How to talk to children about privacy and protect personal privacy is very important. As parents, we should always tell our children some simple truths to make them realize that there are both good people and bad people in society and learn to protect themselves. So how do you talk to your child about privacy?
How to talk about privacy with children 1 first, find the right time.
Say such private words, be sure to find the right time. Just like congratulating others, you need to find a better time. Once the timing is wrong, it will be embarrassing to say these words. When talking in private, you need to find some private time, not in public.
When you are in private, such as when no one is at night, tell stories to your children and bring these topics with you. These are all good choices. In any case, find a suitable time to let children accept this topic very naturally.
Second, use appropriate methods.
The right time, but the wrong way, will also make children feel embarrassed and unwilling to tell their parents. What is the appropriate method? This need varies from person to person. You can find a way to talk privately according to your child's specific situation.
If children like stories, they can slowly introduce this topic through stories. A good method can not only embarrass children, but also make children pay attention to this problem and know the seriousness of this problem. If the method is not good, children may feel embarrassed and unwilling to communicate with their parents. So finding a good method is the guarantee that private conversations can go on.
Third, reasonable expression.
The method is correct, but the expression must be appropriate and reasonable. If the expression is very rude and vulgar, it may affect children's views on these things and think these views are very disgusting.
Therefore, when expressing these questions, we must learn to read relevant materials in advance, understand relevant terms, and let children accept the discussion of these topics again. Reasonable expression is also very important in dealing with interpersonal relationships, not to mention talking about these private words.
How to talk about privacy with children 2 1 Can "reproductive organs" be outspoken?
● Reproductive organs are sacred and sacred organs of the human body.
The difference in reproductive organs determines a person's sex.
● Reproductive organs are closely related to personal health.
● Reproductive organs are organs for the reproduction of human life.
Reproductive organs are closely related to the endless life of human beings, and they are sacred and sacred organs, so the life they create is so sacred and precious! This is an explanation of the sublimation of "reproductive organs" on the basis of scientific knowledge.
This sublimation passed on the concept that "sacred organs created my noble life" to children. This is the first step to help children understand "sex" in a positive way, and it is also an important link to help children build healthy sexual values and outlook on life.
In our traditional culture, "reproductive organs" are directly related to "indecent and shameful sexual behavior". The traditional concept of sex tells children that the organs that reproduce life are obscene and pornographic.
The education that children receive from adults is to cherish their noble life. The traditional education of sex concept and life concept is in a state of complete separation, which makes children unable to have a complete understanding of life and destroys their sense of sacredness and nobility in their own lives.
2. Replace "vagina" with "life channel"
When introducing female genitalia to children, we can explain the "vaginal opening" like this: "This is the vaginal opening, where girls grow up and their mothers give birth to their children, and it is the exit from their mothers' stomachs.
There is a passage connected with the uterus in the mother's stomach, which is the passage of our human life. "Use' life channel' instead of' vagina', so it won't conflict with our folk culture.
When explaining vulva (lip), explain from the angle of protecting urethral orifice and vaginal orifice: "urethral orifice and vaginal orifice are very important." If exposed, pathogenic bacteria can easily enter, causing genital infection and illness.
Therefore, there are two layers to protect their tissues, one is called Silver (lip) and the other is called Yin Da (lip). The small vulva (lip) and the large vulva (lip) cover the vaginal orifice and urethral orifice, so that bacteria are not easy to invade the urethral orifice and vaginal orifice. "This explanation sublimates knowledge to the level of reproductive health.
The correct way for girls to wipe after defecation is from front to back, so that bacteria in defecation are not easy to be brought to vaginal orifice and urethral orifice. It is best to use a shower when cleaning genitals every day. If you use a bath, you should clean your genitals first and then your anus. This can protect the genitals from pollution.
3. The foreskin problem that cannot be underestimated.
The male foreskin should be able to be pulled up, and it is normal that the glans penis (head) is completely exposed. If phimosis and foreskin are too long, parents should take their children to the hospital and listen to doctors' opinions and suggestions. Regarding the foreskin, please refer to my growth and sexuality.
Parents should tell their children to smooth the foreskin to the top of the turtle (head) before cleaning the scales. It is the father's responsibility to teach boys to clean their genitals, and the mother can't intervene. After the boy was three years old, the mother couldn't help the child clean his genitals.
Dad wants to show the boy how to smooth the foreskin and clean the genitals, so that the children can learn this operation by themselves. Because the nerves of the genitals are very rich, the genitals are very sensitive to stimulation, so let the children grasp the weight themselves so as not to hurt the genitals.
4. The importance of testicles
Once I went to a primary school to give a lecture to fifth-grade students, and the content of the class talked about the problem of testicles. The children learned the information of surgical treatment of cryptorchidism from my class. After class, a boy of 1 1 told me that one of his testicles had not come down yet. I asked his parents if they had taken him to see a doctor. He said that his mother gave him Chinese medicine every day.
Then he asked me, "Mr. Hu, can Chinese medicine lower the testicles?" I explained it this way: "The testicles are blocked by some connective tissue. If drugs can dissolve these connective tissues without damaging other connective tissues, unless such drugs have eyes! "
I told him to go back and discuss the problem with his mother quickly, and then tell her what he had learned. "If cryptorchidism can be treated as soon as possible, although the function of testis is not easy to recover, it can prevent testicular cancer in abdominal cavity!"
Each child has two testicles, one on the left and the other on the right, which can be felt in the scrotum. About 3 months after the baby is born, the bilateral testicles will drop into the scrotum. If one side does not fall, you can touch one testicle, if both sides do not fall, you can't touch the testicles on both sides. This is medical cryptorchidism.
If the child discovers cryptorchidism before 1 year, timely operation can ensure the sound function of testis. After 8 years old, it was found that even with treatment measures, it was difficult to ensure the function of the testis, but it was still necessary to lower the testis into the scrotum by surgery, otherwise it would easily cause cancer. Therefore, parents should check and treat their children's testicles in time.
5. Let the children wash their underwear by themselves
Underwear is a private service, so you should wash and dry it yourself. This habit can be cultivated from the age of 4. Many parents worry that their children can't wash clean, so they give up the cultivation of their children's habit of washing underwear.
According to my investigation, most children's underwear is cleaned by their mothers, aunts at home and washing machines. Parents teach their children to wash underwear, which can cultivate their awareness of solving their own problems independently, enhance their awareness of physical privacy and cultivate their life skills.
My son started washing underwear at the age of 4. After I taught him how to wash underwear, his son's habit is to take a bath every day. After he takes a shower, he will wash his underwear directly and then dry it himself. After he went to bed, I took off his underwear and cleaned it again.
I hope my son can feel that he is trusted by us, and I hope he can wash his underwear well, so he has never known about my re-washing. I won't wash my son's underwear after he is 6 years old, because he can already wash it clean.
6. Teach children to know the private parts of the body.
Reproductive organs are everyone's privacy. You can't just say, look and touch. This is the private part of the body. In addition to reproductive organs, women also have breasts in their private parts.
Parents can ask their children to draw boys and girls on a piece of paper, and then ask them to mark the private parts of boys and girls with red pens. When giving tips to children, you can't directly say private parts, because children don't understand the meaning of this word. Parents should say that private parts are "parts that others can't see or touch casually".
Therefore, when asking children to use a red pen to draw their private parts, the guide language should say "use a red pen to mark the parts of the body that can't be seen or touched casually" so that children can understand and follow your instructions. In the process of making children mark, they are actually helping children to know the parts of body privacy and establish the concept of protecting body privacy.
Parents should also tell their children:
(1) No one, including mom and dad, grandparents, friends, relatives and mom and dad's teachers, can look at you casually or touch your private parts;
(2) If someone wants to touch your private parts, try to leave him, and then go home and tell mom and dad;
(3) Don't just look at or touch other people's private parts.
In the education of protecting children's privacy, we should also pay attention to the guidance of parents in different cultural backgrounds and contexts. Let's look at a mother's mind.
My daughter and I watch me and my wildlife friends together. This book mainly shows a little French girl's close contact with African wild animals through photos and a few words, but her daughter seems to have no interest in animals and keeps pointing at the girl in the picture and asking: Why is she wearing so little? Why is she naked? Her privacy was exposed.
It seems that children living in big cities can't escape the immersion of "modern civilization", so children will not look at and appreciate the pictures of these people living in harmony with nature with natural eyes, but measure them with the "civilization" and "privacy" carefully taught by us adults. It seems that my privacy education is still very successful, but is it lucky or unfortunate?
The mother can guide her children from this angle: in some parts of the world, such as the African jungle, people in these places don't wear clothes, because that place is very hot, people have their own way of life, and people dress differently because of different cultures.
And the little girl lives in that place, so she is just like the people there. If the little girl leaves that place and goes to other countries, she has to wear clothes. Mothers can also find some pictures of African life for their children to see, so that children can understand that human beings have different cultures and guide them to see the world from a broader perspective. This is a teaching machine. Therefore, there is no definite law in education, and it depends entirely on the wisdom of parents.
7 avoid embarrassing scenes
Because sexual topics are related to personal privacy, parents need to tell their children that they can discuss sexual topics with their parents; Don't discuss such topics with children or other adults;
Don't talk loudly about genitals in public places. You can't say "I know you have genitals" to a child. However, even if we tell our children, they sometimes embarrass us. At this time, parents should stand with their children.
When my son was 7 years old, I bought a sex education book translated from abroad. This book is illustrated with pictures and texts. The book introduces the knowledge of men and women very thoroughly, including sexual intercourse, contraception and so on. There are even pictures of naked sexual intercourse between men and women. I told my son not to discuss such topics with other children. However, something embarrassing happened.
One day, when my son participated in a classmate's discussion on how to have children, he told everyone professionally that "men and women have sexual intercourse, and sperm and eggs combine." So the class teacher came to the door. Fortunately, the teacher accepted my suggestion and didn't criticize my son in front of his classmates.
I chatted with my son after he came home. I asked him: Did you discuss having children with your classmates today? My son told me that several students are discussing how men and women have children. Some students say that it is kissing, and sperm can pass from saliva to a woman's stomach, so that she can get pregnant. Others say that men and women can get pregnant by shaking hands.
Hearing this, I told a classmate that all their statements were wrong. Men can only get pregnant if they have sex with women. I told this classmate not to tell anyone. He told other classmates, and later the classmates told the teacher.
I told my son that you gave them the right answer that they didn't know. You did a great job! Only one thing, if you think this is a secret, only you know it. You can't keep this secret as long as you tell anyone! Don't expect others to keep your secret! This classmate didn't keep your secret today!
Children sometimes don't know when to say what. Parents should not blame their children. Every child is slowly maturing, and mistakes will be made in the process of maturity. That's their chance to grow up!
How to talk about privacy with children? Protect personal privacy and safety knowledge.
(1) No one, including mom and dad, grandparents, friends, relatives and mom and dad's teachers, can look at you casually or touch your private parts.
If the doctor wants to examine your private parts, you must be accompanied by your father or mother.
(3) If someone wants to touch your private parts, bravely refuse him and tell him sternly, "You can't do this! I want to go home and tell the adults. "
If someone touches your private parts, you should tell your parents immediately, and you can get help from your parents.
(5) Don't just look at or touch other people's private parts. You should know how to respect the privacy of others.
How do girls protect their privacy and health?
1, don't wash at will during menstruation, and don't use drugs indiscriminately. Drugs will endanger women's health, leading to a large number of bacteria entering women's vagina, causing gynecological inflammation.
2. Don't wear too tight underwear. Too tight underwear, too tight contact with the skin, will affect the absorption of vaginal secretions, will affect physical and mental health.
3, drink more brown sugar water during menstruation, wash the vulva with warm water, clean the vagina regularly, and often clean underwear.
Everyone should learn contraception before sexual intercourse. Contraception is not only a kind of safety, but also a kind of care for women. A man who doesn't know how to use contraception is a way of disrespecting women.
5. It is more harmful to women's privacy and health to keep a happy mood during menstruation, eat regularly, eat lightly and eat less spicy and irritating food.