? Suddenly, Tian Tian cried, and I ran to her. It turned out that two children were grabbing the magic iron bar, but Tian Tian didn't grab it, and she cried. I forcibly grabbed the toy from Chunxiang and handed it to Tian Tian. He stopped crying and Chunxiang burst into tears again. ...
Mom: Chunxiang, you invited Tian Tian to my house to play, but you didn't give her toys when you came. Is that so?
Chunxiang: This is my toy. I want to play with it too.
Mom: You can play with your toys every day, but sweets can only play for a while now, so you can play after she finishes.
Chunxiang: Mom, you are not a good mother. I will never sleep with you again (crying).
Mom: OK, you want to cry now, right? You can cry, mom will leave for a while, and come back to mom after you cry. (after cleaning the kitchen)
Chunxiang: Hum! I won't play with you anymore (then I ran into the bedroom and closed the door, probably to calm down and stay in the space)
? Sweet dad may have heard the crying and came in to see Chunxiang crying, trying to comfort him. I stopped it, so Daddy Sweets took Sweets back. After a while, Chunxiang came out, washed with her father and went to bed.
? Recently, I often hear Chunxiang say threatening words when dealing with what happened. This is a kind of revenge. He always said, you do what you do, I will do what you do. In fact, he told me that he was injured ... what should I do?
Positive discipline
When encountering children's revenge, parents should:
1. Don't fight back, but quit the revenge cycle.
2. Keep a friendly attitude and wait for the child to calm down.
3. Guess what the child was injured for, express sympathy and express your understanding of the child's feelings of injury.
4. Tell your child frankly how you feel.
5. Reflective listening: By feeding back what you have heard, you can enter your child's inner world.
6. If you have done harm to your child, please use the "three Rs" to correct the mistake.
7. The child and you discuss the solution to the problem one-on-one.
8. Express your worries and encourage your children.
? After sorting out my thoughts, I also went to the bed next to Chunxiang and chatted with him.
Mom: Chunxiang, you were angry just now and said you would never sleep with your mother again, right?
Chunxiang: Because you stole my toy and gave it to Tian Tian.
Mom: Chunxiang feels very sad when mom does this, doesn't she?
Chunxiang: Yes, you don't love me. You love sweets (crying).
Mom: Oh, mom apologized to you. At that time, she was in a hurry. She only thought that Tian Tian was a little guest of our family, and didn't ask Chunxiang if she agreed to play with her. Please forgive me, ok?
Chunhyang: You are bad mother (crying).
Mom: Mom loves you. Can you forgive her? Mom needs a hug. ...
Chunxiang: Mom, I forgive you (hold me, don't cry).
Mom: Thank you, Chunxiang. Mom loves you very much. (After hugging for a few minutes) Mom wants to ask you, next time you invite Tian Tian to our house, does Tian Tian still want to play with your toys? What should you do?
Chunxiang: I don't want to play with her anymore.
Mom: You mean, do you want to play by yourself?
Chun Xiang: Right.
Mom: Well, you can make your own decision.
Chunxiang: Next time I hear her walking outside the door, I'll never open the door again.
Mom: Really? It's not the first time you've said that.
Chunxiang: Mom (Chunxiang laughs shyly and then laughs loudly)
At this time, a child's voice came from outside the door: dad ~ mom …
Chun Xiang immediately pricked up her ears and stood out from the quilt. His eyes lit up and he said loudly, honey, mom, it's so cute. ...
"Yes, do you want to open the door?"
"Mom ..."
We smiled at each other, turned off the lights, and went to bed. ...