1. Educational experience is short.
In the family education environment, what parents do is the most important. Parents are children's mirrors, and children have strong imitation ability. Parents' words and deeds will exert a subtle influence on their children. Parents can be role models for children to learn all the time in their lives. How to take care of your own affairs, how to talk to people, how to treat friends, etc. These are all meaningful for children's education. In the practice of family education, I think the most successful education method is positive success strategy. Positive means include praise, encouragement, praise and praise, which is in line with human nature. That was when my child was in primary school 1 grade. I just started to have formal homework. After the children finish their homework, I always ask too much, the words are not good, and the place is too dirty. In a few days, the children's enthusiasm was gone, and I dragged my feet and didn't want to do it.
Later, my mother came to my house for a while. Seeing that I was always training my children, the old man said, "It's good for children to start studying after school and do their homework consciously. Don't always ask your child to be too tall. " From then on, I followed the old man's advice. The old man's approval kept the children in the good habit of doing their homework first after school.
Solving shortcomings can sometimes easily hurt children's self-esteem. Don't criticize your child in front of others, and don't praise your child for saying negative things in front of others. I have a deep understanding of this direction, and this is the way my father educates himself, which hurts my self-esteem.
At that time, if my father said I couldn't do it in front of others, I didn't show it, but I was very sad and rebellious, which caused my lack of confidence. This aspect may have a negative impact on children's life.
2. Short educational experience.
Family education is of great significance to everyone, not only for our own growth, but also for our children. Therefore, it is necessary for our younger generation to study and do a good job in family education. The first is to set a good example for children. Parents are their first teachers, so what parents are like and what children will be like to a great extent. My father is a good role model for my growth.
He is a retired soldier, and his perseverance and trustworthiness are his role models. It is actually very difficult for a person to give up smoking and drinking at the age of 40, but in order to give his children a good living environment, he gave up bad habits with strong perseverance. From him, I feel that I must have the perseverance and courage to overcome all kinds of difficulties. This is one of my family education experiences.
Secondly, we should give children a harmonious and warm living environment. Generally, children are sensitive and fragile. Things that adults think are trivial, such as quarreling, such as scolding children, may have a huge negative effect on children's psychology. When I was a child, my parents sometimes made a scene in front of me, which made me feel insecure. Later, they also noticed these things, and contradictions were sometimes resolved in a tolerant or better way. This is the second part of my family education experience.
Finally, to master the correct method, the above two points are the foundation, and the correct method is technology, and both are indispensable. Therefore, as parents, we should be good at learning and summarizing, and master how to build self-confidence for our children, how to encourage and criticize education correctly, and so on. Take a multi-pronged approach to form a joint force and let them do a good job in family education.
3. Short educational experience.
As a mother, I have been trying to provide a warm, harmonious, warm and safe home for my children, which plays a vital role in their physical and mental growth. First, in small classes in kindergarten, grandma always prepares Lele's meals in advance. When he comes home, she feeds Lele alone first, because he eats slowly and because he is afraid to find snacks when he is hungry. He also has a bad habit of eating while watching TV. At first, it was because he didn't like it. Watching TV is to distract him and make him forget that he is eating. Gradually, it is difficult for him to get rid of this habit. After entering the middle class, we invited Lele to have dinner with us at the same table, let him see how we adults eat, and tell him the disadvantages of watching TV while eating. Of course, this bad habit has been changed now. Occasionally, grandma didn't turn off the TV before eating, and he would take the initiative to turn off the TV, muttering "Don't watch TV while eating".
Second, it is very important to cultivate children's self-confidence. We should always encourage our children and believe that they have the ability to do things well.
Lele was not afraid of strangers since she was a child, and her mouth was sweet. Since he was over one year old, this little mouth has never stopped. His uncles, aunts, grandparents in the community all know him, and sometimes they can't see him when they go home. Letting people in the community follow his whereabouts is simply a red man in the community.
After entering kindergarten, I feel that he has become introverted. At first, all the children were doing radio exercises. He just stood there motionless, while the children were drawing, and he just sat there motionless. After a while, I found it more effective to encourage him than to reason with him. Just like at the end of last semester, I thanked Teacher Zhang and Teacher Yang for choosing him as the "Star Baby". After this honor, he is completely different from before, eating faster, willing to eat some meat dishes and trying his own things. I hope Lele will make persistent efforts in the future and strive for greater progress.
4. Short educational experience.
In early September, by chance, I learned about colorful sunshine education. Although I have only been in the group for a few days, I joined the group without hesitation in order to learn family education methods from Mr. Han more systematically. Although I have always paid close attention to family education and bought many related books to study, I have always felt that it is meaningless. You forget after reading it, and you can't apply what you have learned. My son grows up day by day and has more and more ideas. He can't obey me as before, which makes our relationship more and more tense. His father and I are in a hurry and don't know how to educate. Loose management, free children, strict management. He also has a strong antagonism, anxiety and helplessness ... He has studied courseware for more than a week and listened to several classes of parent-child communication. He thinks that Mr. Han's class is very operable and suitable for us. I also learn slowly and keep thinking and practicing as the teacher says. To sum up my experience:
1. Good parent-child relationship is the foundation of all family education methods. Without a good parent-child relationship, it is difficult to move.
I used to educate my son in the most traditional way, asking him to obey my arrangements and orders unconditionally, and not to object. Causing my son to either suppress crying or strongly confront me, both of which will hurt. After studying, I understand that I should treat him as a friend and treat him fairly, not unilaterally. The purpose of education is not to control him, but to make him grow better.
I used to think that the most important thing in educating children is to let them study hard, and there are few other moral and habit education.
Through family education and study, I understand that it is most important to cultivate children's various habits from an early age. Under reflection, in today's society, in the face of all kinds of people who do bad things, everyone will always say that they don't know how their parents educated them. Even if a person doesn't study well, there will naturally be a way suitable for him when he grows up, but if a person's conduct is bad, our parents are hard to blame. We can't leave a lot of wealth to our children, but I intend to leave my favorite child a good personality, moral character and a happy childhood, so that he can be happy all his life.
5. Short educational experience.
After listening to President Wu's lecture on family education, I benefited a lot. In particular, one example impressed me deeply. President Wu said that when the power engineering team set up cables in the deep mountains, it was extremely inconvenient to pull the cables from a mountain ridge to the opposite side because of the deep and dangerous ditch. Smart construction workers operate like this: fly a kite first and let it land on the opposite ridge. Then, gradually thicken the "kite line". When the kite string is thick enough to bear the weight of the cable, the cable is finally pulled smoothly.
This ingenious method is amazing, and its process is more intriguing. Imagine: If there is no ingenious process of "the kite line gradually thickens", can the thin kite line successfully pull the cable? Everyone knows that, of course not!
However, in the process of educating children, especially in the process of changing the poor students, many teachers and parents just ignore the ingenious process of "making the kite line thicker gradually", and the result is naturally counterproductive.
This reminds me of some of my own practices.
When I took this job for the first time, most of my classmates were not enthusiastic about learning, and more than half of the boys didn't hand in their homework for a long time ... I started by organizing students to run the relay race every morning to cultivate students' awareness of being the first. This awareness has been transferred to all aspects of study and life, and the class style has gradually improved. In view of the fact that students don't like learning, I will start with reading story books to make students love reading and learning. ...
In short, the solution is always more difficult than the reality. The premise is to pay enough love and patience.