In the latest issue of Mother-in-law and Mother, Eva Huang and Andy boarded a hot search in Weibo because of their different educational backgrounds. On the issue of children's education, Andy believes that too many attempts will breed children's perfunctory emotions. If you choose, you should take strict requirements seriously.

On the other hand, Eva Huang has a different view. She believes that children's interest should start with trying, and many attempts are the result of the big environment.

The differences between the two also caused a heated discussion among netizens, and the comment area even supported Eva Huang one-sidedly:

Actually, there is nothing wrong with either. There is nothing wrong with trying more when children are not sure what kind of talent they like. However, children choose the talent they want to learn, and they definitely need to study hard.

However, Ma Le noticed that some people in the comment area commented that Andy's education mode is cheating on the corpse to raise children, which is another parenting term after "widowed" parenting. It is said that it has pierced the hearts of many middle-aged old mothers.

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What does fraudulent parenting mean?

According to Baidu Encyclopedia, fraudulent corpse parenting refers to the fact that parents are often absent from family education, but occasionally accuse children and mothers or fathers of something they don't like. But without knowing the cause and effect, this arbitrary accusation will bring more harm to children, mothers or fathers.

Maybe many old fathers will be dissatisfied. He didn't give up the child completely, but he still came out from time to time to brush his presence.

For example, when a child is having fun, he suddenly calls the child to go to bed.

When helping the child dress, he accused me of not helping the child dress, which made the child completely unable to take care of himself.

I almost spit out my old blood. Who gave the children endless candy without a bottom line?

Therefore, when Ma Le saw the words "cheat corpse to raise children", she felt particularly cordial.

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There are several characteristics of fraudulent corpse parenting:

1, nothing, all kinds of blind command, waiting for the acceptance of parenting results.

Ironically, it's easy to stand and talk.

3, dragging your legs, can't help dragging your legs.

4, forced implantation, nothing to brush the sense of existence

Compared with widowed parenting, fraudulent parenting is more terrible. At least widowed and parenting, although the husband lacks education, at least as an old mother, he still has the initiative to raise children.

However, the fake parenting, dad came out from time to time to brush the sense of existence and point out the maze, which not only ruined the mother's educational achievements, but also affected their feelings, making it more difficult for her to take care of the baby.

My best friend's husband is a typical representative of cheating corpse parenting, and he likes to get involved if he has nothing to do.

Not long ago, my girlfriend vomited, and she made a strict study plan for her son. As a result, she almost got angry because her husband was at home that day.

Originally, the child was a little resistant to learning. Coupled with the study time arranged by the girlfriend for the child on weekends, the child can't help but make trouble.

At that time, my best friend's husband was at home, lying on the sofa playing with his mobile phone. When he heard the child crying, he immediately went over and hugged the child and said:

You arranged reading and homework for him when he was in a large kindergarten class. You are too strict. When children are young, they should play happily and learn Chinese characters. If he doesn't want to forget, he will be forced to do something.

He's just a kid. Why are you so strict?

Girlfriend angry enough, and I spit:

It's a pig teammate He will do nothing but drag his feet. He is obviously uneducated, self-righteous, narrow-minded and stupid.

My best friend wants a divorce. If she divorced, her father didn't make any big mistakes.

If you don't leave, the child can also have a nominal father. But the next day, I came out and lied to my body once. I guess I was angry.

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In fact, it's not that dad doesn't want to care about children, but that many times dad is too busy making money to support his family and doesn't know how to educate children.

As a mother, at this time, I can help my father to participate in the process of parenting and avoid fraudulent parenting.

For example, let dad take 30 minutes out every day, put down his mobile phone and work, and accompany his children to study, study and play with high quality. At the same time, fathers also need to have self-awareness and be able to take the initiative to accompany their children.

Dad who really has no time, then learn to talk less and applaud more to avoid fraudulent parenting.

For example, when the wife is lecturing the children, Dad: You should listen to your mother.

When the wife is angry, Dad: Don't be angry, wife. I'll teach that smelly boy a lesson for you.

In this way, the family is harmonious, the feelings of husband and wife are harmonious, and the mother is kind and filial.

So, dads, stop fake parenting!