These days, an article on the Internet has been widely circulated. Probably about a girl from an elite family. She is capable and knowledgeable. She began to read Shakespeare's original works in middle school. Behind this story, the family environment factors that her parents can give and the learning process that her parents participate in together are what ordinary parents are worth learning and trying.

If we don't have considerable financial strength, should we give up all kinds of attempts to be with children?

Suppose: the children of an elite family want to visit a museum in a certain country, but I have no money, and the children are interested in the world famous paintings, so we can't study with them?

It's entirely possible. We can study with our children by buying picture books and consulting materials online.

Suppose again: the children of an elite family love equestrian, but I have no money, and the children love equestrian, so we can't play with them?

We can tell our children about equestrian knowledge, and then replace equestrian with other sports, such as table tennis, skipping rope and running. These are all healthy ways of existence.

Suppose the children love to listen to concerts. We can't afford to go to the live version, but we can always give them the video version. Although the effect is different, aren't we working hard? )

Of course, there are some assumptions and ifs.

We can't deny that different families have completely different horizons, different ability to integrate resources and different understanding of society, but should we give up all kinds of efforts and friendly attempts to let our children go global?

I came from a poor family. Can't I give my children a broader vision by studying and trying with them? Then the problem is coming.

It's actually very simple.

Like many parents around me, many parents are lazy even if they are elites and are not trapped by the economy. They didn't study, grow, toss and try with their children. Then how can such a family cultivate more outstanding' elites'?

The so-called elite represents the ability of resource integration, the breadth of children's vision and their knowledge.

We are poor and lack the ability to integrate resources, so what about our vision? What about studying? In the internet environment, we can all get it the day after tomorrow through our efforts and those of our children.

The most important thing is parents. Are you willing to make your child a better person? In the early stage of children's growth, they abandon all their narrow views and their cognitive limits, and study, play and toss with their children with the characteristics of openness and tolerance.

There are dozens of museums in every city. Have you finished your deep study with your children?

Have you taken your children through the popular books, interesting books in various disciplines and various world famous books on every book sales website?

Did you take your children to participate in activities organized by various societies in various cities on Saturday and Sunday?

Take Beijing as an example. If children like music, there are only a few tens of dollars tickets in the last row of various performances. Did you take your children to feel and learn?

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If you don't.

You will only feel unbalanced about the economic resources and resource integration ability of the so-called elite families. Unbalance can't change anything, and you and your children can't be like them.

Then as parents, we should take our children to toss, try, work hard and try our best.

Maybe after doing this, our children are still much worse than others, but what does it matter? If you don't do it, it may be worse!

To cultivate an elite child, you must be an excellent parent-at least a qualified parent. An excellent parent should meet the following conditions:

1, love children. Children are born and raised by themselves, so we must treat them sincerely. If you treat your child as an enemy, you will never be a qualified parent.

2. Respect the child's personality. Don't always stand on top. In fact, children also have their own self-esteem. They should know how to say specific things to their children on specific occasions, and don't criticize them too much in front of outsiders.

3. Educate children in the right way. Parents who dote on their children and are used to beating and scolding them excessively are not good parents. Only parents who know how to distinguish right from wrong, correctly analyze their children's problems and solve them with appropriate methods are qualified parents.

4. Know how to discover the advantages and disadvantages of children. Every child has his own advantages and disadvantages. Parents should not neglect the education of their children just because they are not very good-looking.

5. Accompany children to grow up. The growth of children needs the company of their parents. Busy work is no excuse. Children who have not been cared for by their parents for a long time are not only withdrawn, but also increasingly alienated from their parents.

6. Don't be a single-handedly arranged parent. Parents who always help their children are not good parents. In some cases, parents should be "lazy" parents, so that children's ability can be further improved.

So, how to be a qualified or even excellent parent?

-Take more children to contact with the outside world and spend more time with them;

-Observe children's words and deeds in peacetime and correctly guide children to the right path;

-properly raise children and let them learn to grow up independently;

-Cultivate children to develop good living habits and study habits;

-if the child is wrong, be patient and reason with the child, and don't lose your temper to solve the problem;

-don't spoil your child, don't treat your child's faults with violence;

-Parents should set an example and set a good example for their children.