The latter, of course.

Both encouragement and attack may promote children's growth, but they must be moderate and combined with children's personality characteristics to build a healthy and positive growth environment for children. It should be noted that children are growing, their ability is developing, and their ability to resist pressure and self-regulation is relatively weak. Parents can't blindly ask them by adult standards. Children prefer their parents' understanding, support and encouragement to punishment, persecution and blows.

Encouragement refers to giving recognition to children when they perform well, and giving support when they are frustrated, so that children have the motivation to stick to things, the courage to move on, constantly break through themselves, make progress and do better, and at the same time gain self-esteem, self-confidence and sense of self-worth.

In children's initial life experience, the feeling of failure will make them full of fear and anxiety about their surroundings. If parents can patiently encourage, guide and train, it can help them build up self-confidence and have the courage to face the complex society. When they dare not try, parents must keep telling their children: "Baby, you can do it. Mom and Dad believe in you." At this time, children will gain strength and face difficulties bravely.

If children are flowers, then parents' encouragement is water. Without encouragement, this flower can't thrive, and it will start to wither and slowly wither. Encouragement is not blindly praise, but to make children feel that they are capable and can gain a sense of belonging and value.