First of all, rebellion is the child's nature, or rebellion is everyone's nature, but adults will hide it, and children express it more directly. Therefore, parents should treat this problem with a normal heart, and don't be anxious or label their children indiscriminately, knowing that children are so old.
Third, guide children. I like the word "example" very much. Example is more important than words. As adults, the power of role models is infinite. We are all ordinary people. We can't influence outsiders in this life, but we can influence children. When I was reading, my child was reading, and when I took notes, my child was wearing shoes and drawing.
Fourth, gentle refusal. Try to distinguish which parts are unreasonable for children's temper. If I take the opportunity to ask my mobile phone to play games or buy junk food, I will often refuse, but not very strongly, but choose a gentle refusal to change the subject. This naturally varies from person to person, but I still won't give in on the matter of principle, or I'll take another step next time.
All children in the world have the right to lose their temper, which is a necessary stage for them to grow up.
I did this because my children are at this stage now. I think it is necessary to make a rule for children at this stage. Whenever the child does this, I will let her stand, and I will talk to her while standing. Why, right, the consequences of being wrong, and so on. If the child realizes that he has done something wrong, he will apologize to me and promise it won't happen again. If she doesn't realize that she has done something wrong, then stand up and punish her and let her think about it!
Children aged four or five always lose their temper and always like to talk to adults in the opposite direction. I think it must have something to do with the upbringing of family members.
Children lose their temper easily, and there are generally two possibilities. One is "people are crazy"; The other is that "there are differences in adult rearing patterns at home."
First of all, let's analyze the children who are crazy. In fact, such children are a very smart group. First of all, he knows how to read words and deeds, and under what circumstances his parents will restrain their excitement and meet his unreasonable demands. I remember that my son belonged to this kind of child when he was a child. When relatives and friends are full during the Spring Festival, he will make various demands. You tell him to face east, and he insists on facing west, always against you or against you. But there are outsiders, and I have to restrain my anger in everything I say. I thought to myself, this little bastard, wait and see what I can do to you. However, by the time the meal is full, he may have fallen asleep. Things will go away. After repeated small successes, children have developed the bad habit of loving "people come crazy".
For this kind of children, I later summed up the experience. First, I want to help him analyze under what circumstances he will be "crazy". Then, I will make an appointment with him in advance, such as: go out to the party, tell him what not to do first, what bad consequences will he have if he loses his temper, and he may cancel watching cartoons or not buy him his favorite toys. On the other hand, if he behaves well, he will be there when he comes home. After a few times, the child's temper and hands-on behavior will be restrained, and gradually the child will become more and more sensible.
The other is that family members have different parenting styles, which leads to children's bad personality and often vent their emotions by losing their temper. Generally speaking, the elderly at home often meet the unreasonable demands of their children because they are separated parents. When my child was four or five years old, he fell in love with the small cards in the Water Margin, and his grandfather moved instant noodles to his house without telling us. Children can't have so many snacks, so grandpa will buy them again. For a time, instant noodles at home were pushed high above. Later, we found this symptom. I want to help my child get rid of it, but it's already very difficult. When you criticize him, he is against you. Hiding from grandparents and not kissing us. This makes us very passive. Once because of educating children, children were too capricious. My father-in-law almost got rough with me. My husband came out to educate the children, and my father-in-law actually said this in front of the children. "Now you are amazing. I think you are thinner than him. Is the child still a child without skin? " Silent ... so, if all family members have the same goal in order to develop the good habit of children not losing their temper, this phenomenon is difficult to reverse.
I think that if your child is disobedient, there must be the above factors, so analyzing the reasons and finding the source is the key to solving the problem.
In fact, the period of 3-5 years old is the first manifestation of children's rebellious psychology in the process of growing up. Niu Lao believes that a child will have two rebellious periods in the process of growing up, one is preschool and the other is high school.
I hope my answer is helpful to you. Thank you.
This should be viewed from two aspects.
Psychology 1. Whether parents spoil their children for a long time or ignore their emotions, children are mirrors of adults, and many parents don't care about their emotions. However, after the child is one year old, the five treasures and six hospitals are fully developed and emotionally complete, which requires reasonable communication and guidance. Otherwise, they will suffer from emotional diseases, and losing their temper is just one of them. Some children who are often scared by their parents will be timid and affect their lives. Often parents feel indifferent, which requires reflection. Raising children is also an opportunity for parents to grow up.
Physiology II. If the first point has been taken seriously and adjusted, let's look at the second point ~ stagnation. Traditional Chinese medicine stresses the unity of body and mind, and the stagnation in children's bodies will inevitably affect their emotions. If a child's intestinal blood is stagnant, the child's mood is definitely problematic, such as hyperactivity, disobedience, temper tantrums, violence, swearing and so on. Such children are very common in daily consultation. Similarly, long-term emotional disorder, in turn, will form stagnation, which is mutual.
How to see if a child has stagnation usually depends on tongue coating, white or yellow thick greasy, breath, abdominal distension, poor appetite and so on.
There is also a deeper stagnation, which Chinese medicine calls malnutrition. Often the tongue coating is normal, but the tongue quality will be deep, the stomach will swell and the pulse will be scattered. Please see my previous article for details.
If stagnation has been formed, it must be adjusted through traditional Chinese medicine, dietotherapy and drug treatment. Gradually digest things that are stagnant in children. Such as commonly used hawthorn malt. It should be compatible according to the specific situation of the child. If it is not conditioned, it will affect the child's development, height and resistance for a long time. Many children who have been recuperating for 2-3 months have obviously grown taller, and some children who have done well are ten centimeters bigger. The joy of parents is beyond words.
Parents need to grasp a key point, that is, emotion and body will always be one, whether they are themselves or children, they will never have emotions for no reason.
Children aged four or five always lose their temper and always like to talk back to adults. How should we educate them?
In fact, this problem should first understand the psychological development characteristics of children aged four or five, and then deal with it according to the situation.
For children aged 4-5, they have begun to enter a rebellious period. Rebellion at the age of five comes from an important era of Oedipus complex and Oedipus complex. If not handled properly, the parent-child relationship will have the Oedipus complex of adult children in the future.
What the 5-year-old children need most is to play games with adults and children of all ages, which can alleviate the rebellious psychology, otherwise the children and parents will be unwilling to talk, unable to concentrate in class, introverted and inferior.
During this period, they already have their own thinking ability and way of thinking, and they can judge things by themselves. If you want to describe something, you can express it according to its external characteristics and characteristics. You have your own analytical ability for external things. Words can be used well in language, and language is expressed according to its own psychological changes. You can distinguish some words well.
Children in this period are more sensitive. Tend to think like an adult. So avoid some inappropriate or unwilling language in front of children. Parents should grasp their children's psychological characteristics and give correct guidance.
Today's children grow faster and have different characteristics in different periods. 4-5 years old is a stage that needs attention. Everyone must master the psychological characteristics of children aged 4-5. During this period, parents should not only pay attention to their children's discipline, but also understand their psychology and help guide them. At ordinary times, children should also develop good living habits and eating habits, so that children can live a happy life.
It depends on the situation that the child loses his temper. If adults do something wrong, it is ok for children to vent. If you lose your temper, you must try to cure him.
I think so, too. It's best to ignore the child when he loses his temper! Ignore it and do what you have to do. Don't let a few people go up to coax him into losing his temper. It will be useless at any time.
Don't think that children are so young and have such a big temper. I want to treat him well, beat and scold him, he is half popular. He is distressed when he hits, and he is afraid that the child will have a bad temper if he doesn't hit. He really cried and lost his temper, so he was locked in the house. There is no danger in the house. Let him cry until he is exhausted and want to come out and stop crying. It will never happen again.
Children aged four or five always lose their temper and always like to talk back to adults. How should we educate them?
From Adler's individual psychology, the attribution of children's situation is a typical type of seizing power.
How to understand it psychologically?
Why do children like to lose their temper? According to Adler's individual psychology, man is a social man. If they are alone, they have no temper. Because they lost their temper, who can they show it to?