We believe that adversity is more conducive to people's growth for three reasons. First, we believe that adversity increases people's ideas and knowledge. When we find ourselves going the wrong way, we will know how to go the wrong way better, so our life knowledge and various experiences will be richer. Second, we believe that adversity broadens people's horizons and patterns. When we find this road more difficult than we thought, we will have higher expectations and be more prepared next time. If a person expects him to finish a problem in three minutes, but it takes him eight minutes, he will be ready in eight minutes next time. Thirdly, we believe that adversity helps to stimulate our potential. We have risks and challenges on the road, and we will inspire this ability that we have never imagined ourselves. Psychologically, if a teacher challenges a child's higher-than-expected ability in the process of learning, the development result will be better.
In the process of the growth of modern only child, parents always try their best to eliminate all interference and let him grow up smoothly. He has hardly experienced any hardships. Where does adaptability come from? How can he not afford to lose when he encounters setbacks?
There is an old professor's son. From elementary school to high school, he has been among the best in his studies and other aspects. He has never lost. However, after attending a key university, it is difficult to monopolize the redundant heads of many top students. He lost, but he can't afford to lose. Because of his low test scores, the school let him fail, so he dropped out of school and ran away. Four students who failed the college entrance examination in a key high school in a city committed suicide by taking poison and were rescued in time. We all remember that Gu Cheng, a young poet who was once active in poetry, committed suicide just because of a little emotional setback, and a dazzling meteor fell like this. It hurts and makes people feel sorry ... there are too many similar examples of people who grew up in prosperity and fell down and couldn't get up when they encountered a little setback. In real life, in addition to these typical incidents of suicide and running away, the incidence of other psychological problems of teenagers is also very high, especially the only child. We often see that some students are unwilling to associate with others because they feel that their self-esteem has been hurt by what others have said to them. Even if it is your own fault, you don't have the courage to admit it. When others point out their mistakes, they will be denied, defeated, praised, complacent, criticized, attacked and suppressed. The fundamental reason is that this result should be directly related to the discomfort of setbacks during the child's growth.
Look at Zhang Haidi, a typical representative who grew up in adversity. Take Paul as an example. She remolded a brand-new self in front of us with perseverance and life. She overcame the disease with tenacious perseverance and sang the true meaning of life with her life ... She remolded her life value in the face of major setbacks, which made every healthy person feel guilty. How many times can there be in life? Struggle after major setbacks is the best realm of life, which is a kind of sublimation!
Heroes have suffered a lot since ancient times and have never been too handsome. Look at the growth experiences of some Nobel Prize winners, such as Madame Curie, Ding Zhaozhong and Pavlov. Did they not grow up in hard adversity?
Therefore, we believe that adversity is conducive to the growth of children! Jade must be cut into pieces In order not to let our children suffer setbacks and failures and bear all kinds of pressures and challenges in life, we need to carry out some frustration education from an early age. If the pain of oysters is condensed into pearls, then after repeated setbacks, they will naturally form indomitable perseverance, fearless courage and indomitable character. Although they may fall, it is still difficult to get up-Brother Lu. They will face up to setbacks, control them, solve them and overcome them. Adversity is more conducive to cultivating talents.
debate
Just now, in our second debate, we made a full speech from a realistic perspective. Our position is firm: adversity is conducive to the growth of talents. Let me reiterate our unchangeable position from the facts proved by history: adversity is conducive to the growth of talents.
2,000 years ago, Mencius said: If God wants to send a great mission to Sri Lanka, he must first suffer from his mind, work hard on his bones and muscles, starve his body and skin, empty his body, and mess with his actions. In other words, if people want to do something, they must always suffer hardships and exercise.
In ancient China, outstanding figures such as Zuo Qiuming, Sun Bin and Sima Qian were all tempered in adversity and made outstanding achievements. Ability to resist adversity. As a talent, it is inevitable that you will encounter adversity. Studying history, we will find that most people succeed in adversity, but few people can succeed in prosperity. This truth is easy to understand, because in adversity, if you want to get rid of adversity, you must work harder. There are countless examples of success in adversity. King Wen was arrested for playing Zhouyi. Zhong Ni wrote Spring and Autumn Annals; Qu Yuan's exile is a tribute to Li Sao. Zuo Qiu is blind and has "Mandarin"; The foot of Sun Tzu's Art of War has been revised; Not Shu, but Shi Wei's "Lu Lan"; Han Fei imprisoned Qin, Difficult and Lonely Anger; Three hundred poems, the move of the underground sages, are also angry. "
As the saying goes: the sword front comes from sharpening, and the plum blossom fragrance comes from bitter cold. Where there is a will, there is a way. If we cross the rubicon, 120 Qin Guan will belong to Chu after all. Hard-working people are rewarded by heaven, and they have tasted courage. More than 3,000 armour can swallow Wu. How hard life is, it has sharpened people's will, the road is bumpy, and people are learning.
How many people's success comes from setbacks and adversity: Confucius traveled around the world to preach "benevolent government", and he was cold-shouldered and faced with many difficulties all his life. In his later years, he became a saint of the Chinese nation by writing Spring and Autumn Annals; Sun Bin, a military genius, envied Pang Juan. He was whipped and his feet were cut off. He pretended to be crazy and went back to Qi State to help the King of Qi defeat Wei Jun's The Art of War and become the originator of military affairs. Emperor gaozu Liu Bang and Xiang Yu competed for the world, but they were defeated again and again. Finally, they turned defeat into victory and founded the Han Dynasty. The great Russian scientist lomonosov was born in a remote and poor fishing village in the Arctic Circle. He fished all the year round and was abused by his stepmother. However, he was unwilling to be arranged by fate in his predicament. He left for the pursuit of knowledge, studied hard and observed diligently, and finally became a greater scientist than thinking. When Dickens, an English writer, was seven years old, his father went to prison for debts, and his mother made a living by washing clothes for others. He had to work in a shoe factory since he was a child, suffering from poverty and anxiety, but he didn't get depressed in adversity, made progress in knowledge, and eventually became an outstanding realistic writer in Britain. Gorky, a great Soviet writer, was born in a free and poor family. When I was a child, I helped my family by picking up junk and became a generation of celebrities by indomitable spirit ... These talented people all became talents in adversity, so it can be said that without adversity, there would be no achievement and glory.
Concluding remarks
Just now, we listened carefully to the other debater's statement, which was wonderful. But we feel that the other party has not clearly realized who is light and who is heavy in concept and essence. I have to emphasize again:
1, subjective initiative in adversity. What we are discussing today is a comparative topic. Growth is development, and development depends on motivation. Adversity provides the possibility for individual's positive development, that is, he can stimulate people's subjective initiative to the maximum extent and give full play to people's potential. Psychologically, this situation becomes stress. The Old Man and the Sea is Hemingway's classic work. The image of Santiago, a Cuban old man, has become the idol of many people. He struggled with marlin and all kinds of sharks for three days and nights by faith, and didn't catch a fish for 84 days. He is over 40 years old. Where does his strength come from? It is adversity that inspires its subjective initiative. Comfort in prosperity cannot have such a great influence on people.
2. Sustainability in adversity. Our concept has been clarified. When trying to overcome adversity, the subject must make corresponding self-adjustment according to his own motivation, so as to achieve the ultimate goal of surpassing adversity and seeking positive development. The attempt made in this process is conducive to the long-term and even lifelong development of the subject, so that he can overcome more difficult "adversity" in his future survival according to his own experience in overcoming adversity.
3. Reversibility in adversity. The existence of adversity is only meaningful to the parties concerned. The role played in personal growth is also determined by the performance of the parties. Everyone should have heard that a college student can't peel eggs; Then, for this college student, even an egg with a shell is adversity; It can be seen that people who grow up in prosperity may not be able to respond flexibly to the adversity that needs to be dealt with in reality; On the other hand, if his parents let him take care of himself at an early age, he may encounter "adversity" in the process of learning to peel eggs, but peeling eggs has become "prosperity" at this time, and what he can bear will be more meaningful challenges to his life, rather than facing an egg blankly.
4. The process of adversity. The basic idea of the new curriculum standard emphasizes: attaching importance to the process of students' learning. That is, the emotional experience, practical experience and personal experience gained in learning are regarded as part of the learning results. The psychology of middle school students will not change much when they study well, and it is impossible to form memories quickly and profoundly without strong stimulation.
Come back to our teaching. Let's talk about teachers first. Every teacher knows what the open class has brought you. Whether it is successful or not, it brings progress and thinking to individuals, requires more labor in class than usual, and will encounter all kinds of "adversity" in operation. The process of solving many problems has really promoted our progress. Let's talk about students. Too much emphasis on appreciation education provides fertile soil for children to satisfy themselves. We don't see many children around us: just listen to praise, ignore or accept criticism. Adversity is a good teacher, which can make children objectively realize their lack of knowledge and ability from difficulties, and then constantly improve and improve.
Ladies and gentlemen, no one wants our children to lack courage, confidence, thinking and forge ahead because they rely too much on the role of "prosperity" in their growth, and all this, some adversity in life can help them find it. French educational thinker Edgar? Fuer submitted a research report to the Director-General of UNESCO in 1972, and then the UNESCO International Education Development Committee compiled Learn to Live. The educational slogan put forward by the United Nations for the 2 1 century is "learn to be a man". In the era of rapid development, the purpose of putting forward this slogan is obvious, that is, let us all learn to find our own cheese!
As the saying goes, you can only be a master if you have suffered. The so-called bitterness is the bitterness brought by adversity. The so-called man is not a general utilitarian idea, but he can be more open-minded and far-sighted than the average person in life, and he can handle things with ease. If we live in a quiet environment without wind and waves since childhood, we will only see a little sunshine and the temperature we can adapt to, which is undoubtedly a frog in the well; In the final analysis, the growth of individuals is only the natural law of birth, aging, illness and death. Therefore, we reiterate our view that adversity is more conducive to human growth. If you want to make your life more exciting, then choose to face adversity bravely! I ended my speech with Hemingway's words: "I can be destroyed, but I can't be defeated!" " ! "