With the development of economy and times, the divorce rate in our country is rising gradually, and the phenomenon of family reorganization is increasing day by day, so various problems follow one after another, especially the children living in reorganized families, who are sensitive, withdrawn, some even autistic, even violent, and have some behaviors that endanger society. The contrast between children in family of origin and children who have reorganized their families is becoming more and more obvious.

Keywords family background? Reorganize the family? Character cultivation

Family is the basic unit of society, and it is also the blood, soul and spirit of each of us. It is an important link between individuals and society, and it is a reserve for individuals to enter schools and even society. Family of origin, as its name implies, refers to the family where a person was born and grew up. It is the first time for an individual to come into contact with the environment of learning and growth. It is closely related to individual's emotional cognition, personality formation, behavior pattern, intimacy and attachment style. Reorganizing the family means breaking the original combination and regrouping, which means that the original styles of the two families should collide and merge. 3-6 years old is a critical period for children's personality development, and family reorganization at this time is even more problematic.

First, the influence of family background on children's personality development.

Children are in the position of educators, recipients and learners in family of origin. As they say, you can't choose where you come from. In the process of growing up, they regard their parents as their role models, constantly observe, imitate and learn from them, and get their behavior habits, languages, personal experiences and feelings from them, and gradually internalize them into their own unique survival rules with family background, such as coping mechanisms and communication methods. Good family relations have obvious guiding effect on children's character. Father's affection for mother, parents' affection for children and parents' affection for others has a direct impact on children's growth, especially on children's recognition of various role-playing and interpersonal relationships, that is, good family relationships affect children's mental confirmation of what state, mood and emotion should be used to express and know what is right. Harmonious parents and good upbringing can make children lively, cheerful and positive. Therefore, establishing a harmonious, happy, neat, orderly and complete family relationship is a favorable way to ensure the healthy growth of children. The common parenting style of parents plays a vital role in children's growth, which largely determines their psychological quality and personality development.

Second, the influence of family reorganization on children's personality development.

Research shows that family reorganization has a great influence on children's mental health. For children who grow up in a reorganized family, they are faced with more complicated family relations, and there may be two or more parents, so communication is more difficult, and their original family structure is destroyed, which makes children prone to personality problems such as inferiority, autism, depression, escape, introversion and even verbal and behavioral violence. The survey results show that children with reorganized families have more psychological and personality problems than children in family of origin. In addition, when the family is reorganized, both husband and wife will have children or have two more children, which will produce a very subtle comparative relationship between unrelated brothers and sisters. In the eyes of parents, they may think that they are in a dull state, but in the sensitive hearts of children, they will derive the idea that' Mom and Dad don't love me or Mom and Dad love my brother more', which will lead to a series of psychological and personality problems.

Three. abstract

It can be seen that compared with the reorganization of the family, family of origin seems to have much less unhealthy influence on young children. As far as family relationship is concerned, the family relationship from a family is more pure, both parents are blood relatives, and the way of raising and caring for children is unmatched by others. In other words, children will grow up with the long-term love of both parents, and there will be no so-called lack of love. Therefore, a good family atmosphere from a family is a powerful impetus to the development of children's psychological character. Family reorganization is different. Due to the influence of family economy, national culture and personal thoughts, people can't treat the children of ex-husbands or ex-wives equally. Most of them are forced by morality or the pressure of their current partners to love or take care of their unrelated relatives. In addition, children have already had a basic impression of family of origin when their families are reunited. Compared with the reorganization of the family, the environment in family of origin is more familiar and can give children a sense of security, thus forming a secure attachment relationship. However, the reorganized family is a strange environment for children, and adults need to adapt to a strange environment when they first arrive. What's worse, children will have some resistance when they first arrive in the reorganized family, which will induce a series of psychological and personality problems over time.

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