With the development of China's economy, an adult can "live" a child without a proper job.

But what about really raising children? How many parents are really raising children? Due to the rapid economic development, although parents and children are separated by only one generation, they may be separated by several generations in concept. Some parents came from the old times and grew up in "bitter water". He doesn't know how to educate his children. He only knows how to beat and scold them and give them good things. They are wrong, but they are also poor.

There are three common questions:

1, don't treat children's problems as problems.

2. Take children's problems too seriously.

3, can't distinguish 1 and 2.

Seriously, parents in China have too many problems in education, and the topic is universal, so I will talk about the most problems from the parents and children I have contacted in my teaching career.

First of all, be serious when you are lazy, and be lazy when you are serious.

Let me explain the meaning of this sentence. In the first half of the sentence, "be serious about being lazy", parents in our country take care of their children's lives to an outrageous extent. I won't talk about the older children. You can sit down accordingly. Like where to play, what to play, what friends to make, what kind of object to find, everything you can think of, parents almost have to participate.

It is even worse to treat children aged 4 or 5 and help them feed and dress, and decide when to be hungry and when to be warm. Even children's hobbies are arranged by adults. Walking outside, you will see some parents holding big children in their arms, because parents think they are walking slowly, but they still hug them conveniently. Finally, the children they have worked so hard to raise have no basic self-care ability in kindergarten, poor communication skills, bad temper and no response to other people's feedback signals.

You could have let your children do it by themselves when it was time to be lazy. At first, because I was not skilled, I always had to dress slowly and eat dirty, but this was a necessary process. Be patient and cultivate children's self-care ability and self-control ability. In the end, both adults and children will benefit.

See how parents are lazy when it is time to be serious. Children have developed some bad habits, such as staying up at night, missing the most important period of sleep, unwilling to get up in the morning and being late for kindergarten. You tell him to correct it seriously, or it will affect his height. He said, "I know, but habits are not so easy to change."

For another example, you tell him to spend more time with his children reading picture books and invite him to participate in parent-child activities. He always says that he is busy and has no time. How much time do you have to play mobile phones and games? Parents must remember that parents and children themselves are ultimately responsible for any bad behavior of their children. Therefore, you can't be lazy when you are serious, and you must let go when you are lazy.

The second is the habit of childhood, big pipe.

Some parents always think that it doesn't matter if their children are young, they will be educated when they are old, but when their children are old and habits have been formed, it is difficult to change them. Parents think that children are not easy to manage and everything should be managed. There are many such parents in my class who turn a deaf ear to the teacher's advice and have their own way of thinking. Therefore, when I was in primary school, the hardest thing was my parents. They forgot everything at school every day and didn't tidy up their schoolbags. They needed their parents to help him clean up. They can't sit still and have no self-control when doing their homework. They always want to play and don't concentrate.

So don't neglect children's childhood education, especially the formation of good habits.

The third is to regard children as a continuation of their own lives, hoping that children can achieve their unfinished goals.

Therefore, at every stage of children's development, regardless of their wishes. It is easy for parents to pin their dreams on their children. Whether children like it or not, whether they need it or not, no matter how demanding, they must achieve their goals. Once the goal is not achieved, it will be regarded as a failure. If they pass on their incompetence and anxiety to their children, the children themselves will be anxious.

When a child is young, you can force him to do something he doesn't want to do. When the child is older, you will find that the child's rebellious mentality is particularly serious and he is unwilling to live according to his parents' wishes.

Parents should understand that children are not your accessories. She and you are both independent and constantly changing individuals. They came into this world and had their own lives. If they don't realize this, education will always be in a "take it for granted" mode.

These are what I saw in the process of being a kindergarten teacher. Candy wants to say that parents don't need exams, but it doesn't mean that parents don't need to study! !