Yes, on the surface, "bare-arm education" allows children to get in touch with their truer selves, but on the other hand, especially sex education for children is a wrong guidance and even affects their physical and mental health.
So many netizens also have questions about children's sex education. What will happen if, like kindergarten directors, sex education is neglected and children's growth is absent?
1. What are the serious consequences of the lack of sex education for children's growth?
A 12-year-old girl, because she was curious about her sex organs, directly put her hand into her organs, which led to the rupture of the hymen, which brought irreparable physical damage and probably more psychological impact. Therefore, in such a family lacking sex education, it is likely to have the following serious consequences:
1. Children have no sense of self-protection, which brings certain physical and mental harm.
According to a social survey, in China, 20% of children are suffering from sexual abuse, and most of them have such problems because sex education is not in place. Because sex education is a sensitive topic, many parents will avoid such a topic when their children are "protected" to a certain extent. Just like this, children have no sense of self-protection about sex, which gives the bad guys an opportunity and brings certain physical and mental harm to children.
2. Have a certain degree of curiosity, and it is easy to make mistakes prematurely.
I believe many mothers have heard the child's question: "Mom, where am I from?"
Yes, many children are curious about their birth and their body structure, especially when parents can avoid this topic. Children are more curious about this issue, and often they will explore it themselves. For example, a little boy and a little girl were found playing with each other's genitals in a kindergarten, and it was also out of curiosity to ask why.
Therefore, for children, without sex education, they will make mistakes prematurely. Although it was an unintentional mistake, the consequences were difficult to repair.
3. The negative influence of network and society brings certain cognitive bias to children.
When parents walk in the street, especially near the campuses of some high schools and universities, there will be some small advertisements about abortion and abortion, and sometimes even advertisements about surrogacy will appear around the campus. Although these are just some small advertisements, they will bring certain cognitive bias to children. You know, especially when sex education is not in place, children will not pay attention to this awareness of prevention. When they have sex prematurely, only parents will clean up the consequences.
Second, what misunderstandings do parents easily go into when conducting sex education for their children?
A parent had a certain opinion on China's "Healthy Reading Books on Sex Education for Primary School Students" on the Internet. She thought the contents of these books were too explicit, so she took photos of all the contents and put them on the Internet, which caused a heated discussion among netizens about these contents.
To sum up, there are two views. One side thinks that this kind of sex education is correct, but it needs some correct guidance. The other side thinks that this kind of readers are too large for children to read. So what misunderstandings will parents go into about their children's sex education?
1. I think premature sex education is useless and will only make children mature prematurely.
A parent, with her four-year-old child, wanted to enter the women's bathhouse, but she was rejected, so she thought it was a very strange thing, saying that her child was too young to distinguish clearly, but was it really like this? In fact, many parents have the same mentality as the parents above. They all think that premature sex education is useless to children. The most important thing is that children don't know anything now, so they think premature education is useless.
2. If children are not curious about this, parents will not take the initiative to explain.
My friend's child is five years old and a lovely girl, but she still plays topless at home. Asked why, my friend had to be embarrassed to say that it was difficult for her and her husband to talk about this kind of thing, and she wouldn't explain it if the children didn't ask.
Third, how to conduct timely, appropriate and appropriate sex education for children?
Children's sex education must be part of family education and school education, so parents must be indispensable at home. Naturally, for the serious problem of sex education, parents also need to master the correct way.
1. Sex education should be carried out as early as possible, not when you grow up.
Although sex education is a special topic, it seems to be too mature, but correctly speaking, sex education must be started before the child is five years old, because at that time, the child maintains the purest mentality of everything, so he will not have illusions about all the processes of sex education, so it is the most suitable age stage, rather than conducting sex education after growing up.
2. Don't deliberately avoid the topic of sex education, so that sex education is no longer embarrassing.
Parents should never avoid this topic when educating their children. More importantly, they must not avoid this topic. For children's related questions, don't refuse to answer because you are too embarrassed, but answer patiently and carefully to prevent any mistakes, which will lead to certain misleading and affect children's physical and mental health.
3. Different popularization should be carried out in a reasonable way at a reasonable age.
In terms of sex education, many parents are prone to defects when popularizing knowledge to their children, such as gender inequality, which makes their children sexist. There are also some parents who will only teach their children to prevent sexual assault when the knowledge of sex education is popularized, but will not teach their children how to deal with such situations, so there are always various problems. In addition, being at different ages also requires different educational methods, which need attention.
In short, children's sex education must be prepared and carried out early, and it must not wait until the children make mistakes or get hurt, then it will be too late.
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