Many people say that adolescent children are the biggest headache for parents. In fact, if parents are patient and understanding enough, they can still help their children get through this special period smoothly.

First of all, we need to know what adolescence is. Most of the students in adolescence are 13- 14 years old, and they are in the development stage. Due to the rapid development and changes of body and mind, they have brought various possibilities for development. Therefore, it is not only a dangerous period of development, but also a critical period of education.

According to the survey of junior high school students, students in this age group are at the highest level in four levels: anxiety, depression, hostility and fear. Many parents usually only care about their life and study, and are used to doting at home. Once children's self-awareness begins to awaken and challenge their accustomed parents' authority, their response can only be at a loss.

How do parents guide their children in this period?

1, respect children and adopt encouragement-oriented education methods. Treat children as adults, give them the right to speak and give them the right to choose and make decisions. Some important things at home involve children in discussion and decision-making. Affirm children's strengths and achievements in time, and encourage them more and criticize them less when they face difficulties and setbacks.

2. Change the fixed thinking mode. Trying to understand children from the perspective of today's times. Parents can keep their opinions on some phenomena and concepts, but they don't have to resolutely oppose them in order to make their children obedient.

3. Prevent two extremes. One is excessive connivance, and the other is blind repression. Neither will have a good educational effect. Therefore, when educating children, parents must adhere to the basic moral principles, so as to educate children to master a certain degree and prevent them from deviating from the correct life track.

4. Parents have a strong sense of self-discipline. Ask your child to set an example first. Otherwise, it will cause children's extreme disgust and even strong resistance.

5. Finally, encourage students to get in touch with the society and get to know it. Establish a correct outlook on life and values, get rid of vulgar tastes and cultivate elegant tastes. At the same time, cultivate competitive consciousness and firm will, learn to communicate with others, experience successes and setbacks, and cultivate psychological endurance. Gradually grow up from setbacks and difficulties and form a positive attitude towards life.

Adolescent children want their parents' understanding, trust and support most. Parents must be patient! According to the child's situation, specific problems are treated in a specific way and guided in different ways. Only in this way can children have a happy and beautiful adolescence.