This kind of situation is typical: the mother plays the bad COP, responsible for educating and restraining the children, and the father plays the bad COP, responsible for praising and conniving the children. Sometimes this naysayer may not mean it, but give in because he loves children. In fact, this pet way of not communicating with mom is not good. If the two sides do not reach an agreed educational concept, it will not be conducive to the implementation of education and will have adverse consequences.

1. Education is not effective.

This kind of educational way in which one parent especially dotes on children can easily destroy the educational achievements of the other parent. When the child does something wrong or makes excessive demands, the mother thinks it is not good, so she will refuse the child's request and even educate the child. Originally, the mother's behavior was correct, not only for the children now, but also for gradually cultivating their character. But at this time, dad felt that the child was still young or distressed, so he followed his mother and agreed to the unreasonable request of the child. Then the mother's previous education has no educational significance for the children. If fathers often do this, then children will know that as long as they are spoiled by their fathers, they will get what they want. In this case, no matter how hard the mother tries to educate, it can't achieve the effect.

2. It will make children reject the harsh side.

Children are at a playful age and like to eat snacks and watch TV. When adults can meet these requirements, they will feel that their parents love them, but when one party refuses their requirements, they will have an illusion of not loving them. If the mother plays the bad COP for a long time, then the child will think that the mother is too strict, not only will she resist education, but will even have a rebellious attitude towards her words, and will gradually have a bad feeling towards her and a sense of distance in the relationship.

3. It will cause conflicts between husband and wife.

If parents can't reach an agreement on their children's education, it will easily affect the relationship between husband and wife. Mom thinks that dad is deliberately playing the devil's advocate, while dad thinks that mom has gone too far and there are often disputes over the education of children. A family that quarrels frequently not only has an influence on the feelings of husband and wife, but also has a bad influence on children. If you often quarrel with children, you will be caught in the middle and embarrassed on both sides.

Family education is a matter for both parents, and parents' attitude is very important. Although couples have different educational ideas because of their different educational backgrounds, this difference should not be placed on the bright side of education, but should be communicated well in private. Especially when mothers educate their children, fathers should not refute their mother's views. This kind of behavior is contradictory, which not only does not meet the requirements of children's education, but also affects family harmony.