As a father, you can't just have a career in your world; As a girl's father, you need to pay more attention to and care for your daughter-because this will determine whether your daughter looks at the world with inferiority or confidence. Dad's support will make her daughter more confident. Praise from my father is the most effective, and I often praise my daughter consciously.
For a daughter, just as love from her father is more precious than love from her mother, her father's praise can convince her more. At the same time, the affection between father and daughter will deepen little by little with his father's praise.
Girls like to hear her father say "I'm proud of you" and so on. At the same time, these words are also the source of girls' confidence.
The greatest wealth left by a father to his daughter-mate selection criteria, personality and temperament-China's father is often not good at expressing his feelings, especially when facing his daughter.
At this point, the American father did a good job. They often say to their daughters, "I love you!" " "I'm proud of you! "This, China's father really should learn from American father.
Of course, because of the different cultural backgrounds of the two countries, China's father often can't say things like "I love you", but he will praise his daughter, such as "You are great!" "Dad is proud of you!" ..... Should be able to say it!
Therefore, under the premise of paying more attention to girls, fathers should find more such "love words" to close their feelings with their daughters, so that the idea that "when a daughter is older, she will gradually alienate her father" will gradually disappear automatically.
Whether your daughter is confident or inferior depends on her father's concern. Her father's encouragement is much more inspiring than her mother's.
Whether the relationship between father and daughter is harmonious or not determines the strength of girls' happiness; The father's most important educational task is to give his daughter more positive comments and affirmation, and more care!
The father is the person who decides the girl's future life, and his educational attitude affects and shapes her life! Let your daughter feel your love.
Daughter's mate selection criteria.
Father is the first man his daughter met. Because he is in this important position, he can set a male standard for his daughter, which is more authoritative than anyone else.
Girls often want other boys to treat her like their fathers treat them.
In the process of getting along with her daughter, her father made her understand the depth and breadth, honor and justice, value and significance of men. When the father sincerely faces his daughter and truly shows his manly temperament, the girl will learn to respect men and treat them equally.
At the same time, they will learn to favor men who respect her and treat her equally, and avoid men who are vulnerable to intimidation, violence and abuse. Perhaps this is just the old saying: "When a daughter grows up, marrying her husband is just like marrying her father."
An adult woman wrote in her diary: Father is my standard to measure men. My father is the cutest, most desirable, most respectable, most responsible and most educated-he is the greatest man I know.
I hope my future partner can be as great as my father. For girls, the father's influence is enormous, but whether this influence is positive or negative often depends on the father himself.
On the girl's life path, her father can guide her to have a correct understanding of men; It is also possible to mislead her and make her confused and at a loss when getting along with men. For the adult woman above, she will choose a man who is similar to her father. What does this mean?
This at least shows that this father is successful, and his father has given her an example of a responsible and strong man, so that she will not get lost in the male world.
In addition, in the process of getting along with her daughter, her father also taught her how to get along with others, more accurately, with the opposite sex. The influence of father on his daughter's femininity. Femininity is very important to a woman.
Although femininity is constantly shaped in a person's life, the communication between a girl and her father at an early age will promote or hinder the development of this temperament. If dad appreciates his daughter's femininity, for example, when her daughter looks at dad, dad can respond with smiling eyes; If a daughter's new hairstyle, new clothes or new shoes are praised by her father, then her femininity will be greatly encouraged.
Daughter's self-awareness of gender is greatly influenced by her father's reaction to her. A father will have a great influence on his daughter's character and happiness in life. So, how to be a good father to a girl? A father should spend as much time with his daughter as possible.
The father is often the busiest role in the family, but the father must have the idea that the growth of his daughter is more important than his career. Therefore, no matter how busy a father is, he should spend some time with his daughter.
Fathers are more likely to bring their daughters a sense of security, which is very necessary in her growth. If a daughter lacks this sense of security from an early age, she will continue to look for a "father" in her future interpersonal relationship. Puppy love and credulity are obvious shortcomings.
An adult daughter described the scene with her father affectionately: "When I was young, my father often thought of some good things to kill time, such as collecting stamps and coins, so that I could work with him." On the one hand, it is to cultivate my interest; On the other hand, it also created opportunities for our father and daughter to be together. "
In fact, the girl wants her father to accompany her, not to play games with her. She just wants her father to pay attention to her and make her psychologically satisfied.