1- I have something to say, I have something to say. Don't criticize, don't complain about the children, just go. For example, if a child is not focused on his homework, we will not say: Can you be serious? How many times have I told you? Instead, I just told him: Baby, mom suggests that you do your work well first. You can do it. Come on, baby!
2- I have something to say. This means that you can talk to your heart without negative emotions. This kind of expression and communication makes it possible to establish a benign relationship and avoid confrontation.
3- Don't say it, don't say it when you shouldn't. Some things are children's own things. Once parents are bound, children will be banned. It is very unfavorable to the cultivation of sense of responsibility.
4- Give feedback to children. When the child makes a little progress, you must use your emotions to give feedback to the child in time. Every positive feedback and affirmation is a child's blessing. In fact, the premise of communication is that a person has a good relationship, inner communication, less entanglement, more people and more feelings, and naturally has communication skills. It's the premise. It's your child's premise. I just want to be wise and open-minded.
Finally, the bottom line is firm, children are very smart, and they will continue to try to achieve their goals in various ways. If parents often lose the bottom line, communication will become more and more difficult, because children find that a communication method is also effective. This family is the soil for growth. More like sunshine and rain. Although Lao Zhang has been talking about many methods, the most effective method is the example of his parents. Adults understand that even if children grow up, they will regard their parents as idols. Communication is naturally not a problem. It's just that I know there is a huge gap between them. Parenting is more like self-cultivation. I will leave it to me and I will grow up with my children.