First of all, children in grade six are about 12 years old. It is normal to have "careless mistakes". Parents should have a correct understanding. It's no use eating. There are inherent laws in children's mental growth and maturity, which involve not only IQ but also EQ. Adolescent 12-year-old children have rapid physical development, but slow psychological and emotional intelligence growth. Especially now, every child is "precious" and parents attach great importance to it, which makes it more difficult for them to "precocious". Ignorance is normal and common. Parents' anxiety about 12-year-old children's "careless mistakes" is understandable, but the good way to solve the problem is definitely not to eat a meal; This will not only help, but may also stimulate children's rebellious psychology. The less you want him to make careless mistakes, the more careless he is, the more careless he will be!
Secondly, children's good life and study habits mainly come from family daily education. "Careless mistakes" are not the responsibility of children alone. Parents are advised to beat themselves first. According to the latest research by sociologists and psychologists, it is found that children aged 0.6 are the key period for them to form good habits, and this fact is the main stage of family education. Therefore, the root cause of 12-year-old children's careless mistakes is not the children themselves, but the parents' failure to fulfill their family education responsibilities. In fact, it is not the children who should be beaten, but the parents. At present, the social competition is fierce and the pressure of survival and life is great. It's not easy for parents. Many parents need to go out to work to earn money to support their families. Many parents even directly turn their children into "empty nest children" during the critical period of their children's family education, which seriously lacks the cultivation of good behavior habits, so that they become lawless and do not like learning after school, and all kinds of bad habits are deeply rooted and difficult to correct!
Besides, teaching by example is more important than teaching by example. The best way to completely correct children's bad habit of careless mistakes is for parents to set a good example for their children. Children do make careless mistakes. If you don't hit them, how can you correct them effectively? The author's opinions or suggestions are as follows: ① Parents should set an example, set an example and be strict with themselves in peacetime, so that children can clearly see that you, as parents, are rigorous, earnest and hardworking, and become the benchmark for children's life pursuit. Only if you do a particularly good job, your preaching to children will be more powerful and effective. 2. Do a good job in home-school cooperation. Through close communication and exchange with teachers, children can not only find their progress in time, but also give them appropriate praise and encouragement, so that they can have a sense of accomplishment. ③ Strengthen parent-child relationship, actively create a harmonious family environment, let children trust and be close to their parents, and be willing to communicate with them sincerely. At the same time, parents should also strengthen their self-cultivation, which is worthy of children's respect and trust!
To sum up, the author believes that eating a meal is definitely not acceptable on the issue of "children always make mistakes in exams because of carelessness in the sixth grade", which will not only have good results, but will get worse results; Therefore, on the one hand, parents should strengthen their self-cultivation, strictly self-discipline and set a good example for their children; On the other hand, we should always communicate with teachers and work hard to help children turn over a new leaf through home-school cooperation!
My daughter is in grade six this year. She was careless in doing her homework in the exam. She always makes some low-level mistakes. Her handwriting was wrong, and the plus sign was taken as the minus sign. Sometimes I really can't help hitting her, but after all, she is a daughter and almost as tall as me. It's no longer appropriate to hit her.
Today's children have their own ideas, unlike in the past, when they were teenagers, they were still very simple. If I want to talk to her, she will either argue that I can't speak, or she won't listen at all. I can only stare blankly. What should I do?
Children should cultivate her rigorous style from an early age. Sixth grade, of course. It's too late to say this now. The only thing parents can do now is to be strict with themselves, regardless of work and life. In a subtle way, let children slowly reverse their careless habits and occasionally point out their shortcomings, but don't make any comments, otherwise it will be counterproductive.
Communicate with teachers more. At this age, parents' words are just fart, and teachers' words are still a little intimidating. Parents' preaching is not as useful as teachers' words. Fortunately, my daughter's teachers are all acquaintances, so let them "take care" more, and this face will still be given.
My daughter is in the sixth grade, almost 12 years old. She can't play anymore. If she is a son, she can play. I suggest that playing alone is too tiring. Let's mix doubles. If one game is not enough, play more! Ha ha [laughs] [laughs]
As the first parent of a child, let me answer you.
Three aspects, 1, the problems of children and parents themselves, the problem of stick education, and how to educate and correct children.
First of all, as a parent, I support stick education. However, for a parent like you, I really don't agree.
First, children now start attending kindergarten at the age of 3-4, and some even start attending kindergarten at the age of 2. As parents, from the beginning of school, it is necessary to cultivate children's habit of studying and thinking. It's the sixth grade. Do you know that children are careless nowadays? If so, your parents are not qualified. If you knew it before, why didn't you help him correct it earlier? It is also unqualified.
Second, talk about stick education. Students born after 80s, as well as students born after 80s and a few born after 90s, are estimated to have been beaten a lot (from parents and teachers) at school. Judging from my personal experience and classmates and alumni at that time, adding sticks directly has no effect, or even backfired. Some even tired of learning, skipped classes, and were seriously expelled from school by teachers. The ancients had the idea of stick education, but they didn't go up and fight directly. There must also be enough reasons to convince children. If the child is not satisfied with oral administration, then your stick will be counterproductive.
Third, how to educate and correct? If the child is still in kindergarten or just in elementary school, parents must be more reasonable with her. The importance of study, habit, thinking, writing quality and writing speed, and finally the importance of grades. Don't be afraid that children won't understand. Now the child is very clever. Even if you don't understand, you will understand if you talk too much. He knows the truth, so it's time for the stick to work. If the child doesn't do well in any way, tell him to give him a week or you can set a deadline to correct it within a time limit. If there is a reward, if there is no correction, the stick will be added together (the reward can be negotiated, and the parents can grasp the scale of the stick problem themselves, not too hard). As for the exam results, praise them, don't be stingy with your language, and take her out for a good and small reward after the mid-term exam. At this time, you will make an agreement with your child, and if you pass the final exam, you will get a reward. Relatively speaking, failure will be punished! (Last mid-term exam, I was the first in the whole grade. This time, I agreed with my girl that the final exam will be the first in the whole grade: hot pot three times, toys twice, and second place: hot pot didn't make the top three at one time, and mobile phones are not allowed in winter vacation. I practice five Chinese characters on A4 paper every day and clap my hands with a ruler ten times a day. This agreement will last for a long time. I have to make an agreement every semester, and my children's grades will come up bit by bit. Carelessness is not a big problem, but also a big problem. Correct it in time. It is not too late. Don't be impatient. It is impossible to correct it at once. You can make an agreement with him first. As long as there is nothing wrong with the final exam, there will be a reward. If you usually do problems, you should be encouraged if you don't make mistakes or be careless. Don't be embarrassed to praise or be afraid of his pride. If you have anything else to ask, you can ask. I can't talk about educating children through experts, but my method is definitely more suitable for ordinary people. No child is born stupid and inferior to others. The same teacher, the same learning environment, poor children are the guidance and constant education of their parents!
The child is careless, I suggest educating him like me!
It's no use calling. Tour guide! It's no use waiting for him to understand. Anyway, grades are not very important, as long as he has a good personality.
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Every exam, children will lose points because of carelessness. Why?
With all due respect, the reason why many children lose points is not carelessness, but lack of ability. Carelessness is just an excuse to escape punishment and maintain superiority.
We must be clear about two facts: anyone longs for respect and security; In school, in a collective environment, children are bound to be under pressure from other students.
Among them, the pressure of classmates will threaten children's sense of security, and children will take corresponding measures-attack or escape because of this threat.
In the face of threats, whether a child attacks or escapes depends entirely on the evaluation of the results by people around him.
For example, after the child's first exam results came out, the first sentence that parents said to their children was still too careless. If you are not careless, you can do better in the exam.
What is the child's reaction to this sentence? Children will attribute their unsatisfactory test results to carelessness, rather than reflecting on their lack of ability.
So that as long as there is an exam, children will inevitably be careless. A similar problem is pre-test syndrome. The night before the exam, such students are bound to lose sleep. Speaking of the analysis results, insomnia has become a powerful weapon for him to evade responsibility.
So the reason why children are careless is the evaluation of parents and people around them.
Based on this, if parents want to change their children's carelessness, they must let their children face up to their own problems-excessive sense of superiority, and guide them to pay attention to the improvement of their abilities. In addition, parents also need to change the evaluation methods and contents to avoid making excuses for their children.
It's the sixth grade, and you're still so careless. I don't think a meal can solve the fundamental problem. I suggest that the landlord eat once a week for seven weeks. It is estimated that this question will take three classes to begin. Please be patient. You can't get quick success and instant benefit, which hurts the children.
All children's problems can be found from their parents, and the reason for carelessness is because of insufficient concentration. Beating and cursing at any time can't solve the problem. The most important thing is the affirmation and trust of parents.
First of all, don't take children's grades too seriously. In the primary school stage, as long as you can keep up, there is still a lot of room for growth in the later stage.
Secondly, whenever he makes a little progress, he should praise and affirm his efforts, so that he will be willing to learn and appreciate the fun in learning.
Finally, summarize the mistakes he makes every time and make an error book, so that he can know where to be careful and reduce the loss of points caused by carelessness.
Stop fighting.
The sixth grade is almost in the rebellious period of youth. At this time, brute force can't solve it. You should reason with him and take some rewards and punishments to motivate him when necessary.