I am sleepy. Let him eat the melon or put it in the refrigerator. He asked me angrily, "If I don't come back tonight, will I let this watermelon rot?" I said, "I'm too busy to remember. If you don't eat, don't worry about it. Feed the chickens tomorrow. " He went into the study and turned on the computer. After a while, he rushed in and asked me loudly, "What are you doing with this watermelon?" I said, "Help me put it in the refrigerator. I am really sleepy. You can leave it there. " He started swearing at me, cursing, pulling my hair and my mouth with all kinds of strange, ugly and vicious words. I immediately sat up and said, "Don't be cruel. I've been thinking about divorce for a long time. You can't expect me to suffer indignities all my life, then you are wrong. " I used to put up with you because the children were too young, but now I put up with it to the extreme. We'll go through the formalities immediately tomorrow! "He said," I won't leave, I just want to torture you to death! "My 3-year-old son woke up with a start, hugged me and asked," Poor mother, what's wrong with you? " I comforted my son and said, "Nothing, go to sleep quickly." After my son fell asleep, I tossed and turned and couldn't sleep. Looking back on our nightmare marriage ... my husband graduated from military school and worked as a security supervisor in a large enterprise, and had a failed marriage. After being transferred to the office, the work is easy and the treatment is not bad. When he was in love, he said that his parents had bad feelings and loved to hit people. When his mother was young, she often hugged him and was beaten by her father. When he was a child, he was beaten almost every day, and for no reason. I asked him if he would hit me in the future, and he said, "I despise men who hit women the most!" " "I am a university teacher and like a quiet and civilized life. When I first got married, I affectionately called him "my husband" outside and felt that home was a symbol of elegance and beauty. Before long, he shattered all my dreams about family and found a lover outside; Hit me in front of my lover; Go home every night or not; Never help with housework; Occasionally at home, in addition to sleeping on the internet, I just make trouble and beat my wife. Often without warning, he began to brew-blushing and thick neck, I was playing with my child in my arms, defenseless, and he rushed to pull his hair, hit my head with his fist, scratched his face and stuck his neck. Throw a few hundred dollars after the fight and then disappear for a few days. I'm really anxious and angry. My child 1 was divorced. He refused to leave because the child was too young. I had to give him three years to get rid of my bad habit of beating and cursing. Although he restrained himself, he still had an attack every once in a while, and even said to me: I will kill you sooner or later and throw it in several plastic bags. These creepy words were actually said in front of my three-year-old son. The more I think about it, the more afraid I am, and the greater my determination to divorce. At nine o'clock the next morning, I woke the man up and said, "Get up and go." He opened his eyes in a daze and asked me, "huh? "What time is it? Where to go? " I said go to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce. My house is pre-marital property. I don't want your car. He threatened me: "If you divorce, I will take my children back to my hometown so that you won't see them." . I retorted, "With your consistent performance, the court will not award the child to you." . He said he didn't want a divorce, and he would cherish this family in the future and wouldn't beat me and scold me again. He also said that his concept of hitting people is different from mine. In his opinion, his behavior of hitting me is not called hitting! I didn't say anything more, but my heart really died. I told him: you don't have to express any dissatisfaction with me in the future. I can divorce you anytime. He went out in silence. Expert advice: A man who grew up in domestic violence can't communicate with netizens in many cases. It's really hard for him to get over her situation in marriage, and he's deeply sorry for her. She is smart, kind, loves children, has a decent job and a stable income. She is a woman who is fully capable of getting married, but she also falls into a situation of "forbearing for her children", and the result of her patience is that her husband's violence occasionally breaks out; Even her three-year-old son thinks she is a "poor mother", so this forbearance is worthless. Fortunately, she has awakened and made up her mind to divorce. I wish her an early divorce. However, through Ye Zi's marriage tragedy, I want to give a few alarm bells to the girls who just fell in love: First of all, Ye Zi's husband is a military school graduate, and his job and salary are not bad. Why did he scold his wife and fight over a small piece of watermelon in the middle of the night? Behind his abnormal behavior is a distorted personality, that is, explosive personality. Explosive personality refers to the personality that often erupts into very strong and uncontrollable anger and even violence because of slight mental stimulation. This kind of personality is a hidden danger buried by bad family education. Because he was subjected to violence from his parents since he was a child, he often witnessed the scene of his father beating his mother, and felt that it was natural for his husband to beat his wife. In his opinion, his behavior of hitting me is not beating people! "This is the expression of his true thoughts. Many times, he can't control himself, it's hard to control. He doesn't know the harm his beating and cursing have done to his wife. He may wonder why his wife divorced him for such a trivial matter without being so obedient to his mother. It is this terrible personality that makes him not know it and can't control himself. Therefore, when choosing a partner, girls should not only look at his appearance, education and work, but also look at his personality, family background, good character and good family environment in order to achieve a high-quality marriage. Secondly, when a netizen's husband is in love, he says that his parents have bad feelings and love to beat people. His mother used to hug him when she was young and was beaten by his father. When he was a child, he was beaten almost every day, and for no reason. If a netizen has some professional knowledge of psychology, he should be alert to this passage and foresee the negative impact of this growing background on his personality. After more investigation and in-depth understanding of him, they will find something wrong and decisively terminate their contacts, which may avoid future tragedies. Unfortunately, after hearing the painful growth history of a man, netizens often feel pity, mistakenly think that they are his savior, and do not hesitate to deliver the truth to him. When they discovered his cruel side, they had fallen into marriage. Therefore, a woman must keep her eyes open before marriage, and pay more attention to understanding each other's growth background and his parents' marital status, because children are parents' shadows, and it is easy to copy their parents' marriage patterns. If he grew up in a violent family or a single-parent divorced family, you must make sure that he is not prone to violence and knows how to love himself and his lover before you can associate with him. Don't be confused by his so-called appearance or sweet words, and convey your feelings in a muddle. Also, netizens all know that her husband's marriage failed. But she didn't seem to get into the cause of his marriage failure, so she married him in a hurry. If netizens are more cautious and know more, they may be able to avoid repeating the mistakes of their ex-wives. Therefore, before a young girl is ready to accept the feelings of a divorced man, it is best to find out the reasons for his divorce. If possible, talk to his ex-wife in private and learn more about his performance in marriage. After repeated weighing, I decided to choose a safer one. Finally, netizens put up with her husband for three years and kept fighting in various ways, but her husband's violent tendency was not completely eliminated. In particular, his personality is not caused by leaves, but the consequences are borne by leaves, even affecting innocent children. It's really unfair, so it's very difficult to repair a bad character and change a violent man. Women should never overestimate themselves and think that they can change men. It is much wiser to know more about men, to distinguish what kind of men are not suitable for marriage, and to stay away from them than to blindly invest in feelings and suffer hardships before divorce.