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Real education is fighting for dad.
1.

In the square, two three or four-year-old children were playing with sand, and suddenly they quarreled for some reason.

One said: My dad said ...

The other said, my dad said ...

One excitement: My father is a teacher, and he must be right.

The other one is more excited: my father is a doctor, and he knows too much, so he can't fit in a room, and this square can't fit in either. He is right!

I can't help laughing, ha, so small two guys know how to beat dad!

Yes, from birth, parents are the closest people, and their words and deeds have a deep-rooted influence on children. In the eyes of children, parents are role models and the first mentor in life. Parents' behavior and words are the mirror for children to refer to.

Many studies show that fathers have far greater influence on children's personality than mothers, especially boys. Fathers are more likely to help their children have a firm quality and global vision, and lead them to stand higher and see farther, that is, to have a higher life pattern.

2.

Take two children, A and B, for example. Children are all "good at the beginning of life", pure as white paper, and their fathers are completely different fathers.

When the children are toddlers, their father takes them outside to play.

A looked at his father blankly with a snack bag in his hand. At this time, my father pointed to the ground and asked A to throw it away. One didn't move. Father took the schoolbag from A and threw it on the ground. Like a gust of wind, the packaging bag flew like a butterfly. A danced happily and ran after the bag.

B is still holding a snack bag in his hand and looking at his father at a loss. At this time, dad pointed to the garbage bin not far away and said, "The baby is great. Throw it in the dustbin yourself, will you? " B didn't move. Father took B's hand and walked to the trash can, holding his little hand and guiding him to throw the garbage into the trash can.

After several times, both A and B learned to deal with garbage. A threw it away, B threw it into the dustbin, and even classified it. This is the difference, this is the initial embodiment of "fighting dad".

3.

When children go to primary school, there will inevitably be naughty and overbearing classmates in the class. A and B are deeply uneasy about them and complain to their father.

A said that XXX hit him today. So-and-so is the bully in class. All the students are so angry with him that even the teacher can't control him. The father said, "That's not easy? Fight back! If he bullies you again, give him a good beating and make him kneel for mercy. He won't bully you next time, and you will become the boss in the class. " A did it, and he soon became the new "big brother". Everyone looked at him respectfully. He doesn't know that everyone else is avoiding him.

B said that XXX hit him today. So-and-so is the bully in class. All the students are so angry with him that even the teacher can't control him. The father said, "son, I understand your difficulties." This was also the case when I was a child. " You know, people are all kinds, and there are all kinds. Anytime, anywhere, you may meet someone you don't like, or someone who doesn't like you. Don't be afraid, what should I do if I am bullied? Tell the teacher and ask the parents to mediate, of course, but the best way is to solve it by yourself through your own wisdom. "

"Wisdom?" B asked incredulously.

"For example, he wants to rob your toys. You can say we play together. I have many fun ways. Then show him that he will be attracted and play with you unconsciously. For example, if he wants to ruin everyone's game, you can invite him to participate, tell him funny ideas, and let him play the role he is interested in in in the game. He will soon be able to blend in and see your ability, and gradually he will admire you. There will be games in the future. If you warmly invite him, he will cooperate with you in a friendly way and eventually become your good friend. "

According to his father's method, B not only subdued the bully, but also made more and more friends. He also became the "big brother" in the class, but everyone supported him wholeheartedly.

4.

There are difficulties in learning, and two fathers handles them in a completely different way.

A didn't have time to show his father the failed test paper. His father grabbed his schoolbag, smashed everything on the ground, turned out the test paper, and saw the bright red score and almost spit out one mouthful blood. Undoubtedly, A was severely beaten, from then on, his score changed color, he suffered from exam phobia, he couldn't concentrate in class, and his grades went from bad to worse.

Finally, after completing compulsory education, I didn't go to school. Idle around all day, go in and out of internet cafes, fight and make trouble, learn to smoke and drink and pick up girls.

B went to his father with a failed test paper, and he felt guilty. Father looked at the score and smiled gently: "Nothing, once or twice doesn't mean everything. Come on, let's find out the reason together and try not to make the same mistake next time. " Examination can't represent everything, but learning is a lifelong course. In our life, we will encounter many difficulties. Don't be afraid. As long as we are strong, brave and persistent, we can beat them and get better and better. Dad believes you. In my heart, you are always the best. I hope you study hard, but I hope you are happy. "

A few years later, B was admitted to the top universities in China, then went abroad for further study and returned to China to become an executive of a famous multinational company.

5.

A's father cheated, and A asked him angrily. Father said casually, don't make a fuss. Now the social atmosphere is like this. It's just for fun and it's not taken seriously.

A think about it. The people he comes into contact with are even more ridiculous. The father thing is really nothing. He even advised the crying mother who hanged herself: compared with some people, dad is already good. Once he doesn't transfer his property, have an illegitimate child and divorce his wife, you will be so old. If you are really divorced, it will be difficult to find it again. What can you do with the rest of your life? Make do with it

A What about your own marriage and family? Marriage and divorce, like child's play, live in hot water for a long time.

B talked to his father about a relative's divorce because of an affair. Father said: Son, you have grown into a big man now. It's time to talk to you about marriage and family. Our ancestors taught us to be loyal to our partners and to respect and care for each other. Only in this way can our family be happy. Your mother and I are like this. I hope you love your wife so much and have a happy family in the future. A happy family can make you happier and more satisfied than a successful career.

B obey his father's instructions, lead a totally clean life and take good care of his family. As a result, the family is happy, happy and prosperous. Everyone called him a big winner in life.

6.

Judging from this case, A and B have completely different lives. Besides other factors, shouldn't we reflect on how much their father's performance has influenced them at every critical moment in their lives? The different performances of their fathers directly or indirectly influenced the formation of their outlook on life and values, leaving an indelible mark on their lives.

Exaggeration? It is no exaggeration.

"Fighting Dad" is really important in personality quality, lifestyle, learning attitude, outlook on life and values. Good spelling is enough for children to mold noble, noble and happy souls and illuminate the whole life.

"Dad" as soon as possible, the sooner the better.