of parents towards their children, it is vividly displayed.

Tian Yulan did what was best for his son. As a result, his son became "crazy".

Nan Li did it for her daughter's own good, and as a result, her daughter wanted to jump off a building.

Drama reflects real life to a certain extent, because the creation of drama comes from life.

The father took his son as the center of gravity, resigned as an executive, took care of the baby and became a celebrity in Guangzhou parenting circle.

My son also lived up to expectations. He was handsome and sunny, and he was a proper schoolmaster. 17 later, he was admitted to the famous Ivy League school in the United States-Emory University, which is known as "Harvard in the South".

Just when everyone thought it was a warm and inspiring story, his son Zhang Yide committed suicide on the American campus.

Later, it was discovered that there were many such details in the relationship between Zhang Yide and his father, which made people feel horrible and suffocated.

For example, when Zhang Yide 12 years old, he once got up the courage to tell his father that he hoped his father would say "no" to himself sometimes.

But my father said firmly, I can't promise you this. I will always promise my son.

The father took more than 200,000 photos of his son and broke five cameras.

Interestingly, in a video, I want to say, "Can you give me some privacy, not in front of me?" But my father insisted on filming and uploading.

Over time, I can only give up my feelings and turn around my father's feelings.

When my father asked me to act, he was the best actor.

The father once said in a previous article that his marriage failed in the first half of his life and he was alienated from his relatives. He can only live alone with his son and cultivate his son from scratch.

It can be seen that he is using his son's success to prove that he is not bad.

Many people are like this. They often hurt others in the name of love, but they never ask each other. Is it really necessary?

Leading to the final tragedy.

There is a post on the Internet, which caused a heated discussion: What's it like to have someone around you who has always been kind to you?

There is a favorable reply:

A person who is really kind to you won't do anything to hurt you.

A person who is really kind to you will not ignore your right to choose at will.

Indeed, true love will never forcibly change your life track in any name.

I love you, but you are freer.

Sure enough, Tian Yulan later returned her freedom to her son.

Not only did he send his son a new football and jersey, but he also posted his favorite C Ronaldo poster. Finally, his son stopped being depressed and smiled happily.

On the issue of children's education, Nan Li and Tian Yulan also reached a consensus:

The education of children is no longer only concerned with grades, but with ensuring children's sound personality and sunny personality.

In fact, how to strike a balance between children's physical and mental health and grades, we need to do the following:

1. Parents accept themselves and set an example for their children.

Parents are children's first teachers, and different growth environments and life cognition have created different lives.

Although the original intention of parents is deep in their hearts, they all want to be a qualified parent.

However, when our children don't do what they expect, we are always angry and angry.

As novice parents, it is normal to learn to examine their emotions, accept their imperfections, teach their children unprofessionally and accompany their children. It's normal for people to get angry and depressed when they encounter something they are not satisfied with.

While accepting themselves, parents are also setting a positive example for their children, so that their children will be more confident and confident.

Respect the child, his life is up to him.

Children are not tools for parents to show off, let alone their own shadows.

As Zheng Shuang's mother once said:

Zheng Shuang is now like this. Behind it, parents are indispensable.

Therefore, the children's future life is up to them.

Parents only act as a pusher and correct guide at critical moments.

On the way of growing up, they know him better than we do.

3. Be a person who dares to sit down

In the play, Xia Junshan used a "theater theory" to reveal many people's inner contradictions.

Learn to be a person who dares to sit down.

In this habitual anxious society, what we need to do is to distinguish right from wrong more clearly, instead of going with the flow.

Don't be led by the nose by the big environment, so as to give children enough care.

In fact, life is not extreme, only dull and regret.

How did you get something that doesn't belong to you and how will you lose it?

In the final plot, the family went around and had a reunion dinner again and again.

Li Nan and Hetian Yulan, who have passed away, also have great feelings.

The children also chose their favorite school.

Therefore, in the face of educational anxiety, I hope every parent can stay awake.

After all, we all have only one chance to educate our children.

"Good education" is to conform to children's nature and specialty, and to have companionship and support.

Which of these is more important? If you give up, you will gain.

Maybe there will be a completely different spring.